Behace

I have been on this board for a while, never really got the courage to post anything until today. Just last night I was talking with my fiance and she mentioned to me that she has recently started to get annoyed with the way I try to initiate sex/foreplay. This isn't a post for me to vent that she shouldn't be getting mad about this because in all honesty in about the past 1 1/2 years I do really only have two ways to initiate, so I can understand why should would be annoyed. My two moves are when we are spooning, either when watching tv/movie, talking or just laying there I will start to kiss her neck and progress from there, or I will start rubbing her legs or back or what ever is a little sore and then start kissing that area and again progress from there. So what I'm asking is does anyone have any advise on how they initiate sex, or if you are a women what do you respond to the best when your partner is trying to initiate it? I greatly appreciate anyone who can help with this.

Shoop, I can’t claim to know you, your current bf, your ex or your friend. Nor can I say that I know everything there is to know about relationships, but I would like to throw my 2 cents in to hopefully help you out. First off, you are probably right when you say that your friend sees your ex as dream husband. If her ex really is as crazy as you say he is any male with children that show even a semblance of respect to a woman will look amazing. Second of all, you need to stop thinking you not getting fake breasts as the reason it did not work out with your ex. There had to be something deeper that was wrong with your relationship. Yes having him constantly nag you about your body hurt both you and your relationship with him but there had to be something more. Obviously there was something else missing, or some insecurity, for him or else he wouldn’t pick on your body. While you may only be able to think about him nagging you about your body there is most likely a number of other things you resented him for or else you would have done everything you could, short of change who you are and what you are, to keep him and maintain your relationship. Third, don’t confuse longing for the perfect parts of your past relationship as current love for your ex. While you still might harbor a small amount of love for him you also forget the things that you didn’t like about him. Whenever anyone looks back on a relationship or any other situation it is easier to remember the positives than it is the negatives, and it only gets easier with time. Fourth, if you have come home a number of times crying when you have been with your friend and you think that she/her daughter are a bad influence, why are you friends with her? Everyone wants friends but friends that hurt you, make you feel bad about yourself or don’t really care about you are worse than not having those friends at all. Friends should be the ones that offer you a shoulder to cry on, not the ones that cause you to cry. Personally I would rather have a small handful of true friends than 10 boat loads of friends that will talk badly about me behind my back. And finally, if you are truly happy with you current relationship then you shouldn’t let any of this bother you. Just continue to live and love and be happy. If anything I have said has crossed any lines then I apologize. Hopefully, at least, some of this has helped out, if not then it was just a psych/premed majors attempt to help.