How To Get Her To Open Up?

[Beyondblessed]

Hey yall...its been a long time hasnt it?

Well....life has been crazy and with planning a wedding, marriage, moving 200 miles, and searching for new jobs its been hectic...but Imstill here.

I do however havea question or two.

I am very open to sexuality(between husbands and wives)

But my wife doesnt seem to be

I wouldnt care ifshe wanted to perform anal on me because I would love that she was opening upto things....even if I dont have a real desire to do it.

But the thing is....she is not explorative at all....doesnt want anal, wont even touch her own genitals.

She has tried anal before with someone who was very uninformed and had a bad experienceI guess....plus she thinks it gross or dirty.

I try to get her to read articles on this board but she thinks "this board" is nothing more than filthy porn freaks that have no knowledgable insight.....she is very close minded.

How can I get her to open up?

She said we could try anal once...but she was so uptight I doubt I could have squeezed in a finger let alone my penis.

She is dead set that it will hurt even though I know personally that one can relax enough to fit somthing the size of a penis in the rectum without pain....even enjoy it.

its not just about anal sex but anything really....shes not spontaneous...or imaginative....sometimes during sex she just stares at me...kinda in a weird creepy way...or cant/doesnt read my body language. I try and tell her these things(hints) or get her to open up but she just over-reacts and thinks that Im telling her that she does everything wrong.

She doesnt seem like she listens....just stone faced dead set in her ways.

What can I tell her....or show her?

Hints...help?

Please and thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Beyondblessed]

I guess I make things sound worse than they really are.

She is my best friend first and foremost, and we compliment each other very well....we both hold very similar spiritual beiefs (which play a great role in our lives).

We have alot of fun together and we have the same goals with regards to children, morals, principle, and ethics.

We abstained(mostly) from sexual intercourse before we where married due to our beliefs, and are now begining to find out each others sexual torts so to speak.

I feel that her rigidity is due alot to the "stigma" that sex is dirty...or "wrong" for a christian woman to explore sexuality.

Its not that she doesnt want to please me...because I know that she really does...I just think she wont allow herself to be creative or imaginative.

We dont believe in divorce and I will not give up on my marriage....ever.

Thats a promise I made to myself, her, and to God....but I am willing to try and work on the things that i see as rough areas.

When we have sex or make love it is a great experience and we both experience great orgams or climaxes...sex is satifying...I just dont want to feellimitedto what we can do.

I would just like some advice on how I might be able to approach hermore effectivly about getting her to explore her own sexual feelings and fantasies.

Thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed