katens2002

Is that a shot at the rest of us curvy girls? I'm size 14/16 and my man has no complaints. "Chunky" girls are every bit as capable of pleasuring their lovers as skinny girls are.

Yeah, pretty much. He's six inches, top, when fully erect. More like 5 and a half. It's not like he's incredibly tiny, but he's not exactly big either.

I want to second everything everyone else just said, but I'd like to add something else - if my guy said that to me he'd get a slap across the face at the very least. If he wants you to start being "sexy" (whatever his definition is) he should return the favor - and being a jerk isn't something I exactly find a turn on. Hopefully he was just having a "I'm an idiot, I can't believe I just said that" day, but if he acts like this a lot you should reconsider your relationship. You deserve more respect than that!

One other thing - tell him to be willing to accept some dissapointment. It's not going to work right away, or the next several times after that either. It took me months, and I still have trouble sometimes. Tell him that if he really does want to give you pleasure, he should be willing to keep working at it even if he gets frustrated.

I can totally relate to that. One of my ex's actually broke up with me because he couldn't get me off. It took me years to figure out how to orgasm with someone else, and it's still really hard. My body knows exactly what it wants, where it wants, and when and how it wants it, and if anything gets messed up at all I'm just not going to orgasm. I was lucky enough to find a partner who didn't get too upset about it and was willing to learn what to do. Figure out exactly what you are doing when you get off yourself, and make him watch you do it or explain it in great detail. This requires a level of comfort that wasn't easy for me to achieve, but hopefully you can get there faster than I did. Tell him to resist the impulse to do what he thinks will work, or to improvise, or to do what worked on someone else. He needs to do EXACTLY what you tell him to!! You can work on changing it up later, but first you have to let your body get used to someone else doing what you usually do yourself.

Help!! My boyfriend is a wonderful, sweet, caring, completely inexperienced guy who is more than willing to learn anything I have to teach him. He is also a little... disproportionate. We have to buy XL condums, but his length doesn't match his girth. I've never been with a guy who was really huge so it isn't a total deal breaker with me, but I'd like to figure out how to compensate - like what positions or techniques will help. Sex isn't the most important thing in our relationship, and it's not like it's terrible, but it could definitely improve. Part of that is just practice (which we are both more than willing to do!), but practice doesn't help much if you are practicing the wrong techniques. Can anyone recomend anything?