thecatsfan

Both situations are horrid and an absolute and utter betrayal to your spouse. But I can see differences. Sleeping with prostitutes, IMO, is dangerous and wreckless. Even using protection, it is possible to contract STDs. And if you trust the prostitute because she said she doesn't have any, you are a fool. So, to me, sleeping with prostitutes is playing russian roulette with your health. But having a longterm affair is an emotional commitment to a woman outside of your marriage. This is emotional infidelity and it means that the man is seeking more than just sexual relief. This is far more than physical. In some situations, I think infidelity occurs even if there is not sex involved. Marriage is about more than sex. And if you invest yourself emotionally in someone of the opposite sex more than you do your spouse, this is infidelity. It happens frequently and I think it is just as dangerous to a marriage as cheating on a sexual level. So both of these types of cheating are completely despicable. And I don't think either ranks above the lowest act that could be comitted.

16 years together and we are still very happy. If she doesn't have time to do the dishes after dinner, I make sure that I do. If she doesn't have time to cook dinner, I make sure that I do. We have two beautiful pre-teen daughters who keep us extremely busy and on the go. I coach two softball teams for them. Marriage is a lot of teamwork, and without that teamwork, it would break down. Hopefully by your second marriage you will find that. Luckily for us we found it the first time. As to the original question, I will cheat. My wife is both. I fell in love with my wife the first time we danced. We were introduced by friends at a night club. We left together, although we did not go home together. We had our first planned date the very next day, we were engaged 19 days later, and we have been together ever since. From the moment I saw her, I thought she was hot! The hottest woman I had ever dated. Now, in the interest of honesty, I have dated women who had more perfect bodies and were probably considered more physically attractive in general. But that isn't everything it takes to be hot. Hot requires personailty as well. My wife was the most down to earth and genuine woman I had ever met. No games, no competitions. She just wanted honest love, and so did I. And the fact that I found her very physically attractive added to that package. So, I can honestly say that she was both things to me from the beginning. Does that mean she is always both things? Definitely not! We have lots of things to work on. I wish she was less self-conscious about her appearance. She is my wife and the only woman I plan to be with, but she still feels unhappy about her appearance. Having children has left certain body parts less than perfect. She can still get me to salute (if you know my meaning), just by walking by in her underwear, and I love every inch of her, but she wishes she looked better. But my wife is both of those things to me, and I don’t think she could have been either without the other.

It took my wife many years to enjoy anal. Now she enjoys it a lot. We have anal intercourse about once per month, but then again we only have regular intercourse about once per week, so that makes it fairly frequent. My wife used to get diarhea and similar problems afterwards. Something that helped a lot is having me wear a condom. Yes, a lot of lube gets shoved up there during the act, but not adding the ejaculate seems to have hepled. She certainly is a lot happier about the after effects when I wear a condom. I certainly don't mind wearing the condom if it means a happier wife who enjoys anal sex, so I readily volunteer to wear them. I also have a very large prince albert piercing which tend to get a little dirty without a condom, so that just helps things stay cleaner all around. Anyway, hope that helps. As for the soreness, try using more lube. Especially when you are new to anal, it's difficult to have enough lube. When it seems like too much, it might be enough. Practice will help with relaxation, which will also reduce soreness. Also, it may be easier for you to relax and accept anal if you are super aroused - as funny as that may sound. My wife likes anal best if she has already had an orgasm or is very close to orgasm. If my wife gets in the right mood, and the right position to relax but is very aroused, she can take my full penetration sometimes without hesitation, and I can thrust as hard as possible as much as I want, and she will enjoy it. In fact, my wife almost always has an orgasm during anal intercourse, with no other stimulation. Hope this helps. Have your husband try the condom and see if that doesn't help.

My wife receives oral almost 100% of the time that we have any kind of sex at all. And when my wife receives oral, it is always to the point of completion unless she has been drinking too much to achieve orgasm. Frequently, I will perform oral sex on her spontaneously without being asked, and without asking for or receiving anything in return. I love giving to her and making her happy. When we have sex, I will almost always give her an orgasm orally before we have intercourse. (I would give her more, but she gets too sensitive after one orgasm for me to continue oral stimulation). Then she will have another orgasm from intercourse. It’s rare for my wife not to have multiple orgasms when we have sex. Some days, I will give her oral sex 2 or 3 times over the course of the day. She receives oral sex a minimum of several times per week. Some weeks she may receive oral 8 or 10 times. And I will give her oral under any conditions. I don’t care if she is menstruating, if we have been camping and she hasn’t showered for 3 days, or if we have already had sex. I am always willing to give her oral sex. As for me, well, I get oral sex a lot less often. There are two types of oral that I receive: brief oral as part of foreplay before intercourse which does not reach orgasm, and oral sex to completion. I receive oral as foreplay about 50% to 60% of the time that we have sex, but it is brief and again I am not allowed to acheive orgasm. We have sex once or twice per week. As for oral to completion, I probably receive that about once every 6 to 8 weeks. So, I get oral sex as foreplay without orgasm maybe once per week, and maybe 6 or 7 times per year I get oral sex to completion. I don't remember ever having had oral sex twice in the same day. And I am not allowed to receive oral if I have already penetrated her as part of other sex activity – even if she has already reached multiple orgasms and is ready to finish but I have not yet acheived orgasm. Here is the truly frustrating part. I have to ask, almost beg, for her to give me oral sex to orgasm. She claims to enjoy it, and says she wants to do it, but she NEVER initiates it. If I don’t ask for it, it will not happen. And I have to ask repeatedly, several times over a week, and then it will finally happen. Eventually, this will get old, and 2 or 3 times per year, we will have a conversation about me begging for oral sex. I will tell her that I am frustrated because she never ever initiates it and that I have to beg for it. We both agree that I am very giving and frequently surprise her with spontaneous oral sex. I am also very romantic. I frequently buy her flowers for no reason, and surprise her with other romantic tokesn. In fact, she full acknowledges the problem and agrees with me completely. Then, after our discussion, over the course of the next two weeks, completely predictably, I will get two spontaneous blowjobs, and then right back into the same old broken routine. There are two reasons I spontaneously offer to give her oral sex. First, I love to do it. I get off on it. It makes me incredibly horny and I just absolutely love the feeling and satisfaction I get from giving her such incredible pleasure. But another reason for doing it so spontaneously is the hope that someday she will return the favor and spontaneously surprise me with oral sex. But it never happens. In fact, I end up walking around with a hard on for several hours after giving her oral sex, and because she is nicely satisfied, sex is now the last thing on her mind.