Lgbt (long post but appreciate advice/stories)

[CreativeWriter]

This post is for women in the lgbt community.  How was ur first sexual experience with a woman like?  I’m 24 & lesbian & have been sexually active since I was around 19.  I just recently (about 2 months ago) experienced oral for the first time.  I’ve always been a very nervous person & very shy about my body.  When I thought about experiencing oral it always turned me on but also made me really nervous.  It was just the fact that you are in such a vulnerable place & the person giving has full control & you just do nothing.  I had been with 3 different women & regretted not having oral with 2 of them.  It’s also the fact that most women who are into women enjoy receiving oral as well.  I have OCD so the thought of having somebody’s bodily fluids from down there in my mouth really gives me anxiety.  That’s also one of the reasons why it took me so long to experience oral.  I just felt guilty of the fact that I would be enjoying this but then not able to give it back.  I want to but I just get scared.  What if I don’t like the way it smells or tastes? What if I feel grossed out? What if I don’t want to anymore in the middle of it? What if I accidentally make the woman feel bad because I don’t like it?  Anyways, with the receiving part it did take me a while to finally have it happen & I did have chances for it to happen sooner but idk, I just got nervous & changed my mind.  It had nothing to do with the woman, because every woman I have been with has been super understanding & never made me feel pressured about anything.  The woman who I had finally let go down on me was a fwb situation.  We had really great open communication & I talked about my anxiety & she said it’s totally up to me if I want it to happen or not.  I even talked about the what if questions I had in my head like what if I smell weird? Or taste weird? Or you don’t like it? Or it takes me too long to get there? (also side note I still have no idea if I have ever orgasmed in my life but that’s a post for another day) She said she has had the same questions in her head before & I never felt weird around her while talking about all of this.  When we started making out & doing stuff I was completely turned on & even when she was literally about to go down she asked if I was sure I was ready & that made me feel so much better because of how much she cared.  That fwb situation fizzled out as she became really busy in her personal life & dealing with other things.  Anyways the point of this post was basically to ask other women of their experiences, if they have ever felt the way I have felt & still feel with some things & if any women have ocd or have had issues with being scared about giving oral?  Thanks for any advice

[twin spirits]

Sorry you haven't gotten any responses but maybe this isn't the best site for your question. 

That being said, I think that sexual intimacy can be as simple or complicated as we want to make it. Some people can throw caution to the wind while others like yourself are extremely careful. For myself, it’s complicated by my need to have an emotional attachment to my partner. Otherwise it’s just sex (which isn’t so bad) but I prefer to have that connection. Makes it more meaningful.

I read while back that oral sex is a gift from the giver to the receiver. That put a whole different spin on it for me. If you’re the receiver then relax and enjoy the gift that you are receiving. It is an unselfish gift you are receiving. Respond accordingly. If you are the giver then remember that you are the gift giver. If there is an odor or any kind of lack of proper hygiene then the receiver is not worth of your gift. Otherwise, enjoy her pleasure responses and give more. A flat tongue works best.

You love women. You love being with women. Let down your guard and take that love to the next level. Hope that helps.  

[Tyger]

Well, I've been with my GF for almost 7 yrs now. When we first started dating, we talked a lot. I'd never been with a woman before, so I was completely scared for sure!!!

My GF has been Out since she was about 25. We were in our 40's when we met, so it's been a hot minute for her, and she has more experience being with women. She was very patient & understanding. She told me she likes going down, but knew I wasn't a huge fan of it happening. But, I was willing to try, and I like it a lot more than I did before! She also told me not ALL lesbains enjoy going down on women, for whatever reason. And, that's OK!!  It's like any preference really. 

My suggestion, as someone that has a touch of OCD, and I do enjoy going down on my GF when we have the time and privacy.....do it in the shower. Get each other all cleaned up. Hot water gets all the nerve endings tingling anyway. 

Remember, each woman is different. Some like harder clit action, some soft flicks. some like insertion, some don't. My GF loves it when I suck her clit, kinda hard.  Each woman tastes different too.  Diet has a lot to do with it as well.

Communication is key. Letting your potential lover know your insecurities, what you're not sure about, before hand, will help make it easier if you find you don't like it.

[Kinky Twinkie]

15 hours ago, Tyger said:

Well, I've been with my GF for almost 7 yrs now. When we first started dating, we talked a lot. I'd never been with a woman before, so I was completely scared for sure!!!

My GF has been Out since she was about 25. We were in our 40's when we met, so it's been a hot minute for her, and she has more experience being with women. She was very patient & understanding. She told me she likes going down, but knew I wasn't a huge fan of it happening. But, I was willing to try, and I like it a lot more than I did before! She also told me not ALL lesbains enjoy going down on women, for whatever reason. And, that's OK!!  It's like any preference really. 

My suggestion, as someone that has a touch of OCD, and I do enjoy going down on my GF when we have the time and privacy.....do it in the shower. Get each other all cleaned up. Hot water gets all the nerve endings tingling anyway. 

Remember, each woman is different. Some like harder clit action, some soft flicks. some like insertion, some don't. My GF loves it when I suck her clit, kinda hard.  Each woman tastes different too.  Diet has a lot to do with it as well.

Communication is key. Letting your potential lover know your insecurities, what you're not sure about, before hand, will help make it easier if you find you don't like it.

You come a long way my friend, congradulations on making that 7 years. I learned some thing on this but I can understand and relate to my neises and cousins better. I hope you two have alot more years togeather.