Thanks danceinthesheets, yes she is over 50. I'm 64 and she is 62. She is WELL PAST menopause. You're also right that she has no problem achieving orgasms and actually squirts a couple times a week. The only afteraffect from menopause I guess you could call it is that she is dry an awful lot. She can be so turned on that she is almost jumping out of her skin but she is still dry. Neither of us understands it. I have to use my tongue and give her her first orgasm (I know it's tough but somebody has to do it) before I can enter her or it's like sandpaper inside her. Sometimes even after her first orgasm she is still dry as a bone and I have to use lube. I hate lube except when we do anal because I haven't found one yet that tastes decent.
As far as the frequent ED it bothers me a lot more than it bothers her. Sometimes I can cum twice a night, which ain't bad for a 64 year old with health issues, but other nights I can't get it up at all. My health insurance quit paying ANYTHING towards Viagra and I haven't had any success in growing a money tree in the back yard so that idea is out.