OPL_Temptress

Tyger, that is awesome advice. Temptress

Well since for some of you this may be fantasy positions we can let you know from our experiance how it worked for us if we have tried it. If we haven't.. thanks for the idea, we'll be sure to let you know how it worked. And if it's really great we'll name it after you. Temptress

If you 3 invited Mikayla then you would have a quad going.. and I can say from experiance.. it's a wickedly wonderful way to spend a few hours. Temptress

I have to say that was truly inconsiderate of your hubby.... however in his defense men sometimes just don't realize what they are doing.. or what they are not doing in this case. I find myself feeling very fortunate when I hear stories such as yours. If one of teh hubbies happens to be an inconsiderate oaf, the wife is more than happy to show them up and make things right. Temptress

Val you may find Big to be rather involved with the group.... he loves to make new friends. Temptress

Well put Pappy..... I have missed welcoming a few new members, in that vein, to those i have missed welcome, this really is a great forum to gain insight and information. Temptress

Welcome to the board.... there are some great folks on here. I have to second Ginger... it really isn't about how many, but the experiances you have. Temptress

Hi Tori, This is a wonderful group.. we are fairly new here ourselves. Welcome. Temptress

Hi Jeff, Welcome to the forum. Temptress

Hi Jess... welcome to the group. You have found a great group here. Temptress

We have a lot written on the site ... we are currently going thru a rough patch.... but with time and everyone staying strong and working towards the end goal of a unified family I am sure we can move past it. Temptress

Hi Dezzee...... welcome to the group. I am new here myself, but everyone is very friendly . Temptress

Hi Maiden ... Welcome. This is a great board. Temptress

Hi KeeFee... welcome. I am new here myself. It look slike we have hooked up on a great board with a wonderful group of people. Temptress

Hi KeeFee... welcome. I am new here myself. It look slike we have hooked up on a great board with a wonderful group of people. Temptress

Just as a heads up.... there is a lot to read.. but it's alwats best to start at the beginning. Temptress

I won't answer for the men except to say that initially and still on rare occasions they do raise a minor territorial banner. It is usally withdrawn quickly and without much fanfare... COMMUNICATION is the key. As for the wives, I will leave my Goddess to answer on her own but I can say it is my depth of love for her that makes sharing my husband, my home, my children and my life possible. All that I have, am, and ever could or will be is hers. She is a mornning person.. I am not. So when we first moved in together she began to get up at 5 am to makes Fix's lunch and see him off to work as I had once. She always made him grand breakfast and lunches that were always a production. One day in an act of misplaced jealousy I told I felt like she was trying to "out do" me in the wife dept. She replied that in her eyes he was my husband, and I was sharing him with her, and when someone lets you share something of theirs you take better care of it that if it belonged to you. That made so very much sense to me...... After that it never bothered me in the least. I knew she was caring for the man I loved in way that showed her loved and respect for me. When I have the opportunity to see Goddess with either of the men I get this amazing feeling of comphersion like I can not explain. The only time I can say I have any feelign sof jealous or terratorialism is when I perceive a man or woman over-stepping where my 3 loves are concerned. Where the home is concerned... I was a stay at home mom for 15 years, I had always wanted a career but knew (or thought) it wouldn't happen until my kids were grown. Now Big and I have created a business together, I have left the house frau role behind and Goddess wears that mantel. I was glad as hell to hand over the home! And as for my kids.... well she is a cream puff and I'm a hard ass. She can be MUCH easier on my kids than I am in many aspects. I know that she loves and cares for them as a mother, because that is who she is. Temptress

Mikayla, Great questions.... we loved answering them ( answers are below)!! There was also another asked by another member about our memberships in reply to that..... I am currently the only one who is a member here, however I fully expect Big will be signing up shortly, he loves to chat. Goddess is the domestic deva of our household... I expect she will sign up at some point but generally prefers to read and reply through me. Fix is not very social and has poor writing skills so I doubt he will be joining anytime soon. Just as a bit of info.... Fix had a difficult childhood, and harbored some deep seated issues from that. In the fall of 05 he was part of the emergency responce crew and returned home to us after 9 weeks away. Several weeks later he suffered a nervous breakdown and was subsequently diagnosed with PTSD and depression and much of his childhood issues coupled with the PTSD have made life very difficult for him. He moved out of the house Thanksgiving week to concentrate on himself and to attend intensive therapy. We are hoping that by summertime he will be back home with us. (1)There are 4 of you - so, are you all equally married, or are there couples and you 'switch?' A short Bio… Fix and I legally married Dec 1990 just celebrated anniv # 17. Mr Big and The Laundry Goddess legally married August 1989. Goddess and I met July of 1999 while pregnant with child #4 for each. We became very close friends and in October 2005, we decided to take our relationship and that of our spouses into the realm of Polyamory. January 1 2006 the four us exchanged rings privately making lifelong commitments to each other and our families as a whole. (2) You have many children between you - do you know who fathered which ones? There are 10 children total, 4 born to Fix and I ( + my wedding gift from Fix, a then 3 yr old daughter) and 5 to Big and Goddess. Yes we are certain of their bio fathers, all were born before we blended families. Fix and I have 20, 13, 8, & 3 yr old girls and 15 yr old boy. Big and Goddess have two girls,15 and 5 , and 3 boys 13, 9 & 8 (3) Do you have lesbian activity with your other 'wife?' Yes indeed…. The men have actually made the statement that we are the primary relationship. As time goes on, Goddess and I begin to think they are correct. (4) Are there set sleeping arrangements? Yes there were…… 2 days with the spouse, and 2 with the spice and every Wednesday just us girls. It went on a rotating basis. Currently however I spend the majority of nights with Big and Goddess because Fix currently resides out of the home while he is in intensive therapy for PTSD and depression. (5) Do you have a favorite 'husband?' LOL….. no more than I have a favorite child. I think I can say the same for Goddess. However, what I can tell you is that each husband has his strengths and weakness’s and they play off each other very well. I get something very special and unique from each husband and truly find I have the best of both worlds. I do have a favorite wife however…. And she knows it. (6) What do you tell your kids? The 5 oldest, 20 down to 13 are all “in the know” we are not explicit with them, however they are aware that we love each other and are intimate with each other. The youngers have never been told anything specific however I can say we don’t hide… The hubbies kiss both wives in front of the children. The kids have dove into bed on Saturday mornings with the mixed parents and thought nothing of it. Now the one thing we have not come out about is the relationship between the women, but we are fairly certain none of the 5 olders are stupid. (7) The toy reviews, how are you going to do that? One couple at a time, one wife, both wives, etc? (could be interesting to have 2 women's reviews of an item at the same time) We are not certain how the reviews will done… I can tell you one toy used on me by each partner can feel completely different.. so I am certain we will be giving each toy a full workout <evil grin>.

We are fairly open about ourselves and our unique relationship. I woudl love to answer your question but I'm afraid you'll need to ask it in a different way.... what do you mean exactly by "How does that work" ? Temptress

Thans to everyone for the warm welcome.... we are looking forward to the opportunity to become aquainted with you all. This seems like a very friendly forum and I'm sure we'll enjoy the conversation and reveiws greatly. Temptress

Hello to everyone.... We fell across this wonderful site a few weeks ago and then signed up to be product reviewers and were accepted. I say we.... not becasue I have a mouse in my pocket, but because I am one of 4. I am part of a polyamorous quad which consists of 2 long term married couples (over 17 years each) and our total of 10 children, 9 still at home. The hubbies are both 40 and the wives 39... we have figured out that these are some of the best years of our lives. The 20's were great, but I think the upcoming years will be ever so much more wonderful. We all live together and have found this lovestyle to be the best of many worlds. Whoever said you can't have your cake and eat it too.... has never had desert at our house We have a website and blog that keeps us connected in the poly world and we are really looking forward to becomeing a part of this forum. Temptress et all