OPL Laundry Goddess

Firstly, I can address the noise issue... I find most people can control the noises they make. If the situation calls for it, even the most passionate and verbal lovers can be completely silent when needed. I do find that even when it feels good to moan and groan, the volume level can still be regulated. As far as toys go, you would be severly limited in a dorm, especially if you are in a roomate scenario. What I'd suggest is one of those sweet "lipstick" vibrators. Stored in the back of your make up bag or drawer, no one would have any idea what it was unless they actually took it out and inspected it. Also, hides nicely in your purse in the same manner, so you could travel easily with it. I wish you patience and luck in your exploration. Learning to know your body is a skill like any other. It takes time and trial, but it will give you great rewards! ~the laundry goddess

Really, I can offer up only based on my own experience. And here is the definitive answer... it all depends! LOL, I know that isn't really what you wanted to hear. From what I have read on the boards here, threesomes seem to be the big fantasy, often people are gearing up for a "once in a lifetime" or at the very least a trial run. Based on our living situation, threesomes are relatively common, so they don't have the "let's pull out all the stops" theatrics they once did. All our threesomes are FMF. We've had a few (and I mean very few) foursomes, but the guys don't dig those so much, so we operate mostly in twos and threes. I'd like to think everyone is satisfied every time there is a sexual experience, but we all know that doesn't always happen. Of course making sure everyone is satisfied (by their own definition) before we complete our love making is paramount. But where one of us may be multi-orgasmic, another may be happy with "one good one." Where one person is aching for some good old fashioned PIV, another is satisfied with some oral stimulation and just holding on to one of the other lovers. I think the main thing that may be different in our case is that our love making is exactly that. We passed the sheer shock factor of our unique situation years ago. Now we are just 2, 3, or 4 people who love each other expressing that love in a physical manner, not unlike any other people in long term relationships. Sometimes its hot and firey, other times its soft and loving. I can offer this - if you have to go "in search of" a partner for your threesome, you might as well put everything you got into it. That is one experience that may or may not come around again. Good luck finding what are looking for! ~the laundry goddess

I totally understand your position as I was there myself. I don't like labels and for the most part would say I identify as straight, but the heart can't control who it loves and the psyche doesn't always choose to whom its attracted. I remember the first time I was with Temptress. I was very nervous. I didn't know how she would react to having me be the aggressor. I would suggest that the first time be just the two of you, no toys. I think Mikayla is right to advise you concentrate on exploration and just getting to know each other's bodies. The thing about woman on woman sex, for me, is that I just love the process. I love the way Temptress feels, I love the way her skin responds to my touch, and I love the noises she makes as I excite her. There is, of course, the natural understanding of how her body works, as I have the same parts. So if it's something I like, then I use that on her, altering position or speed as she dictates by her responses. Toys can always be a part of your loving later on. While you are getting to know her physically, spend lots of time letting your fingers and lips wander all over her, focussing on her genitals. Women are shaped differently, so explore the folds and creviches she has. Spend time - LOTS - just being with her. The touches will arouse her, but don't rush to get her off. There will come a time when it's inevitable, thats when you close the deal. good luck with that, keep us posted on how it goes for you! ~ the laundry goddess

For all the reasons Howard suggested an bullet, I'd suggest an egg. A lot of them come in multi vibe (speeds and pulses) so you can really experiment with what feelings you like.

The name was a gift on the occassion that my loves first visited our home - kind of a long story. If you are interested, there is a lot of history and background on our website www.ourpolylife.org and if you go to the blog archive from the beginning forward, there is a blog called "Let's Talk about this Goddess Thing." I'll warn you, most of our blogs are really more like essays in length and depth. The short version is this... I love conquering the laundry. No stain can beat me, it's a personal challenge, and now a running family joke. ~TLG

As usual my Techno-savvy Temptress pokes her head in a new site long before the rest of us catch up... But just thought I'd pop in and wave hello while introducing myself as well to this new forum. Looking forward to getting to know you guys and enjoying the review process. The Laundry Goddess