Sex Survey

[trista]

I was thinking of making up a sex/romance survey for me and my hubby. Something to get us thinking and talking about sex/ romance again. What do you all think? Is this a dumb idea?

I would like to make the survey sexy and fun. I thought we might learn more about each other and maybe find something that could get the fire going again. Please tell me what you really think and if you have any questions I could put on the survey.

Thanks

[trista]

I think you are asking way to much on this forum. to give you a lost of questions would take days and weeks. By example, why not go through all the topic here on the forum, and review all the pages and pages of posts on each topic. The questions asked by the readers can be put on such a list, no? This will only take you a couple of months to compile.

Seriously, I have seen these kind of lists in articles in Playboy, or Penthouse, or Cosmopolitan, or other magazines, so they are out there. I have a few lists I saved, but in reading them with my wife, we were struck by two things: 1. How many of the things we had already done; and 2. the fact that the questions were so often specific to a particular city or area of the country.

YOU can make up your own questionaire, or list by simply reading the topics on the index page, and making a list of questions to elicite the kind of answers you want to know.

For instance, under " Oral Sex Discussion", If I were dating a new woman and we were planning to be lovers, I would want to know:

a. Do you enjoy having oral sex done to you?

b. Have you ever had an orgasm as the result of oral sex done to you?

c. Have you ever had multiple orgasms as a result of oral sex done to you?

d. What parts of your body react the most to being licked or kissed?

e. Do you like to be kissed during sex? tongue?

f. Have you ever had toys used on you during oral sex? Like it?

e. Do you like oral attention to your breasts? Clit? vaginal lips? anus?

f. Have you ever had anyone lick you from your neck to the base of your spine and back? ]

g. Would that be exciting to you, or just tickle?

Now, I have not even begun to ask questions about what she would do to me with oral sex, but you can see some of the detail that you can ask to really get to know what your partner likes and likes to do. You will also find out many things they have never thought about or done, so that you both have ideas of things to try.

I have never seen or heard of a complete list of questions that contain every question that you would want that would give you every answer that you would want to know. Lists get added to all the time, as new things come to mind.

For instance, I saw a porn film where two women were making love to each other, mostly with their hands, and lips, but what intrigued me about this film was the fact that both women were wearing very thin rayon sillk pants, and that one woman was purposely rubbing and stroking the clit of the other through the fabric, making a point to rub the fabric against her lover's clit. The reaction of the lover was very real- no acting- as her spasms and occasional blush showed. As much as she was making a movie, she could not help but react normally to this kind of sensation.

I had never thought to use silk, or rayon silk to rub my lover's clit, but I have it on my list of things to try NOW! And, I suppose, it would make another question to put on a list.

Howard

Sorry Howard,

You are probably right it was a dumb idea. I am just trying to save something that probably can't be saved. sorry to have bothered everyone

[whittibo]

I was thinking of making up a sex/romance survey for me and my hubby. Something to get us thinking and talking about sex/ romance again. What do you all think? Is this a dumb idea?

I would like to make the survey sexy and fun. I thought we might learn more about each other and maybe find something that could get the fire going again. Please tell me what you really think and if you have any questions I could put on the survey.

Thanks

I think it's a fun idea, my husband is NOT an open person and I have very little to go on in the way of what he likes, I can only guess if it makes him cum, he probably liked it. Could I improve? Probably, but he would never tell me how.

With that said, anything you can do to get your husband to open up is great. I know after 2.5 weeks of my husband and I being intimate daily, we were both saying and doing things we have NEVER done in almost 22 years of knowing each other.

If I were doing something like this with my husband, I think I would start out very slowly and ask more basic questions, keep it simple so nobody gets embarrassed.