So it was totally unplanned, but we actually ended up having a really great conversation about the whole thing the same night as my original post. She sort of confirmed my suspicion that she wasn't a huge fan of oral sex, given that she seemed a little surprised when i told her I actually enjoyed it, but she was definitely open increasing the frequency (not only receiving, but also giving). I also expressed some of my fantasies in the better room, and to my delight, she wasn't freaked out by anything, and definitely open to trying some of it. I think the only disappointing part of the conversation for me was that she didn't have any fantasies of her own to share, but said she'd give it some thought. Now if we can just find some time to go down some of these roads :(. Having a 7 week old in the house (in addition to our 2.5 year old) definitely limits the amount of alone time we have right now. The fact that we were actually able to take a shower together yesterday (and yes, we did have a little fun in there) was a miracle in its own right!