Newbie Trayr Posted April 28, 2007 Newbie Report Share Posted April 28, 2007 Hi all this is my first time writing I have read a lot of stuff on here I'ts great to have a place where people can talk sex....anyway...I'm writting about my husband we have been together for 17 years and life is great except for the fact that my husband could care less about sex....I have always (since I knew what sex was) been a very sexual person and the older I get the more sexual I become...for the past few years we have been having sex on the average once a month...I have spoken to him many times about this and have tried different things to make him interested... ex: getting my nails painted colors he likes...getting a brazilian waxing (which ladies if your reading this and have never gotten one I highly suggest it..)...spent a small fortune in sex toys..even told him to go on the internet and buy whatever he wants to and I'll be down for anything...I thought that would definitly spark some interest but no luck I reminded him 2x's on 2 different days and nothing....He says he just doesn't think about it much...and that I shouldn't take it personal... but how do you not...He went to school for a month in a another state so we didn't see each other for a month when he got home 3 days went by before we had sex...It's crazy to me....I know that this happens to some people after they have been together for a while...and I know that the older some men get the less they think about sex (he's only going on 40) so how do you get someone back into sex??? I'm willing to try anything... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie Trayr Posted April 30, 2007 Author Newbie Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Hi thanks for the reply....I have done most of the things you have suggested...and when we do have sex it's great....its not a physical problem...I believe the brain is the biggest sex organ and I think his brain just needs a jump start and I ran out of idea's...I don't really understand not being interested in sex...I asked him how much he masterbates and he said very rarely??? I just don't get it.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted April 30, 2007 Members Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 HELLO and WELCOME!I just wrote an article on this, called Mismatched Motivations - which is all about why people have different sex drives and what you can do about it. I would highly recommend reading it - in the Sex Ed section above - and seeing if any of these things apply to you. Then, if so, post back and we will find a solution - or at least a place to start - for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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