Mr Big

Thats strange. From what I've been reading, I didn't think you owned any bathing suit tops. So much for that fantasy. Don't bother throwing it over here. It won't fit either of these women either. (< that is me gloating)

Heh heh - This is why I primarily search out polyamorous women even as friends. You never know where your heart will take you. If you get to attached to a mono, be prepared to live like one. If he's at least poly-friendly/curious as seems to be the case, you can see what develops. I hope you find a girl open to a triad instead of a V. I guess the magic question to ask yourself is, do you love him enough to give him veto power and live as a mono if he can't handle it? I have several poly friends that live mongamously because of that very reason. ~Big

Since on average, I have more intimate knowledge about the women on your list than anyone else, may I say that you have wonderful taste in women ~Big

ne·olo·gist (n) - A bullshiting wordsmith that is so convincing, that they can take a crowd with them down a path as it is being created. This is why "Polyamory" made the dictionary last year.

This is “borrowed” from another site. I love knowing all these little things about the folks I chat with myself and I doubt I’m the only one. All you have do is give us a list of little known, unusual, or "interesting" facts about yourself. Come on—its fun to let all your neuroses hang out! I’ll even go first. • I am polyamorous. We have lived as a cross coupled quad under the same roof for the last two years along with nine children. • Most people hate public speaking, but I totally thrive on it. I’m at my best in front of a crowd. • I can get totally consumed by and addicted to the oddest things – games, websites, exercise, types of food. It keeps me too scared to even try more addictive substances. • I prefer to take calculated risks over safe harbors especially in business or occupation. I haven’t had a boss since 1992 and that job only lasted three months. It unfortunately can lead to more of a feast or famine lifestyle. • After years of not showing any interest in musical skills, I started taking piano last year to surprise my wife with a “heartfelt” rendition of Billy Joel’s “She’s got a Way”. Don’t ask me how all of the kids kept my practicing a secret. • I am a water baby. I hate that I’ve never lived on the ocean. It calls to me. • I may be the most conservative (religion, politics, etc) poly you’ll ever meet. • Goddess and I have had ten additional kids through our homes over the years as foster parents. • I enjoy participating in triathlons but just wished I had the body to actually be competitive at it. • I want to hike the Appalachian Trail from end to end and am actually going to hike the first two states with my oldest son this summer. • I never have enjoyed watching sports. I seldom know what season it even is. • I am a math wiz. I lettered in math team in high school, I was the president of the club, and my college degree is in finance. • I’m about as handy as a brick. Fix is my exact opposite. • Goddess and I both were baptized as early teens. Normal in some churches, but not for Methodist where all of our friends were baptized as infants. Neither of our families were regular attendees so we had to find our faith on our own (independent of each other in those days). • I love summer because it’s NOT cold and dark most of the time. • I’m not opposed to alcohol. Goddess has just been underage, nursing, or pregnant most of my adult life and I never got a chance to develop much of a taste for it. • I’m way straight, but find I’m not in a position to be judgmental of others now that I’m poly. (The transgendered she-male with the strap-on with two women at the Bunny Ranch on HBO the other night still has me dazed and confused though). • I was conceived in Hawaii but have lived all my life in Georgia (within 20 miles of here since I was three; I’m 39 now) • I intend to live abroad extensively in future years. • I grow a beard for most winters but shave my head to a stubble during the summer months. Temptress hates when I wear it short so it stayed longer last summer. • My folks divorced when I was 17 and got back together when I was 20. I was the best man for the second wedding. • My wife, the Laundry Goddess named me after a character in one of her favorite shows, Sex in the City. I hope that my ongoing pursuits in real estate eventually make me worthy of the moniker.

Poly SouthEast is the Atlanta poly group. Not nearly the size I would expect from a city as big as ours, but I love being around a group of such open minded people. I've seen meet ups attract anywhere from 5-30 people at a time.

It sounds like you need to come and meet some of the local poly community since you're in our backyard. PSE gets together for coffee on the second Tuesday of each month. ~Big

Now please feel free to not just yadda, yadda your way through a thorough explanation there, Mikayla. If the girls want more time together, its easy enough to to pay enough attention to the guy, bring him to orgasm, and roll him over to go to sleep. Other times I feel like their favorite sex toy. I do enjoy when we focus on one person at a time though. Communication is key to try to meet everyones needs. The emotional ups and downs as you start down such a path might confuse you as well. I wrote a blog about six months into this polyamorous relationships. It seems relevant enough that I'm going to copy it here. 05.20.06 Threesomes In a recent survey, 95% of men admitted that their biggest sexual fantasy is two women at one time. After further research, the other 5% were found to be dead, lying, or deaf. When I start trying to explain to the women in my life why it was such a holy grail, I fall short. How do you explain the male sex drive to women? From puberty until, a young man tries to imagine finding a girl who might actually do “it” with him. Like all young men, a lack of any finesse, actual knowledge, or good pick-up lines proved a bit of a deterrent. After searching for years, some soft creature takes pity on you and you think you found heaven on earth. The idea that you might rate the company of two of these creatures simultaneously is unfathomable. Of course, the fantasy is always what the first time would be like. If it ever happens, it will be her idea and at her invitation. If it happens once and she approves, realize it will probably happen again. After a half dozen encounters or so, you realize there’s not really that many things you can do with two vaginas that you can’t do with just one. Any position you imagine in these fantasies can be done in two steps with just one lover. After the first few times, you are in for a few rude awakenings. You probably won’t remain the main attraction for long. At some point their cycles sync up, making life even more of a roller coaster. You’re also about to learn that you don’t know as much about making love to a woman as you thought you did. Remember the Seinfeld when Elaine tries to convert a guy to heterosexuality? She decides she doesn’t stand a chance because the other team has access to the equipment all the time and she only has access for an hour or so per week. Trust me, you don’t hold a candle. The most important thing you bring to bed at that point is a willingness to learn and a pen and paper for taking notes. I used a technique shown to me the other day and set a new personal record for partner pleasing. The rest of the guests at the B&B with the thin walls put us on the ‘Liars or Legends” bulletin board. I’m not sure if we’ll be invited back for free or banned from there forever. I tell you all this because the biggest reason most guys come down this path is the sexual expectations. Like most things in life, you probably built it up too much in your head. I came into the poly community this way but I have chosen to stay for much different reasons. A wise person learns from others experiences as well as his own. You may be on the outside considering coming in or inside thinking of leaving. As you make any decisions, know yourself, your options, and your reasons. Choose your path wisely. ~B

I've enjoyed reading all of the responses to this thread so far and wanted to join and add my two cents. It’s nice to find a group with a more open attitude about our choices in life. We've worked hard to bring people into our lives in the last two years that are more like-minded. You'll find us to be very transparent if you read through our site. It comes pretty easy hidden behind our secret identities. Feel free to ask any questions you'd like. I look forward to reading your blogs and previous post. ~Big 1/13/08