I like to be in control and am a bit on the dom side. And I've explored a little bit with whips, collar/leash, cuffs, restraints, etc...But not into the hardcore s&m stuff. My sub will do whatever I want that pleases me. It sort of is role playing and in a way not, because once I get going this whole dominatrix bitchy side just comes out of me. And my subs enjoy it and like when I punish them and it just makes things hotter.