Moving Backwards

[zanej]

Hello all,

I'm kind of new here but like what I see as far as a helpful and knowledge filled community. I love my girlfriend very much but am having trouble with some things.

While we still enjoy sex with each other, it has become somewhat routine. We do a little BDSM with spanking and arm restraint, also enjoy watching porno together. However, our drives clash. She wants it at night and I just want to get some sleep. She is apprehensive about doing anything in the daytime because she is uncomfortable with her body, both for common reasons and some very unique ones. Is there any way I can boost her confidence in herself to maybe get some lights on/ daytime action going. Also some level 2 BDSM ideas would be helpful. I do plan to read some of the articles and posts on this sort of thing in other forums for ideas.

Also, are there any lifestyle changes (e.g. diet, exercise, supplements) that can make a man's ejaculate taste less offensive to a woman.

Any and all advice, questions, comments, etc. will be greatly appreciated.

[Mikayla1]

Welcome! OK, so you have quite a few things going on here, let me see if I can address them in order.

Routine sex is a big problem for many couples, and while BDSM might be the spice to add, there are other things to do as well. Remember that sex doesn't have to be confined to the bedroom - try getting in the shower together, attack her on the couch while watching TV, serve her breakfast in bed that consists of strawberries, whipped cream and a hard penis! You get my drift - initiate things in different ways. Remember to change up positions, use toys, oral sex can be a wonderful way to spice things up. Just try to think outside the bedroom.

As far as the bondage goes - I have a ton of ideas - but 'level 2' might not be for you quite yet. Spanking and arm restraint is great - what about blindfolds? Ice cubes, feathers, hot wax (sex wax only please) - playing with sensations. Read my BDSM article and perhaps this will give you some ideas. I am working on a 'level 2' bdsm article now, should be interesting for you. Remember to experiment with the senses and limits - that is a basic of SM.

I understand you wanting daytime sex- but honey, nighttime sex is great too! I understand tired - truly I do - I am exhausted most nights by 8:00 pm. However, by 10:00 I am having sex and my energy level is up and I am glad I had sex. Do not discount nighttime sex - you don't have to wait until midnight to get in the sack, try initiating it earlier - right after dinner maybe.

As for the morning sex -many women do not feel good in the light - but who says the lights HAVE to be on? Darken the room with shades and blinds - make it as dark as possible. At night, use candlelight so there is a soft glow of light around so she can become more comfortable. THe best way is to tell her how beautiful and sexy she is - in and out of the bedroom - so her inner confidence builds. For now, I suggest leaving the light issue alone - and gently ease her into morning sex. This will come in time.

As for the sperm discussion - yes, there are many ways to make it taste better -yours and hers. There are a few threads about this on forum already, so take a look. The main things are: garlic, smoking, hard spices - these make your sperm bitter. Cinnamon, sugar, peaches, pineapple - these make your sperm sweeter. Check it out!

Good luck and I hope things get wild for ya!!