Yes your right, we have come a long way in a good, bad marriage, i do not know for certain if he was, is, cheating or what ,ever, i made him a doc. apmt., a couple of months ago, then the next morning he ejaculated well, during bj., i told him yea this time what about the next???, he said to cansel the apmt. So he says he has a problem and it is not me but he will not see a doctor! . And i clean the toys, strokers ect., and he ejaculates w/ the strokers. He is a hard person to talk to also. But i have needs too, And i'm not just talking about sex, ...theres just too much to write, this has been 21 long years of a marriage, and i have done every thing i can and still trying, He says he does'nt want to seperate, I am confussed, worried, etc. nicol