Convince Gf That Toy Isnt Bad

[cyclone]

How would i go about convincing my gf that a vibrator isnt bad, she keeps telling me that it makes her feel cheap and asks me if our sex isnt good enough. I just wanna add a litttle bit of fun into the bedroom, but she says that it isnt time to have fun. Help me explain to her!

[Tyger]

LOL That's kinda morbid. Howard can always make me smile though.

Seriously, if your GF is the same age range as you are, well, you'd think she'd be a bit more open-minded. But depending on how she was raised, and if sex was even discussed in her household, she may just not feel comfortable with it.

What needs to come across, in a non-confrontational way, is that toys are an ENHANCEMENT in the bedroom, not a REPLACEMENT. BIIIIIG difference.

Since YOU'RE the one bringing up the desire for a toy for HER, maybe show her ones that are as non-phallic (don't look like a real penis) as possible. Like your standard vibrator, or even a bullet (bullets are GREAT first timer toys!!). Something that is as un-initimidating to use (aka don't need a degree in "Toy-ology to figure out). It also shows that you're into wanting to give her all kinds of pleasure, in different ways. That is awesome!! If I were you, I'd gently put it that way too. Show her that you're wanting to do this for her, and for you. But stress the HER part.

If she doesn't feel comfortable going to a sex shop (which in itself, at least for me, can be a turn-on~depending on the one you go too), then cruise thru the site. Type in at the top Search Box, some keywords, like BULLET, VIBRATOR, or even some gels and creams. Some fun stuff. Or maybe start off real slow by getting a sex game for couples. Card game, dice, and even adult board games are available here and at other places (like Spencer's). That can be fun. Just you 2, the game, some candles, maybe some soft music. Not overly intimidating.

Now, there ARE some people that just can't get past the stigma that only sluts, porn stars, and lonely housewives/divorcee's use toys. And, after several *gentle yet persistent* attempts. Let it go, for a while. Unless it really upsets her, then just drop it. In a relationship, respect is one of the key aspects of it. In every aspect OF the relationship. The way you ask is important.

my hubby was old-fashioned in his thinking. If we had a great sex life, we wouldn't NEED toys. Well, nobody truly NEEDS toys (well, maybe Mikayla ) Just kidding there M, it's not a NEED like food, water, housing. But I got him thinking that it's an enhancement, and an aide. Especially if one of us either isn't there, or just is too tired or sick to do our "wedded duty". I've shown him that it can be lots of fun (lighting up vibrators helped that too). Having him use the toy on me, watching him be in control of it, well, it worked out for both of us!!

I wish you much luck!! Keep us "Posted".

[cyclone]

So today just my gf called me and said she was horny and wanted to try some phone sex, was it great i tell ya, we where like goin at it for an hour. After that she just told me out of the the blue that we must get ourself a vibrator, she wants so try it. So yea all going good here! Thanks for the advise guys.