Newbie kinkylovers Posted February 17, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted February 17, 2006 So my wife and i were wanting to try something new. We were wanting to ask our friends if they would want to skinny dip or play strip poker. The problem is we don't know of how to ask them, without ruining our friendships or making it weird. Do you guys have any suggestions? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted February 18, 2006 Members Report Share Posted February 18, 2006 While including your friends in sexual play such as strip poker or skinny dipping may seem like a good idea now, I stress that you should make sure that you and your wife have set forth specific guidelines before you continue with this sort of play. Are you allowed to touch - if the situation presents itself? Will there be drinking - if so, is anyone to be left sober as a sort of "referee?" What if the other guy makes a pass at your wife - how will you handle it? What if your wife wants to touch the other woman, and she rejects her or vice versa - is it worth breaking up a friendship for? I would get all these questions answered first before you find out if your friends are into this sort of thing. I would also ask yourself why it is that you want to be naked around another couple...is it the risk? Do you want to "switch" lovers? Are you hoping for something to happen, or do you just want to see some different tits and cock?If you answer all those questions, and you set the rules, and you STILL want to do this, then I suppose the only way to do it would be to straight out ask. I am straighforward, I would probably just say, "Hey guys, you wanna come over and skinny dip tomorrow with us?" Or, "Friday night is poker night, but we were thinking of betting clothing instead of chips...what do you think?" If they freak out, you can pretend you were kidding, if they say...well, sure...then there you go!Good luck with this one!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie kinkylovers Posted February 19, 2006 Author Newbie Report Share Posted February 19, 2006 While including your friends in sexual play such as strip poker or skinny dipping may seem like a good idea now, I stress that you should make sure that you and your wife have set forth specific guidelines before you continue with this sort of play. Are you allowed to touch - if the situation presents itself? Will there be drinking - if so, is anyone to be left sober as a sort of "referee?" What if the other guy makes a pass at your wife - how will you handle it? What if your wife wants to touch the other woman, and she rejects her or vice versa - is it worth breaking up a friendship for? I would get all these questions answered first before you find out if your friends are into this sort of thing. I would also ask yourself why it is that you want to be naked around another couple...is it the risk? Do you want to "switch" lovers? Are you hoping for something to happen, or do you just want to see some different tits and cock?If you answer all those questions, and you set the rules, and you STILL want to do this, then I suppose the only way to do it would be to straight out ask. I am straighforward, I would probably just say, "Hey guys, you wanna come over and skinny dip tomorrow with us?" Or, "Friday night is poker night, but we were thinking of betting clothing instead of chips...what do you think?" If they freak out, you can pretend you were kidding, if they say...well, sure...then there you go!Good luck with this one!Mikayla We are not interested in switching partners or touching or anything of that nature (at least not right now). We are very happy and content with each other, we were just looking for something fun and "exciting" to maybe spice up our own relationship a little. We have been together for a while and have fallen into a little bit of a "rut" so to speak, so we are just looking to add some excitement to our own sex life. And playing strip poker or going skinny dipping is kind of just "taboo" enough to get us excited a little, you know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie kinkylovers Posted February 22, 2006 Author Newbie Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 People: There are a lot of things you can do to spice up a lovelife that has gotten into a rut, as you say, before you start adding other people to it! Check out the bookstores for books on sex. Check the store on this site. They have some wonderful ideas. Check out the films, both the porn,and the educational films. Sadie Allison has written three books, Tickle Your Fancy, Tickle His Pickle, and Toygasms. They are very thorough, and can give you lots of ideas. Get out of the " rut " by changing places where you make love, or initiate love making. Add toys to your sex play. Remember the 8th of May is Outdoor Intercouse Day. If you have never made love out of doors, make your plans, now. Practice on a screened in back porch some night. Of in the car, or a camper. Never made love in the back seat of a car? Now is the time to try. Or in the front seat of the car? Try it. The giggles are worth the effort. You should be exploring all of your erogenous zones, to see how easy it is for you to have multiple orgasms by just being stimulated there. First do it during intercourse, but stroke those zones as the primary stimulation. My wife and I found out how sensitive her toes were when I sucked on her Right foot big toe when it went waiving by my face during her orgasm. I grabbed and sucked it into my mouth to keep it from poking me in the eye. She came in a second orgasm that was massive when I sucked on it. She almost passed out! Explore each other. You never know when you are going to find, or develope a new " Turn on ". Play. If you are in a rut, you probably are taking sex too seriously and not playing enough. Tell your husband that he doesn't get away having only one orgasm- ever! You are not satisfied until he has 2 or 3 or 4 or what ever standard you want. Fore play becomes replay, as you help him get that next erection after he cums. You should try to be on top of him for half of the time, if you think of it. Let him rest between climaxes. Surprise each other. If you vary what you do, when you do it, where you do it, if you engage in verbal foreplay during the day, with phone calls, notes, letters, messages, caresses, gropes, squeezes, fingerings, etc. you will find it almost impossible to repeat everything exactly, and the anticipation of what each of you is going to do next will be the ultimate turn-on, and keep sex from getting into a " Rut ". Just PLAY with each other. That is what that Marriage License permits you to do. Everything short of screwing in the middle of the street during rush hour is permitted. I personally can't imagine being bored, or in a rut with sex, with my lover, or my ex-wife. We had too much fun playing to ever be in a rut.See the thing is we are getting some books and going to try and make our sex life in the bedroom better. It is we are just curious. We have talked about 3somes, but don't want to jeopardize our relationship over it. We are just curious about getting naked with other people and just making a game of it like strip poker or just going skinning dippng with a couple of friends. We don't want to bring some couple home from a bar or anything because we don't know those people as well. So we figured that it would be better if we did something like that with our friends. So that is why we are asking if there is any way to approach our friends about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted February 22, 2006 Members Report Share Posted February 22, 2006 The problem is, once you get naked with your friends...they cease to just be friends! Once your guy friend sees your tits, ass...frontal areas....he will no longer just think of you as a friend. Men are visual creatures, they may be able to filter out some things, and control themselves, but the next time you get together for that bbq he will be thinking...man, she had some nice tits! Your hb might be doing the same thing about your girlfriend! Do you really want that, and are you both secure enough to do that?Believe me, I have been there....I have done the strip poker, skinny dipping after a bunch of wine thing....and there were a lot of discussions about me, my friends, the guys...after. You never see each other the same, and you will be wondering if the guy is looking "through" your clothes. Think long and hard before you do that...my suggestion!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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