Wow! First of all, THANK YOU GUYS! That was a ton of information Howard! That's awesome and I appreciate it. Lets see here. Many of your points were right, I was brought up in such a strict Christian home that when my mother saw kissing on the TV she turned the channel...I know, weird!!! Anyway, I have been with my bf since Jan 07...We didn't have sex until July 07, and we only just started swapping oral recently. He has however been giving me stimulation with is fingers since about April/May. What can I say, I was a bit shy to do oral or let him do it either. So yes, I suppose that reflects me not truly being comfortable with him or even myself. Howard you are also correct about me masturbating in specific ways, but even then it takes ME forever to get to orgasm. Ive tried to train my body to come to orgasm differently, and more easily, but I guess I need to work more on that... I will definitely try some of the things you mentioned and let you know how it goes!!! Come to think of it, I think part of the reason its so hard is because we are sort of long distance now. It didn't start that way, but we both moved. Now we see each other only a few times a month and since I KNOW there will be sex involved maybe I'm subconsciously stressing myself over it??? I don't know. I will work on it and see how it goes!!! Thanks a million!