Members Danceinthesheets Posted September 19, 2020 Members Report Share Posted September 19, 2020 I wasn't sure where to put this topic but wanted to share some thoughts that some women have about achieving an orgasm...this is an excerpt of an article I read recently by Matilda Hill-Jenkins. She wrote: "When I am alone, my orgasms are uncomplicated, mind-blowing and guaranteed. When other people are involved they can be rare and overlooked. During sex, I think about it constantly; if it will happen, if the other person will care if it happens. Thinking about it like that sadly only makes climaxing even less likely, because my thoughts aren’t focused on any stimulation, just the anxious inner gabble. I sometimes feel that sex is so performative or linked to things I’ve seen in film that the sensations are difficult for me to get lost in. Which is why when I’m alone my orgasm is empowering and all for me. I care about me and I will make sure I come. A guy I was sleeping with once said to me (as I moved into a position which felt amazing for me): "If people could see what we looked like right now, they’d think we’d never had sex before." It’s frustrating that we are fed such an unrealistic, performative and glossy version of female masturbation and pleasure. When the reality is mundane and awkward and can look ridiculous. But it’s not about how it looks, it’s about how amazing it feels. Shuffling robotically against an old soft toy as a teenager, or humping a veiny purple piece of silicone is hardly good porno material. I feel extremely lucky to have so many wonderful, sex positive women in my life, and because of that I feel less alone in experiencing frustration around orgasms and female pleasure. .......any thoughts to share? 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members M1959P Posted September 19, 2020 Members Report Share Posted September 19, 2020 Well sure i think that can apply to men as well. Ive had some of my strongest orgasms alone. I can do or think or watch anything i want to add to the final outcum.😛 No interuptions from anyone. Had a gf years ago and we would masturbate together often and she always came way quicker than me. The reason she said was and i quote....its my pussy i know where and how long and how hard to put the pressure. And when you put it that way......well....of course. Pretty simple 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DewMan@1961 Posted September 19, 2020 Members Report Share Posted September 19, 2020 The only thing that is important to me is that the ladies that I have been with are always well pleased. I have never been with a woman that has not had a squirting orgasms over and over no matter what we both are doing. Fucking her pussy and or fucking her asshole or licking and sucking her sweet wet pussy lips and clit. And fingering her G - Spot. Keeps them Cumming back for more !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bigirlhaggen Posted October 7, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 7, 2020 On 9/19/2020 at 9:13 AM, Danceinthesheets said: I wasn't sure where to put this topic but wanted to share some thoughts that some women have about achieving an orgasm...this is an excerpt of an article I read recently by Matilda Hill-Jenkins. She wrote: "When I am alone, my orgasms are uncomplicated, mind-blowing and guaranteed. When other people are involved they can be rare and overlooked. During sex, I think about it constantly; if it will happen, if the other person will care if it happens. Thinking about it like that sadly only makes climaxing even less likely, because my thoughts aren’t focused on any stimulation, just the anxious inner gabble. I sometimes feel that sex is so performative or linked to things I’ve seen in film that the sensations are difficult for me to get lost in. Which is why when I’m alone my orgasm is empowering and all for me. I care about me and I will make sure I come. A guy I was sleeping with once said to me (as I moved into a position which felt amazing for me): "If people could see what we looked like right now, they’d think we’d never had sex before." It’s frustrating that we are fed such an unrealistic, performative and glossy version of female masturbation and pleasure. When the reality is mundane and awkward and can look ridiculous. But it’s not about how it looks, it’s about how amazing it feels. Shuffling robotically against an old soft toy as a teenager, or humping a veiny purple piece of silicone is hardly good porno material. I feel extremely lucky to have so many wonderful, sex positive women in my life, and because of that I feel less alone in experiencing frustration around orgasms and female pleasure. .......any thoughts to share? OMG yes this is an wonderful issue seriously cause like you said there's so many women out there that really don't know what a true orgasm is and that's definitely not exceptable to me cause so many of you guys don't care if we women achieve a orgasm or not as long as we give you the pleasure your looking for but I found that's exactly why so many of us girls experiment with each other because for many girls that's when they find out what a true orgasm is and how to enjoy them 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bigirlhaggen Posted October 7, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 7, 2020 Just now, Bigirlhaggen said: OMG yes this is an wonderful issue seriously cause like you said there's so many women out there that really don't know what a true orgasm is and that's definitely not exceptable to me cause so many of you guys don't care if we women achieve a orgasm or not as long as we give you the pleasure your looking for but I found that's exactly why so many of us girls experiment with each other because for many girls that's when they find out what a true orgasm is and how to enjoy them I have to say that I was so very blessed to have a mom that cared enough about me to ask me and actually show me exactly how to touch myself I learned so much from mutual masturbating with her 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DewMan@1961 Posted October 8, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 8, 2020 On 9/19/2020 at 3:57 PM, Babe said: I only have mind blowing orgasms when I'm actually being fucked. The guy I see long distance can get me off pretty well, but by myself... never enough. You and I need to get together , Babe mmmmmm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DewMan@1961 Posted October 8, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 8, 2020 16 hours ago, Bigirlhaggen said: OMG yes this is an wonderful issue seriously cause like you said there's so many women out there that really don't know what a true orgasm is and that's definitely not exceptable to me cause so many of you guys don't care if we women achieve a orgasm or not as long as we give you the pleasure your looking for but I found that's exactly why so many of us girls experiment with each other because for many girls that's when they find out what a true orgasm is and how to enjoy them I always make sure that the ladies are well satisfied. If you don't make them happy they won't be interested in you Cumming in them anymore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fun4her +me! Posted October 9, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 9, 2020 On 10/8/2020 at 6:23 AM, DewMan@1961 said: I always make sure that the ladies are well satisfied. If you don't make them happy they won't be interested in you Cumming in them anymore I had no problem making my ex-wife have orgasms. After three minutes of hard grinding she would orgasm so hard we both ended up soaking wet, but since I hadn't come yet sex got boring for her. She was never into getting second or having multiple orgasms, and she always seemed to ruin it for me by asking "are you done yet?" We talked one morning as we lay naked in bed touching and playing with each other, she asked what would it take for us to cum together? The guys she did have sex with usually came within two to three minutes because the way her pussy gripped a stiff cock made them cum, so she taught her body to orgasm within that time frame. I laughed at that, two to three minutes I'm just getting started, though it felt like her pussy was trying to rip my cock off my body. I told my ex I listened to Dr. Ruth Westheimer and Dr. Laura Berman on sex talk radio, the majority of the women complained about how their men reached orgasm in about two to three minutes when it took them 15 to 20 minutes to reach their peak. I practiced on myself when I got close to cumming, I'd stop masturbating till I relaxed and started over again. I timed and practiced on myself that it would take 15 to 20 minutes before I let myself cum. I actually went 30 minutes one time before I had reached the peak of orgasm! We were brought up to save sex for our wedding night because a marriage should not just be based on sex, but here I ended up with a woman that could cum as fast as a guy or horse running a three minute mile! I told my ex we should do a lot of foreplay mainly her playing with my cock and a B.J. wouldn't hurt either. I told her I would teach her to control her orgasm since we had things to do, I told her we try that night and we did! You Talk about Roman hands and Russian fingers, when she said she was getting close to orgasm, I stopped. We continued again and I stopped, then we got into the 69 position and I waited till she started licking and sucking my Penis, and then I went on to lick her clit and eat her pussy, this is after I got her to trim her bush! Once she got real wet and her mouth was doing wonders on me, we both said at the same time we were ready. We got back into the missionary position me on top and in no time she and I orgasm-ed together and she was so happy she started crying for joy! Unfortunately those nights or mornings were far and in between when we orgasm-ed together, it would be days or over a week before we would have sex again. The way she dressed or hardly dressed teasing me with hot body she could put Daisy Duke to shame, (I wish I had pics, but this was before people had cams on everything) I wanted her even more! I even got mad at her if you don't want sex quit being such a Cock Tease, but later the crap would hit the fan which is on another post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fun4her +me! Posted October 10, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 10, 2020 On 10/7/2020 at 2:05 PM, Bigirlhaggen said: I have to say that I was so very blessed to have a mom that cared enough about me to ask me and actually show me exactly how to touch myself I learned so much from mutual masturbating with her I have to ask WHY when moms show their daughters how to masturbate most everybody is cool with it? Dads show their sons what to do with their cocks and it is called child molestation, I don't get it! I took bubble baths with my daughter until she was 5. I would be in the tub covered in bubbles and my ex handed me my daughter and I'd wash her and play in the bubbles with her and then my ex come and get her and dry her - everything was on the level. When my daughter turned 5 it happened, curiosity comes with age she tried reaching under the bubbles and I knew what she was reaching for and I stopped her. I called my ex to come and get our daughter and bring a towel. I told my ex what happened and she explained to my daughter that she was getting to old to take bubble baths with her daddy! Some experts would probably accuse me of indecent behavior and exposing myself to my daughter which never happened. I couldn't get in the tub with her but it didn't stop me from still giving her bubble baths, my ex would get so mad we had more water on the floor than in the tub. and most times I wore T-shirt and shorts and I would be soaked, my daughter loved to splash water on me, but we were having innocent fun! Shortly after that we were separated and divorced, because I caught my ex cheating on me! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bigirlhaggen Posted October 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2020 On 10/10/2020 at 1:26 AM, Fun4her +me! said: I have to ask WHY when moms show their daughters how to masturbate most everybody is cool with it? Dads show their sons what to do with their cocks and it is called child molestation, I don't get it! I took bubble baths with my daughter until she was 5. I would be in the tub covered in bubbles and my ex handed me my daughter and I'd wash her and play in the bubbles with her and then my ex come and get her and dry her - everything was on the level. When my daughter turned 5 it happened, curiosity comes with age she tried reaching under the bubbles and I knew what she was reaching for and I stopped her. I called my ex to come and get our daughter and bring a towel. I told my ex what happened and she explained to my daughter that she was getting to old to take bubble baths with her daddy! Some experts would probably accuse me of indecent behavior and exposing myself to my daughter which never happened. I couldn't get in the tub with her but it didn't stop me from still giving her bubble baths, my ex would get so mad we had more water on the floor than in the tub. and most times I wore T-shirt and shorts and I would be soaked, my daughter loved to splash water on me, but we were having innocent fun! Shortly after that we were separated and divorced, because I caught my ex cheating on me! OMG yes I know exactly what you mean about this there's absolutely nothing wrong with that it's totally natural and healthy it's curiosity and beautiful I think our bodies are beautiful and not perverd unless you make it that way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fun4her +me! Posted October 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2020 4 hours ago, Bigirlhaggen said: OMG yes I know exactly what you mean about this there's absolutely nothing wrong with that it's totally natural and healthy it's curiosity and beautiful I think our bodies are beautiful and not perverd unless you make it that way I agree with you, and my youngest brother and his wife would to! They taught their kids (two girls, one boy) to be free spirited and not be embarrassed about their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed, they didn't have to! On weekends my brother told me they seldom were dressed, and their kids were not either. Her parents did not agree with their lifestyle, because the first time they went to spend the night at grandma and grandpa's, the kids tried to runaround the house without clothes the next morning. All the adults told them to get dressed, the oldest girl protested telling them she didn't want to, my brother had to take her into the bedroom and to explain to her when at grandma's there are different rules! My brother got back in the kitchen and both her parents looked at him, telling my brother their daughter has just told them the kids were hardly dressed at home! He explained that he did not want his kids to be ashamed of their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed they didn't have to, unless they had company or going to be at their grandparent's house! Before the visit was over her parents found out my brother and his wife were also naked in front of their kids, because the youngest daughter sort of told her grandmother that their mommy and daddy were also hardly dressed at home! His wife told her mom the same thing my brother had just said, they were teaching their kids - there is nothing wrong with being naked under the right circumstances! I also told my brother if I ever came to visit, I didn't want to see him or his family in their birthday suits, but when I did finally visit they might as well been naked, they put on as little as possible. I told my brother they should go live in a nudist colony, and I never went back to visit them either! My wife I don't mind being naked around the house, but we don't have kids to worry about, and I had my own standards when it came to my little girl, who has lived with my ex since our divorce! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DewMan@1961 Posted October 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2020 5 hours ago, Fun4her +me! said: I agree with you, and my youngest brother and his wife would to! They taught their kids (two girls, one boy) to be free spirited and not be embarrassed about their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed, they didn't have to! On weekends my brother told me they seldom were dressed, and their kids were not either. Her parents did not agree with their lifestyle, because the first time they went to spend the night at grandma and grandpa's, the kids tried to runaround the house without clothes the next morning. All the adults told them to get dressed, the oldest girl protested telling them she didn't want to, my brother had to take her into the bedroom and to explain to her when at grandma's there are different rules! My brother got back in the kitchen and both her parents looked at him, telling my brother their daughter has just told them the kids were hardly dressed at home! He explained that he did not want his kids to be ashamed of their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed they didn't have to, unless they had company or going to be at their grandparent's house! Before the visit was over her parents found out my brother and his wife were also naked in front of their kids, because the youngest daughter sort of told her grandmother that their mommy and daddy were also hardly dressed at home! His wife told her mom the same thing my brother had just said, they were teaching their kids - there is nothing wrong with being naked under the right circumstances! I also told my brother if I ever came to visit, I didn't want to see him or his family in their birthday suits, but when I did finally visit they might as well been naked, they put on as little as possible. I told my brother they should go live in a nudist colony, and I never went back to visit them either! My wife I don't mind being naked around the house, but we don't have kids to worry about, and I had my own standards when it came to my little girl, who has lived with my ex since our divorce! If mom not happy , NO ONE'S HAPPY !!😘 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bigirlhaggen Posted October 15, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2020 21 hours ago, Fun4her +me! said: I agree with you, and my youngest brother and his wife would to! They taught their kids (two girls, one boy) to be free spirited and not be embarrassed about their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed, they didn't have to! On weekends my brother told me they seldom were dressed, and their kids were not either. Her parents did not agree with their lifestyle, because the first time they went to spend the night at grandma and grandpa's, the kids tried to runaround the house without clothes the next morning. All the adults told them to get dressed, the oldest girl protested telling them she didn't want to, my brother had to take her into the bedroom and to explain to her when at grandma's there are different rules! My brother got back in the kitchen and both her parents looked at him, telling my brother their daughter has just told them the kids were hardly dressed at home! He explained that he did not want his kids to be ashamed of their bodies and if they didn't want to get dressed they didn't have to, unless they had company or going to be at their grandparent's house! Before the visit was over her parents found out my brother and his wife were also naked in front of their kids, because the youngest daughter sort of told her grandmother that their mommy and daddy were also hardly dressed at home! His wife told her mom the same thing my brother had just said, they were teaching their kids - there is nothing wrong with being naked under the right circumstances! I also told my brother if I ever came to visit, I didn't want to see him or his family in their birthday suits, but when I did finally visit they might as well been naked, they put on as little as possible. I told my brother they should go live in a nudist colony, and I never went back to visit them either! My wife I don't mind being naked around the house, but we don't have kids to worry about, and I had my own standards when it came to my little girl, who has lived with my ex since our divorce! well yes it's definitely a good idea to keep the nudity around the house and not out and about most people are extremely one sided when it comes to nudity especially children but I love reading your story it touches my ❤️ to hear about other family that have the same openess as I grew up with our bodies are absolutely beautiful and natural nothing wrong with nudity as long as it is not PERVERTED thanks for sharing this with us I loved it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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