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Not really. The actresses are doing it by choice and, to be honest, I 'degrade' myself a whoooole lot worse in some of my favorite fantasies. The guys in these things aren't usually playing rocket scientists either, haha.

Weeell, I didn't have a specific one in mind really... I just noticed how much PRETTIER those dildos are, and that most seem to come in a bigger size. I'm thinking that if they're going to be that wide, they'd better at least be a bit soft. There's only a few slimmer ones that I can see, and they just don't have the detail and shapes that the 1.7" to 2" ones have. If the majority are really firm in the center, I think I'll leave them be.

In comparison to silicone or jelly, how soft are PleasureSkin or other "realistic" dildos? When I'm sizing up these things, I have to take into consideration how much "give" they'll have. If it's too firm and unyielding, I probably don't want it.

Haha, that's just fine. I was just wondering what the 'erotic' entailed here.

I'm curious- what makes the massage distinctly erotic? I'm only asking because I've just started massage school, so I'm curious where that line's drawn where it goes from a massage to something sexual. Do they teach you moves that just arouse?

I knew mine was still around, kind of. The one time I had a papsmear, the lady was scared to poke me with a Q-tip because of it for crying out loud- but I hadn't been using tampons because they hurt and I never even used my fingers down there at the time, so I figured maybe things had weathered away after a couple years, haha. I don't know what I thought, really, I just didn't think of it anymore once I got the tampons to stop stinging. Still, it didn't hurt enough for me to stop what I was doing when it tore, so I guess I won't worry about it possibly tearing more later. I was more scared that maybe I'd mangled something else in there. The most random thoughts jump in when you look down and unexpectedly see blood somewhere. *facepalm*

Haha, I don't blame you for the confusion! I asked my own mother and she thought the same thing as you did, so I looked it up too to double check. She was so shocked to find out she was wrong. They come in all different shapes and thicknesses, some people don't even have one from the start, so it's no wonder that it's such a mystery.

Isn't the hymen right at the opening? That's what I've seen in diagrams, who knows.

Ok, now that a few days have passed, I think the hymen theory was spot on. I used the rabbit today without ANY of the usual discomfort, and I actually feel like I could use something larger now that the tightness has some give and I know how to position right.

As far as MOVIES go, I enjoyed the ever popular Pirates series. Not in the sense that two movies got me really turned on, the sex scenes were a bit repetitive, but it was fun to watch with a clit vibe on hand and I did actually eek out about five orgasms during the first one before I called it a night. I'd say that warrants a couple thumbs and toes up. I haven't actually bought any other DVDs, so who knows what else I'd go for. But I also like the free little shorts I can find on streaming sites. I enjoy the ones where either the person receiving makes intense expressions, or one person acts like they're asleep and being 'taken advantage of'. Odd, since those things are almost opposite, but that's just that. If it's not too corny (I hate excessive moaning where moaning doesn't belong) I like watching titty fucks too, if the guy gets really into it. I think my main thing is watching someone get overwhelmed and just GOING FOR IT.

Harley or nothing. If it's in between, I just get distracted by trying to position things right for better stimulation. Otherwise, I'll just rub with my fingers and use my lil dildo. I like my vibe orgasms to be quick.

Haha, stop it, you're just making me want it MORE. The site I found it on has so many awesome reviews, and I liked that it had a narrower and a wider side to choose from. The curve looks perfect. I thought so... but still! I can tuck it away in my Wish List for when I know I can handle it. :}

It hurts a bit, if I angle it certain ways or pull the head back toward the front, since that's where things are tight and iffy. The bigger toys, I've only been able to fit in at all the past couple weeks or so. I can't insert firm ones at all, they have to be soft and flexible or I'm in pain- I can put in the 1.5" vibe with the jelly coating, but my 1.25" kegals with tiny nubs feels like I'm trying to insert nails because there's no give. I think the nubs get caught on the skin around my opening too, so there's really no way to put those balls in without hurting myself. I did actually find my G-spot, pretty easily. :} I had been feeling too far back, but it's right in the front where crooking the fingers can reach. Only problem is, my fingers get tired before they can do any good, and I don't have any curved toys. The rabbit KIND OF hits it with the ridge of the head sometimes, but pulling it to the front makes me sore since it's big. Dilemma! It's fun experimenting. I had assumed my hymen was too stretched out to be an issue since I use tampons.

I want to try the "Strawberry Shake" Or the "Petite Dolphin" But not for a little while yet. I'm starting school and have to save up for a while before I'll indulge again. From a different site? I'm kind of interested in the "Pure Wand Metal Dildo". It looks like it would hit my spot nicely.

Haha, jeez, that could be a problem. Not that I get nervous, but when something feels good or if I'm getting closer to orgasm, I always always always clench down really hard because I like the pressure on the spot I'm hitting. I don't really notice discomfort anymore until I'm finished at that point, so maybe I'm a little too rough in the moment. I'm a lot more careful when I'm just inserting at the start, since it's getting the head in past the tight point that really makes me wince.

I just wonder how gradually it should be. Hours, days, weeks, months? I've been fiddling with the 1 and 1.25" toys for a few weeks now, and 1.5" seemed to be the next size up as far as I could tell. I can't use firmer toys because they hurt me, but I've been doing good with the softer ones with jelly or silicone. The non-painful sex was actually the logic that got me to have the nerve to buy my first toys. I'm nowhere near ready for sex with anyone, but I like being prepared for the future. I guess I'm being a little impatient since the majority of the nicer toys that I want to try seem to be on the larger side.

Aaaalright, well, I decided to step up the size in my toys. Tentatively. Carefully. Slowly. With lots of lube. I went from a 1" dildo to a 1.25" vibrator, which was uncomfortable but doable, to a 1.5" rabbit. And, while the head's a pain to squeeze in past the second tight spot, I can get it in and rock it rather than thrust without any real issue while I'm aroused... But it's impossible to miss that the first time I got a few blood streaks on my fingers afterward, and tonight I got the usual little lube puddle with a red coloration on my white robe. Should I be worried, or just take this as a normal oops for a virgin playing with wider toys? I do have to give it a firm push to go in, and it's still an uncomfortable stretch going in, but it doesn't really feel like I'm forcing it past what I can handle since it's a softer material. Buying the 1.5" was initially an accident since I did my last shopping with a tired head, but I kind of like this new thing and I want to keep using it. I don't want to hurt myself or get an infection if I maybe need a few days to heal after a rip, though. Maybe I'm fussing over it too much. I felt sore, but that passed and I'm not in any pain.

Well, mine arrived. It's not quite as strong as I like, and I had a lot of trouble removing the small round tip once it was on and I wanted to try out the different shapes. That turned out to be the only one that didn't make the vibrations too dull for me to enjoy, though. It didn't manage to work me up, but it's probably good for someone who wants a gentler touch.

Oh gosh. I ordered this as a freebie, but I prefer a very strong vibration. Is it really just a medium?

Well, I'm an owner of a Squirmy now. It's a little wider than my 1.25 Ultra Smooth vibe, no idea what the actual measure is, and VERY LOUD. The noise is almost tolerable on the first setting, but the second? It's that kind of giant hum that can calmly buzz its way through thick comforters, turned up music, and walls despite all your efforts to shush. No shame. Pretty darn strong, though. I wish I could fit it inside, maybe that's the only way to dull the roar. It's nice on the clit, but I'd rather not have the whole house know it. I still think this is the most adorable vibrator in the world. It even smells like berries- in a good, tart way that I actually really like. Hasn't bothered my pasty, rash prone skin a bit either. The "spine" bends any which way you like, there's a button that you click through to turn it on to the first setting, second, then back off again- which is nice, compared to the twisty bottoms I've had til now that get awkward to turn once I'm covered in lube. If the Squirmy came in a mini size, I'd be in heaven.

Yep, I do. :} The hair actually manages to gravitate to the toy in the span of time between rinsing it off in the bathroom and bringing it back to bed to use. Can't even dry it on a clean towel without fuzz catching, haha

Very much so, but at least he sneaks back. I've experimented with my 1.25 toy again, and I've decided... it's definitely the firmness that's the issue. I can't take something that can't mold to my shape, so I'm gonna keep to the soft toys like my Tantus from now on. :} That does cut out most insertable vibes, though. The vibrators inside don't let them bend, and the ones with just a bullet dull the vibrations too much to even bother with 'em.

I wore my new kegel balls to work with the intention of getting some discreet fun out of them... but they were too small and subtle to have any effect, so I just had kegel balls inserted for the heck of it. No shenanigans for me, even when I try.

Oh gosh. Downside to the small size? I've lost him already. D: I went into my lil toybox for him this morning and he was GONE- and searching the blankets, pillows, floor, and even the nearby laundry basket turned up no dildo. I think it's safe to say my mother would have gotten flustered and mentioned it if she'd seen my dildo laying around somewhere, so he's lost good. ** Found him! He was hiding in the towel I had lain out last time. Crisis averted!

It arrived~ and it's perfect. Very soft, goes in smooth, and I can insert it up to where it tapers into the hand hold. I was expecting it to be firmer, and I'm glad it's turned out not to be. I'm not sure what I thought silicone was, to be honest, but it's like a cross between rubber and what I thought a jelly toy would be. I could thrust it however I wanted, with just a little stinging at the opening, and I could even insert my 1.25 vibe some afterward... but yes, a hard toy is definitely not for me, that one was still very uncomfortable. Now if only my cat didn't leave fur everywhere. No matter how I washed, I had to pick little hairs off before I could use it again if I set it down even on the cleanest surface. Dang fuzzbutts. Edit: On using it again, I think the Tantrus is actually my favorite toy now. I only needed the minimum of clit attention to come. Buuut I did accidentally use silicone lube on it, just not thinking. I hope a good washing makes it ok.