Not sure where I should post this, so please re-direct me if I'm in the wrong forum. I recently found out that my DH had signed up to be a member of a forum that has risque pics of women. It's not so much that I mind, but that he didn't tell me. When I confronted him, he lied and told me that he had to sign up for that forum for the contests (DH is into sci-fi and enters contests). Granted, that's ok. But when I asked him if he clicked on the sub-forum called "Babes" he denied it. But after a long discussion, he finally admitted to browsing through the pics. Again, I have no prob. It's the lying that hurts me. So after much discussion, he told me that he did get sexually turned on, but it was not because of the women but because of the poses. He said that he wasn't attracted to the women, just turned on in general. Oh another thing, I asked him how often he's been visiting that particular forum, and he said just once when he signed up. I find that hard to believe. If he'll lie to me about looking at those pics, I think he'd lied to me about how many times he's visited that forum. So I told him that his account said that his last visit was back in December, and he seemed baffled. He kept telling me that he's only signed in once back when he joined in Oct. 2006. Anyway I really don't know. Oh it gets better. When we both go to that site together and try to sign in, he has trouble remembering the passoword. But how can that be since it said that his last sign in was Dec. 18, 2007. Anyway, he requested for a new password and finally got in. I dont know if it's all for show or anything. He did admit to me several things during our discussion: 1. After much denial of ever visiting that particular board with the risque pics of women, he finally admitted it. But he only said he visited it once since Oct. 2006. But his account said that his last login was Dec. 2007. 2. He did get sexually turned on, but that was it. He said he had no attraction toward the women. Just turned on in general (by the poses, I guess). 3. He said that he denied everything because he was afraid that I might think he was attracted to those women. He's also afraid that I'll leave him (according to him, that's his biggest fear). 4. He also said that he felt guilty for looking at those pics because why would he need to since he's got a wife. 5. He said that in the process of entering his contests, some of the sites re-direct him to some porn sites. He said that he did look, but you had to pay which he didn't. I told him that my prob is all the lies, even when directly asked. I told him that I don't mind him looking at those pics and getting turned on. Hey, I want to be turned on too. So I told him that he could've told me about them and had me look at them too. BTW, we've been married 14 years (no children), and I thought there were no secrets. But I was wrong. Any advice? TIA!