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To me, sexy is an attitude. Looking and feeling sexy is all about how you carry yourself. I have found girls incredible sexy that weren't what I would call beautiful stictly because of their attitude.

Almost always in front of the computer. That's where all the free porn is.

Thank you everyone for your advice. With regards to the sex toys, we do use them together. In fact, everytime we have sex for that matter. With regards to asking to try new things, I think I need to work on my deliver and you have given me some good ideas. I really like the dream one. I have sort of used that before and I think I will perfect it and try it again. I would have to agree that Patience has never been one of my strong points. I always have tried to go for the wildest and kinkiest thing right off the get go. One thing I struggle with is that my fantasies are so far out there that its hard to eaze her into it. I know deep down that if we were able to "share" these together that it would put a lot of intmacy back into our relationship and bring us closer together. I should have read this website 8 years ago when we got together, because by now we would the masters of it. I feel like my sexlife has to start completely over from scratch and I am struggleing with where to start.

Here is a video of what I was referring too. http://video.xnxx.com/video25841/swollen_pussy It's a little extreme, but I think you will see the attraction or detraction.

Not to the extent that the pump makes it.

Has anyone ever used a pussy pump like the one linked below? http://www.sextoyfun.com/prod_info.php?a=s...;pnum=DJ0616-00 I was curious your results. Personally, I love the way they make the entire pussy look after pumping and they are supposed to pull all the blood to the surface causing the lips to swell and dramatically increasing sesitivity. I would think a swollen pussy would feel extremely good. The link below is a pussy that has been pumped and GOD, I love the look of it. Not sure if I am breaking the rules by posting this, but if I am, in advance let me appologize. http://www.kickasspussypump.com/guest/free...0808&ref=02

She's never really conveyed a fantasy to me. I know she has an affection for watching two women together but because of her religous upbringing, I know she feels extremely guilty about it. When ever we sit down to watch porn, which isn't frequently enough, and I ask her what kind of porn she wants to watch, she almost always says girl on girl. It's like her mind and body tell her one thing and her concious intervenes and tells her another. I'd like to go to a strip club with her and get her a lap dance. I know deep down inside she'd enjoy it more than she knows, but again that concious thing intervenes. I have tried to convey to her that fantasy is one thing and making it part of your lifestyle is something completely different but she has a hard time differentiating between the two. When she masterbates, which isn't nearly enough IMHO, she has this book that's in our sex toy drawer that illustrates every sex position imaginable. I would like to get a more risque magazine or two to keep in the drawer for her to masterbate to. Anybody have any ideas on a magazine that wouldn't freak her out but could open her mind to new possibilities?

I can honestly say it is more to do with her upbringing than her self image althought that might have something to do with it. She bought me lingerie (for her to wear) for 2006 christmas. A nice corset style red and black outfit. Very sexy. It took her 18 months to actually wear it. She was hot when she did. Her typical idea of sexy lingerie is matching bra and skimpy panties. Sexy lingerie to me is completely different. It's not as though our sex life is missionary only. Its just that it could be so much more. We have blindfolded each other and tied each other up in the past. Nothing too crazy though, although when we were first dating, she did tie me to the bed, blind fold me, and then masturbated at the other end of the bed. That was great. I think now it's just that our lives have become so crazy that she just doesn't think about being creative anymore. I wish she would come up with some ideas instead of me all the time. I think she needs to look at more porn.

Whenever we talk about sex, it seems to always turn into an argument or blame game. She gets defensive, I get mad that she's getting defensive. I am sure most of you have been there before.

Ok, first of all, what a great site. Finally an educational site that can actually help people with relationships and sexual issues. Second, my wife and I are 29. We have been together for 8 years and been married 4. We don't have any kids but we will probably within the next 12 months, god willing. Our sex life is incredibly stale. We have sex 4-5 times per month and if you were to watch it on film, it would be like watching reruns. It's the same exact thing time and time again. When it comes to trying things new, my wife is resistant and not interested. She always says something like "let's just get the normal stuff down first". Since we both end up with end results we want, I would say that we have that part down pretty good. My wife has no kinks, fetishes, fatnasies, etc..., at least that shes willing to share. Its almost as if in her mind she has what is considered sexually morally correct and acceptable and what is not. She won't do anything or admit to anything that she would be embarassed to tell her friends about. Not that she would, but it seems as if she wanted to, she could get their seal of approval. With me, I am completely the opposite. I think the most erotic aspect of fetishes and kinks, is that you get to share them only with your lover. I get thoroughly arroused by the thought of doing things in the bedroom that I would be ashamed about if other people knew. It's a "secret" that only we share. When it comes to me, with the exception of being with another man, I will do/try/attempt/participate in anything. I belive that my wifes closed mindednest comes from some of the good qualities that she has. They are good qualities almost to a detriment. For example, my wife can not lie. She's the female version of Jim Carey in "Liar, Liar" If some asked her, "have you ever made your husband wear your panties out in public", she would have to say yes, and this would generate humiliation for her, so therefore she won't do it. I think a lot of her lack of willingness to try new things also stems from her upbringing. She was raised in a very conservative Catholic family. Attended catholic schools all the way till high school. Her family never showed each other emotion, never told each other that they loved them, never ever ever talked about sex. In fact, my mother-in-law tried to sit down with my wife when she was 23 to have "the talk". Sorry mom, but a little late. My wife isn't a total prude though. She has more toys and dildo's than a normal woman should have, although she doesn't use them nearly enough. we have done some things that have bordered on the line of kinky but not in a long long time. She'll watch porn anytime I suggest it. My question to the group is how do I get her to open her mind a bit or create an environment in our relationship where we would feel more comfortable to get outside her comfort zone to try new things? Things I would love to try would be light to medium bondage and submission (yes , I allready read the article, that's how I found this site), have my wife tell me to wear her panties out to dinner, video taping and pictures, etc. I am not asker her to screw the dog here. A females perspective would be greatly appreciated as I have found that many women have been through similar experiences in the past. Thanks for all your imput and advice in advance.