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I wanted to reach out to you all for some advice. I'm in a 7 year relationship and counting. You'd think our sex life would've died down and I'd be asking for advice to spark it but it's not exactly the problem. We are VERY sexual... we keep it on edge and enjoy each other almost nightly. On dirtier of nights its handcuffs, ankle cuffs, whips, every position possible, in here and in there... fun fun fun we've done it. I love our sex life... but we want to keep pushing the boundaries.. any ideas on what to do?

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Wow, that sounds like you two have some fun!! Good for you!

Pushing boundaries is something my husband is very good at... he will read something or see something that gets him thinking, then he tells me about it and we discuss it for a while. Sometimes it might seem pretty wild to me at first, but I have learned I can trust him, so I think we've tried just about everything a man and woman can do to each other. When I met my husband, I was a hot and horny girl who had had a lot of good plain vanilla sex, and with my husband things started out pretty vanilla, but we've got kinkier and kinkier over the years. There is literally nothing I wouldn't let him do to me any more, I don't think... anyway, so far it's been a great adventure and I expect it will continue to be for years to come.

Our only firm boundary is fidelity, and exclusivity. Years ago we discussed bringing another person (a specific woman) into our bed. We were both curious, and I have to admit I was very attracted to her. I have never had sex with a woman, but watching girl-on-girl porn is sometimes a pretty hot turn-on for me, and we came close to bringing my friend into our bed. We eventually decided against it, because we learned from experienced swingers' advice that the emotional traps that one or the other of us might fall into were too risky for us. So we have stayed monogamous, and we're both happy this way.

One thing that has kept our monogamy spicy is role-play. I'll put on a dark wig, for example (I'm blonde), and pretend to be someone else, and he'll pretend he's someone else, too, and we get into these incredibly hot and heavy fuck-sessions, totally turning each other on by being someone else for a few hours.

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head over to a bondage site, and peruse the different toys they have, discuss with you SO how they should be used, what new uses, etc. My favorite thing to do, is read naughty bdsm stories, and come up with some ideas that I picked up from that!

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Tempature play can be fun, both hot and cold. Some wax play or liquid latex is an option. Try a sex swing if you have not. Standing restraints are interesting. These are just a few quick thoughts.

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