Mikayla, My other 3 have unfortuantly already learned how to deal with the tragedy of the sudden loss of a loved one. 3 years ago, my son was shot and killed in a random act of violence on his 13th birthday. It was quite possibly one of the single hardest things I have ever had to deal with. I never went through grief counceling, and fought the legal system to bring is killer to justice, this is a battle I still fight on a day to day basis, and rest assured I will not stop until he is behind bars where he belongs. I always allow the girls to talk about their feelings, and fears and concerns regarding my sons death and the arrival of their younger sister, but I wont allow them to dwell on the bad, I always remind them to look at the good parts, I remind them how much fun they had with their brother, and how they get to help their new sister learn important things, like walking, talking, and riding a bike LOL I feel that communication is a HUGE factor in any realtionship, regardless of whether it be with another adult or a child. I do plan on suing the father for support, i think its the least he can do, we are in this mess together, he helped make her, he can help support her. As for the abortion, no I simply couldn't do it, She deserves the same chance as the others did, and I really couldnt live with myself knowing in my heart that the last thing she would know in her young life would be the agony of being ripped to pieces or left lying on a table to die. I do believe abortions have their place and time, but it simply wasnt an option for me. I think the biggest factor in my choice was thinking, " what if i have it done, and shes normal? " I just couldnt live with that guilt. Crazy1, yes I have decided on a name for her. It is Elizabeth Rose I was looking at names online one day, and they just kinda jumped out at me, and have stuck ever since. I think the name Elizabeth means " of god or from god" and Rose is just that a flower, so shes my flower from god.