Mytilene

Legally, one cannot give or receive consent for sexual intercourse when drunk. So, technically, yes, he did rape you. I am so, so sorry for you. If you feel like maybe we here in the forums can't do much to help you, or you are still confused, here is a phone number that will help, and give you someone who's job it is to help people through these sorts of situations to talk to. 1(800) 656-HOPE or 1(800) 656-4673 It can be hard to break off an abusive relationship when you really love someone, but please remember that you by yourself may not be able to help him with his problem. Both he, you, and most likely even your daughter, will need to talk to a professional in order to work out some of the hard emotional feelings that caused and were caused by these events. Most of all, you must remember that you are not at fault for any of this, and you do not have to be ashamed of yourself or your feelings. Peace and love to you, my dear. Edit: Wow, ha ha, I didn't realize how old this post was! xD Whoops! In any case, I'll leave this information up, just in case anyone else ever needs it.

Oh, really? Ha ha! I might order it later, then! What a nice surprise!

Everyone's so welcoming. Thanks everyone!

My bullet's in the mail, I'm so excited~<3 Nope, no penetration. Both myself and my girlfriend are both virgins, actually; she's a bit autistic, and so has issues with physical intimacy because she very easily gets overloaded by physical sensation (and not in a good way). She takes a while to get used to new types of physical sensation. I'd be willing to maybe experiment with a slim vibrator. The free G-spot one actually looks really tempting- I logged on today and went "Damn! I should have waited to place my order!!" Ha ha- oh well, better luck next time! And Linda- I'm sorry for your loss. I'm happy you seem to be recovering well, though.

I don't want a Real Cyberskin or whatever it's called. Eugh. It's creepy enough thinking about having something that LOOKS like a man's dick inside me. >_o Jelly might be OK, but I think, hmm, what was it? "Soft plastic"? That might work.

Hi, Mikayla, thanks for being so welcoming! Mm, yes, I am not-completely-straight. As for penetration stuff, I'm not 100% sure (never tried it), but I don't really want to start off with it, in any case, so I think clit stimulation is probably the place to start. I did talk a lot with ToyQueen earlier, and she gave me a few tips- in fact, I just finished ordering the My First Bullet (3-7 days, aiee, I'm so anxious!). But I would still like to hear what you have to say because I am still a beginner, and this is good to know.

Hi, just letting people know that, as a virgin in the market for a first toy herself, I found this thread really helpful (the shower massager is LOVE! Have you ever used it on the massaging setting? It vibrates really nicely and is wonderful. I like that so much more than the single spray setting, because the single spray can sometimes get a little over-pressurized and it hurts. (Ha ha, the fire alarm went off halfway through writing this post.) Anyway, I just wanted to say, IMHO, losing your virginity by having "a real penis in your vagina" isn't the final word. For example, there will most likely never be a "real penis" in my vagina. However, I still look forward to losing my virginity to, hopefully, my current girlfriend. Whether or not you've lost your virginity depends solely on what you consider the qualifications for such. For the majority of people, this is penetration or phallic insertion, but it could also be, for example, the first time your partner brings you off. I think it's a little loosely up for interpretation. Thank you guys for making and continuing such a helpful topic!

Hi, I'm Mytilene. I've been thinking of buying my 1st vibrator/sex toy ever, so I wanted to get some advice from people who've used them. I put up a topic in the "Beginners Ask Questions Here!" subforum, but I suppose there's no harm in repeating my queries here. (And adding in a little bit of information about myself. ) So, my girlfriend and I are going to colleges in separate states. Aww. But it's ok because we both really care for each other and have kind of an official non-official relationship anyway, so we decided we'd like to at least try to work through the long distance thing, and deal with issues as they come up (you know, instead of just going 'seeya, that is just way too complicated'). Even though we both have decided to explore other relationships if we really need to, I'm not really that interested in doing so. I'm definitely more of a one-woman woman. Unfortunately, that decision has put me face to face with a long, LOOONG dry spell! So I wanted to invest in something that would help me out. This would be my first sex toy, and I looked on the site for some non-threatening, simple, inexpensive toys suggested for beginners. The three I really like are the Velvet Touch, the My First Bullet, and the Vibe Me. I like them because they're small, discreet (I AM sharing a dorm!), and don't look too complicated or scary! If anyone has experience with these three, I'd like to hear about it; or, if anyone has anything else to suggest, I'd like to hear about that, also! I'm also a bit nervous about the shipping. Like, when they say "discreet shipping," how discreet do they really mean? This thing has to go through my college's Mail Hut!! If any of you have First Purchase stories to tell, too, I'd really appreciate hearing them! Thank you so much! -Mytilene

Hi... Um, I'm Mytilene, and I've been considering buying my first vibrator since my girlfriend is going to college in a different state, and I'm really not the type to sleep around. I've been looking at this site's beginner vibrators, a lot of the really simple, inexpensive ones like the Vibe Me, My First Bullet, and the Velvet Touch; I was wondering if some of the women on here could suggest other good starter vibes, or what their experiences with those three have been. Also, when they talk about "discreet shipping," how discreet is discreet? I mean, this box is going to have to go through my college's Mail Hut. If any of the women (or men, I guess) have stories about their first purchase that could help me feel less embarrassed or nervous, I'd really appreciate that, too! Thanks, Mytilene