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    in Dating and Relationships

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    On 3/30/2018 at 8:37 PM, square said:

    I think this was a post I was going to respond to.  How did the original question go?  I didn't really have a good response, but something distantly related.

    I don’t remember. :)  I wish I could remember. 😕 

  5. How important is it that your partner sees you as a sexual person?

    in Marriage and Committed Relationships

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    1 minute ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said:

    You don't sound weird at all, you sound perfectly normal to me.

    It's very hard to work on yourself in counseling, so without me even knowing you I can say that you rock for that, seriously.

    If you'd like to be a broken record more privately then on this forum, feel free to contact me through a DM. I don't mind broken records, and love helping people, because I can and want to.

    Thanks! Yeah, I feel embarrassed letting stuff out here haha. There’s a lot more that I am not sharing. 

  7. How important is it that your partner sees you as a sexual person?

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    6 minutes ago, Erosattheback said:

    I’ve had a number of people make assumptions of misread my sexual orientation. When that happens I will take my time to see if it is a prejustice or a simple mistake. If people have problems with who I am then I walk away. 

    Kama you say you are a sexual person. Good for you! I understand that. I often call myself very sexual. I love the sexy side of me. Anyone around me knows how sexual I am and can be. If they can’t handle it, screw them. I’ve had a few people try to tell me what my sexual orientation is, straight, gay, bi, pan, etc. At this point I don’t identify with the labels of others. I like sex, being sexual, and having sex with those I find attractive. 

    My true friends don’t give a flying F... about my sexual orientation or who I choose to be sexual with. I do have a couple friends that I play with. There has never been a problem with being friends and sex with thes couple of friends. Other friends, there is no way I’d be sexual with. It would be to difficult. And others there is no sexual attraction.

    Thanks for the reply.  Maybe my social circle is different, but I don’t feel sexual attraction to my friends?

    Someone once told me that I am a demisexual, but I don’t relate to that at all.  I can feel sexual attraction on the spot.

    I think real friends don’t care either. When I was exploring bisexuality, one couple (friends only) was pushing me to decide if I like men or women more.  The fact is that I like men. 

    I am hesitant to share all of the weird experiences I have had. It doesn’t make sense sometimes. 

  8. How important is it that your partner sees you as a sexual person?

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    12 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said:

    I personally just see where things go, fighting sexual urges because your friendship wouldn't survive says something about that friendship. If the sex thing is just a one time thing, that doesn't affect the friendship for me. Sometimes it's fun to fuck someone you love and care for, sometimes it's not.

    True. Everyone is different. 

    The good news is that my sex partners see me as sexual. So, it’s all good. 

  10. How important is it that your partner sees you as a sexual person?

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    15 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said:

    I would not, and if someone who thinks he is my friend regardless of how long they have had that status should think it is okay to judge me based on my sexual preferences he can bloody well F*** off :)

    I am me, if you don't like that, leave me alone.

    It’s weird to me how my own “friends” (at least they said they were) misjudged me the most. They did make sexual advances towards me, but I rejected them.

     

    maybe people say things out of spite.

  11. My son's involved with dating tours. Should I stop him?

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    34 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said:

    What exactly is the issue with being Gay? I can understand you can't really understand the feelings as you are perhaps "straightforward" heterosexual.

    As Kama said, being gay is something that is pretty much determined at birth, and not influenced by "associating" with someone who is in fact gay. If sexuality were dependent on the main influence of the dominantly present sexuality being Gay would in fact not exist as most Gay people that are of the age to be able to have children, are usually the product of mostly heterosexual couples (unless of course for example one of your parents is gay but has never dared to come out about it, which is not an accusation or me trying to offend you, but it does make you think, no?).

    So, if this uncle is a good person, you know the none abusive kind that loves your son because he is in fact the most awesome (and fabulous) uncle in the world to your kid, I would think you should count your blessings and embrace the love he feels for your son and the love your son has for him, as a relative.

    I myself am pan-sexual, have a gay sister, a transgender/genderfluid daughter and great parents that are not gay and have been married for over 40 years, being open minded and always teach myself and my sister to love people for who they are and not think badly of other people's decisions, sexuality or anything else they do in their life as long as they do not cause intentional harm to anyone.

    This is also what I teach my kids, and I think if the world at large would stop fearing what they don't understand, and start learning and embracing the differences amongst people we could all actually be a lot happier then just being cattle (or sheep) following a flock of indoctrinated more then 2000 year old strange religious upbringing.

    But guess what! If you don't agree with me that's OK too!

    Love this response. There’s nothing wrong with being gay or hanging around a good gay person. 

    One of my best friends is a gay man, and he has been incredibly empathetic, loyal and respectful to me-even when I was at my worst. 

    People cant help their sexual orientation at the end of the day. 

  13. How important is it that your partner sees you as a sexual person?

    in Marriage and Committed Relationships

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    I don’t know if I am being too sensitive, but I can’t to date someone who misunderstands my sexuality. I see myself as very sexual, and the best partners were able to recognize my enthusiasm. What turns me on is when they compliment me!  

     

    The worst partners were the ones who didn’t get me and would jump to conclusions, like assuming that someone is a virgin at 32 when they’re experienced.  Or, assuming that a woman is willing to sleep with anything when she’s picky.  I am direct with partners. I find that no matter how much you explain something to someone, they don’t always understand. 

     

     People say  ignore someone’s dumb comment, but these comments kill any developing sexual attraction I have for a person. It’s sad when someone doesn’t realize that their comment is anti-seductive. 

    Is anyone similar? Would you date someone who stuck their foot in their mouth about your sexuality? 

  15. Longest Blowjob You Have Given?

    in Oral Sex Discussion

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    On 5/4/2018 at 2:30 PM, scubadiv1951 said:

     I also love eating pussy and can go forever, and still want more . A half an hr. is not anything extreme  for me. Wife loves it to the inth degree. Not to criticize women at all , but I do believe giving blow jobs is kind of an art.  it's something that a lot  women have limited knowledge of, don't really enjoy doing. I can remember in my younger day's , women I dated avoided it much of the time. Many thought it was gross or didn't want to go down there. Not until I met my wife, did this change for me. But it took a little work to convince her it wasn't gross . She learned very quickly and really loves sucking my cock now.  She can make it last , but sometimes I can't hold back , when she's doing such a good job, and I'm exceptionally horny and can't wait to blow my load !!  I love it when I she can't wait to suck on me. I no sooner finish licking her pussy and shes ready to go !! and go she does !!!

    I wonder if this is a generational thing. I could be wrong. I think it’s interesting to compare the views on oral sex. 

  18. Women That Like Performing Oral Sex

    in Oral Sex Discussion

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    7 minutes ago, Kinkster said:

    Well.....my wife would rather have me do oral on her, or oral, or oral. :) She likes oral...and cums better from oral than anything.

    We still have good old fashioned vaginal sex too, somewhere between all the oral. It's a lot more fun, when she is into it, and fucks me back....if you know what I mean. Laying there doing nothing, would be a drag no?

     

    Ah, I get what you mean. This is why I need vaginal sex to be just right. If it doesn’t feel right, it will show on my face.   My boyfriend is the best penetration partner I had, so it’s all good. ;) 

  21. Women That Like Performing Oral Sex

    in Oral Sex Discussion

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    12 hours ago, Kinkster said:

    Oh yeah!

    When she does that, and starts cumming, so do I! She starts cumming even harder when I start cumming, and she starts shaking all over and drooling my cum out of her mouth all over her tits.....WOW! 

    Love it! 

    I am like this too. This is hard to explain to people, who don’t understand that someone can get extreme pleasure from getting someone off. 

    I would be curious to meet more women like me. I dont know where to find them? I am glad that my boyfriend accepts my sexual preferences, so that matters.  

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  23. Women That Like Performing Oral Sex

    in Oral Sex Discussion

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    8 hours ago, Kinkster said:

    I've never changed. I have always loved eating my wife's pussy, and still do. Before sex, during sex, after sex....all the time. I do it almost everytime we get in a pile! ;)

    Her's changed though. At first, no way would she do oral on me. Then she would, but no way she would let me cum in her mouth. And then, she decided to give it a go in a hot and horny moment. Must not of been so bad, since she started doing it all the time. Before sex, after sex, and all the time! 

     

    :)

    Thanks for the reply! Sounds like you both have a great connection. 

  24. Women That Like Performing Oral Sex

    in Oral Sex Discussion

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    I have a question for both men and women who prefer giving oral sex more than other sexual acts. Do you think your preference will change over time, where you start preferring a different act? 

     I have been this way for 23 years, ever since I was 12.  The more people try to change me, the more stubborn I am. :) 

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