thanks everyone! I'd love to hear any more responses too though! K, I didn't think he was gay (he is very secure in his sexuality and I don't get that feeling)... I guess the only thing that's bothering me is that we had sex yesterday and he couldn't come. We ended up stopping after quite a while. That was in the morning. He'd JUST woken up and sex was really MY idea (I got home from working night shift)...and I find when it's more my idea than his...well that sometimes happens. And heck, sometimes I HAVE a hard time coming...so I really shouldn't feel badly that he couldn't...it's not my fault...i hope. Anyways, well I guess at some point last night while I was at work he decided to masturbate and came without me. Funny for a woman that doesn't bother me really (because women can really have multiple orgasms) but I feel a bit badly that he couldn't come with me and then came by himself...and now his URGE WON'T BE AS strong for me, yk? Heck, I'm not going to ask the guy to not masturbate, I'm just venting....etc..