I haven't had anal since the 90s, but long distance guy had me get an anal plug, and I've used that, a dildo, and a bullet when I've chatted with him. I've referred to myself as a 57 yr old virgin, bc my late husband wasn't adventurous at all, even when he was able to perform. I didn't realize until 2010 that he believed sex was "dirty". He thought he could get an infection 2 months after prostate surgery by having sex. He wanted me to be satisfied with only fingering. No kissing, no breast attention, everything stopped in the 90s. Been sexually frustrated since. My sexuality has been locked away for so long, I want to try everything I've missed.