I'm 56 and have been married to the same beautiful sexy woman for 32 years. I've always had a more powerful sex drive than my wife, and could have sex or masturbate 4 or 5 times a day when I was in my teens or twenties. For all the males bragging on this thread, that's youth, you're not special. Sorry. Just as women go through changes with youth, child bearing, peri-menopausal, menopausal and so on stages, so do men. Over time we find we can't sprout wood at the mere fleeting sight of forbidden female flesh. Firm hard erections are available, but aren't always necessarily available at that instantaneous drop of a hat (or skirt or blouse or panties). Lovemaking is still great, one simply adjusts for a half century on the planet's wear and tear. We're generally healthy and fit, but I have heart disease and diabetes and she has heart disease also. We're very active, and I use Cialis intermittently to give that little boost. But that's not the issue, we've found that setting everything else aside, having privacy, and just enjoying each other is a HUGE sexual enhancement. We went to a coastal inn just to get away. I brought the TooTimid toys and we had some wine in this large and romantic room with a double bath jaccuzi overlooking the water. After some wine and flirting (yes, those married 32 years can still flirt), we decided to take the deck of cards that were in the room and play a sexual favor game of blackjack. Surprise, it wasn't a gambling deck, but an deck of trivia questions from TV shows in the 60's. No worries, my wife suggested we adjust the rules so the person winning could ask the loser to do something sexual to themselves or the the winner for 2 minutes, and then play a new round. This led to more than a few unspoken fantasies being acted out, a liberal extension on certain acts where the time limit was concerned, and a smoking hot lovemaking session with ebbs and flows going all afternoon. My erection and orgasms (as well as her orgasms) were never an issue. It was spontaneous, erotic, and very addicting. I cannot wait for our next get away, and I can tell my wife has her own set of plans. All this came about from flexibility and no rushed agenda about how to please the one you love. Take away the statistics of orgasm counting and time fixation, and middle aged sex done well is better than youth sex on a schedule and count. I'm so fortunate to be married to a sweet, fine, loving and generous woman.