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nothing worse than having to break out the brush, hairspray and rubberbands before sex, just so you can french braid the shit to get it out of your way before oral!!!!! I PREFER shaved on my hubby, PERIOD! I like a little hair on the upper part, it blends with that sexy slight trail of hair he has leading up his belly, to his belly button, to this chest. The balls? Better be slicker than a babies but if he wants me to suck and lick on them. I will purrrr and pretend to be a kitty cat all he likes, but I REFUSE to cough of hairballs!

I had glamour shots (pictures) taken a few years back. They put me in a leather jacket (nothing underneath) and leather skirt riding a Harley. They propped me with with a rose in my mouth and black shades hanging off my nose with a seductive look coming from my hazel eyes. Guess what? My Husband at that time (ex now, haha) chose a different picture for his wallet. Guess which one that was? It was the one where I had a womens suit on. Suit and skirt barely covering my ass. It was a navy pin striped suit. I had a white lacy camasole (slip) under that only showed the lace by the time the top button was done. Very little cleavage showing... hair pulled up with curl stringlets falling down and my reading glasses. They had me sitting on the edge of a desk with my legs crossed while I was holding what appeared to be a file of some sorts. With white plain hose on and navy heals.... No body parts showed, but my husband was SO TURNED ON TO THAT, and said that ALL the men he showed it too asked how much he had to pay me to be with him! Just funny how I purchased more of the "sexy seductive" type of pictures for him, and he chose the one I only had proofs of. Men always amaze me... so who said trashy-slutty is in??? Being a safisticated business woman hasn't turned out so bad for me..... Well... that was just my silly story... Think I will put that suit on tonight for dinner now.. haha...

Just a question... If you had a major surgery (lets say for cancer) and you were laid up in a bed for a year trying to recoup.... don't you think that although your hubby would care and still love you, that he would have sexual desires not being met either? Would you feel like it would be ok for him to mess around? The key here is, this is NOT a lifetime thing. He is simply gone for a year, not the rest of your life. YOU can WAIT! If this is his career and you knew it up front, to my opinion you are obligated to try your very best and support him. Part of supporting him, is being a faithful wife that he just can't hardly wait to come home to. I don't mean all this in a harsh way, just put yourself in his shoes. If you expect to have a strong relationship, wait for him. Don't think for half a second he wont face these same trials. My advice is to share with him how you are feeling, and explain to him all the thought you put into this and how you came to the conclusion that you just love him more than life itself and that temporarily satisfying yourself is NOT an option for you. Most adults are not stupid. Instead of you wondering if your "military" husband is having flings like a lot of military men do, explain that you are in this life together and you also have the same thoughts from time to time. Talk about these feelings before you do something wrong, or he does. That is why marriages and relationships fail. Men and women alike decide to "SHARE" their adultrous affairs AFTER the fact because of two reasons. Number one is the guilt eats them alive and they simply can't live without coming clean to their mate. The second is, they found the void filled with the other person and they want to end their relationship with current mate. Either one is not good. So instead of people screwing up relationships and killing people's souls, why not share your NORMAL feelings with him now? Girl these are NORMAL feelings! You are an adult, and a woman who has desires and needs. I know this sounds crazy, but if your relationship is great with hubby other than the lack of sex just because of distance... then masterbate like hell girl. EVERY CHANCE YOU GET> That will release some of your chemicles which could otherwise affect how you are desiring another man. It sounds like your attraction with the other man is stemming from the lack of sex with hubby... don't mess this up. What a caring and loving person you must be to see this up front, recognize it and get opinions. This site and these people on here could have just possibly kept you from making the mistake of a lifetime! Good for you, and good advice from all your friends here! One last note...whoever before said end your marriage first was RIGHT! If you feel that you will NOT be able to hold out and wait for hubby at ANY GIVEN MOMENT... it is not HIS fault. Don't kill his soul while he is busy trying to defend our country putting his life on the line there. As hurt as a mate feels when the other breaks it off, it is only multiplied by a thousand to find they cheated first. Hang in there girly, and best wishes to you and your husband! HM2

Mikayla is so wise isn't she? I agree with her. I also am a very WET gal... I don't think I am as you are saying. I typically just sop at the thought of sex with hubby, or right before or something. But I have been told many times that I am OVERLY wet. It use to bother me, until hubby told me how sexy that was. He said it made him feel like he was doing something right. I wish more men would reply to your message, as I think that is really the gender you are looking for opinions from. Unless you are lesbian or bi, aren't you looking to see how men feel about something that is none the less concerning you? MEN REPLY TO HER... haha. HM2

I am with you, she needs help! One thing for you to think about, quit feeling like you are doing something wrong, you said it yourself, you can't change her. Second, you might need to express to her that it hurts you to CONSTANTLY be compared to all her "past" lovers. When she tells you that she had sex for 20 years and didn't want to, and then tells you she just can't get into it???? DOES A LIGHTBULB NOT SHINE BRIGHT ON YOU RIGHT NOW? When she starts that, tell her. I just can't live 20 years or better with a woman that I am constantly feeling like doesn't really want to be there (in sexual acts). I deserve to have you or any mate that I am with enjoy this, and be happy about it, tell her. Telecom... suck it up. I speak as a woman here. Don't let your emotions over run you here. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her this involves BOTH of you, so you want her to either seek a sex therapists opinion, go to the doctor about it, or agree to start attempting to give you some of your desires. Let's be honest. If you men are correct and say it is a for real thing that you just have to cum or your nuts will fall off, then really... you are getting what you need right? You are having sex right? Just not the desirable king you are looking for? Tell her those are her choices. Tell her she has one week to set up an appointment (knowing that we are at holiday seasons coming up the appointment might be in January) but atleast get her committment and a committed day where you know help is on the way. Here is the hard part.. the ultimatum! If she does NOT follow through, tell her you think you need time apart. A separation. You need to think if you are prepared to live just like you are now (sexually) for the rest of your life. And DO SO. THINK long and hard about it I mean LONG AND HARD. These are serious issues you are talking about, in most couples it can make or break it. If after your separation you just can't live without her, desirable sex or no sex, at least you will walk with knowing that you had a choice that you CHOSE to be with her. Then you can ALWAYS go back to that separation point in your mind, and remember why you went back, it will be helpful for those times you get discouraged again and wonder why you are there. Make a memory in your mind. On the other hand, you just might find that your needs are very important to you (as most) and realize love doesn't conquer all sometimes. Sex is a HUGE thing in relationships. No matter what you decide, you are either going to make this gal one happy gal for life, or someone out there is waiting to meet someone just like you! Never lose thought of that! Smiles and best wishes to you my friend, HM2

I REALLY appreciate that reply from a man. I do understand what you have said, that is EXACTLY why I came to this site and didn't talk more to him about it. I don't want him feeling inadequate. What I wish you guys could understand more is US LADIES! How could you feel inadequate is my hard misunderstanding. If my husband wasn't so dagone GREAT in bed, I wouldn't want the seconds, now would I? If he were just ok, once would be enough. In my mine he keeps me so sexually turned on and wanting more of what wonderful sex he just gave me, but as I see ... in his mind he is failing me.... All the sounds great, but I feel NO FAILURE from him what so ever.. make sense?

Now Telecom?????? IF that DON'T WORK, run your little ass like hell, shit you have me melting.... gonna slide you home number to have you coach hubby on "speeches" LOL... JK...... let me know how that turns out

Sure glad you found it, I STILL HAVEN'T FOUND IT.. WHERE HOW?

Ok well maybe I am too uh.... simple? What about a BIG FAT DIAMOND RING wrapped in a pretty Red bow that is tied around your hard thingy-ma-bob? Just me though!

You will find this too simple to believe, and it certainly wont work for times she has to stay awake (ie... work)... but an old time doctor that doesn't believe in too many prescribed medications, told me to take a dose of benedryl 30 minutes before I went to bed. I bought the liquid and it HITS FASTER than the pills, but I get right to sleep and a great night sleep I might add. KEY IS... allow yourself AT LEAST 6-8 hours of sleep, if not you feel like POO the next morning as this is also an antihistamine as well as allergin blocker! Hope this helps, good luck!

I certainly go too quick the first time, but when attempting multiple in shorter amounts of time, hubby sometimes inserts a finger in each hole. A finger in your opening of your pussy wiggling as Mikayla described, and one inside your ass will SURELY get your super aroused eh?

Hey Telecom.. I am just going to get tacky here, and some times "tough love" or even "TOUGH ADVICE" might just be what you need right now, SOMETIMES TOUGH works, eh? Listen up!!!!! If this BROAD is totally ok with ingesting Prozac, or any other medications to stablize her moods or depression, why on GODS GREEN EARTH would she NOT be ok to take some labido medications? Ya know men and women alike out here...... VIAGRA has a name for a reason. Do women not realize exactly HOW MANY DRUGS are out there to enhance a womans sex drive? I had a historectomy (spell check) less than a year ago, and my hormones are ALL out of wack. The dr. said after a year if it is not better, we will check into medications. This is my poor advice, because obviously after reading all the thoughts on this site I am PLUM ignorant about a lot of things. However, my advice on this one is tell her that if being on mood enhancers is important to her and makes her feel better, you would like to take her to the dr. yourself and talk with the physician about the sexual enhancers out there. Ask her if she hates sex. If she does NOT hate sex, then she shouldn't have a problem with getting on something to help with your relationship. If SEX IS A CHORE TO HER like you feel, you have some deep seeded roots happening here doll! A woman that has sex JUST to keep her man, will eventually get resentful. She will feel like she gave you everything you wanted, but when she felt like she just wanted to snuggle you didn't allow her that. And even though you may offer her plenty of lovins outside of sex, women get moody and see things differently. I AM A WOMAN I KNOW! Just one more thought. I HATE and I do mean HATE to be forced to do something I am not totally ok with. My hubby loves BJ's.... what man doesn't. I can't deep throat or I'll vomit, so I have to use my hand while giving the BJ. Let me get to the point. I am HAPPY and LOVE giving him BJ's if he stays off my back about it. But when we are having sex and he guides my head there, or in 69 position either him on top OR me on top, he RAMS that sucker in my mouth, and I HATE IT. It doesn't give me a chance to prepare for the "gag" effects, lol. With this, I am trying to apply it to you. Have a talk with her outside of the bedroom, and try not to be forceful in the sack. By listening to you, I can't picture you physically forcing her, but words dig at times. And if you have shared these thoughts with her as many times as you say you have, SHE KNOWS. It is not that it is not so important to her, SHE KNOWS but is having problems. As far as the communicating thingy-ma-bob? Have you tried coaching in a soft sensual sexual way? My hubby is kinkier than hell, however he NEVER was a talker in the bed until recently. I don't know if you have tried this, if so disregard, if not try it, it JUST MAY WORK! I will pull his head right to me and whisper SOFTLY making sure breath hits his ear and neck and ask him "that feel good honey?" "You like that baby" "is that the spot doll", along with the I Love You's.... When you give soft talk like that not expecting a big OMG THAT FEELS GREAT HONEY.... it is a simple yes or no or even mmm she might reply with. But let me urge you on this.... when she DOES mumble even a LITTLE bit of communication, thrust her more or eat faster or carress more or kiss more, SOMETHING that shows her what that has just done to her. DON'T make a big deal VERBALLY about what just happened, because VERBAL is her issue. Make it short and sweet to begin with. Let me share this one last thing. A year ago my hubby could only grunt out ohhhhh myyyyyyyy Goddddddddd, when he came. But after the slow talking method, he will say crazy shit like "fuck me now" or "honey did I ever tell you how good you tasted". I mean stuff that probably you guys are all familiar with, but it SHOCKS me to this day. During love making, he actually tells me softly while LOOKING AT ME IN THE EYE how much he loves me while slowly and softly making love to me. We have progressed, but it wasn't over night. Hopefully my book has helped you telecom... I feel for you I really do. But you do need to keep in mind when you read these posts that you started this. People on here, or speaking just for myself, we see you as a sensative man that is eager to please his woman no matter how long it takes, but is concerned about her care. WE CAN'T HELP BUT BE ON YOUR SIDE!!!!!!! It is not that anyone is against HER, we are just replying to your posts, and feel.... feel.... TERRIBLE for your situation! Take the advice as care and run with it, don't get offended so easily and make excuses so quick for the woman that you are telling us is not giving into some of your emotional needs. It is not about us not liking her.. we just like YOU MORE.. haha... Take care telecom, and wonderful luck to you is my hope! HM2

Are you watching them with him? If not, there is your problem. Is he afraid to share that with you? If so, ask yourself if he is worth it. If it is ok for him to watch alone, and not with you, then something else is going on. Is it a normal porn (men doing women) or women and women, there is a distinct difference on that.....

I hear crazy! No matter how the orgasm, I need to be left alone down there for a few minutes. And sometimes he starts playing again before "she" is ready, and it takes a moment for the "painfulness" to stop before it is even enjoyable. It doesn't hurt like a knife stabbing, more of a sore, convulsion (HAHAHAHA) type of pain. Have you tried waiting about 5 minutes? Typically that is when I am ready to get started. In the meantime, I love hugs and kisses and fondelling, that sometimes gets me ready much quicker, especially if he is sucking and kissing on the back of my neck, I am ready for seconds in no time! GOOD LUCK!

Thank you Howard, the only think I guess I haven't put 100% into of what you said, is the talking part. I am afraid if I talk about it too much, he will become more paranoid. I guess he is a "differen't" type of man. He is more capable of cumming when he is control. He likes me on top for the first orgasm because that is how I cum the quickest, and he likes to cum together, however, he typically likes to be in control. That is my problem with him. If his head (the one resting on his neck) HAHA... would stop worrying so much, we might be ok. He GETS HARD.. NO PROBS! It is getting him to ATTEMPT sexual intercourse AFTER HE IS HARD that is a prob, he wont even attempt so that we CAN find a way that works. Hell I would be totally ok with 14 times him going limp, if we just found that ONE way that it worked. I don't always want a second time ya know, but it would be nice to have at least ONE option, for the times I did.... Well, again, thanks for the input, we might just have some talking tonight... thanks

Do you really want advise? I am not meaning that in a bad way, I promise! When you copy pasted the statement I made in the earlier (BOOK, haha) you copy pasted the biggest problem I had to overcome. Mikayla is EXACTLY right. I have issues as well, thus the reason for being on here, however, I have a very yummy sexual appetite NOW... NOW that I have gotten help and FINALLY understand that it WASN'T MY FAULT! I can tell you how I felt when trying to advance past the "fear of really knowing a man". I ran men off too! I was more of the type of woman though that did everything they wanted in bed, and then felt so ashamed afterward, which caused them to feel bad and run. It sounds like she isn't willing to attempt it. She HAS TO ATTEMPT some of the things that you are asking for, that is what mates do. Now if you are wanting to stick a cucumber up her ass, I am with her, NO WAY... HAHA (just a little joke to lighten it up). But honestly, in a relationship, my belief is this. EVERYTHING goes ONCE. If we BOTH LOVE it, then hey let's do it again, but if EITHER (not necessarily both) DON'T like it, we never do it again... OR we find a way that can improve the dislikes about it. When I asked if you wanted advise, I more meant that most of your replies are "I am in this for the long run no matter what" and that is great of you. However, at some point, you are going to have to either get her professional help (that could take days all the way up to years) OR explain how you love her, but this just isn't a compatible relationship. I have only heard you talk about your 16 yo, God bless her, but do either of you have smaller children? Hubby is 39 and we have a 2 year old, so just asking? That is also something else more people need to take into consideration about a working relationship. Telecom, if you do not get some type of help (if she was abused) you will NEVER be able to fix this on your own. How many people in your family are growing to love her? How sad to have this HUGE issue, and it is HUGE when one is not sexually satisfied to the fullest (trust me I know), and to work on it for a year or years, just to find it never was able to work, then all these people are drug into the mess of a breakup. I only say that because my children from ex hubby, are so hurt and confused about people entering their lives all the time, and then leaving. Heck, my 19 year old step son stays more hurt and confused than any of them... Well, just things to think about. That PROZAC can be a nightmare, why is she on THAT of all things! Do you know how many antidepresants are out there that work great???? And a LOT of them have little or NO sexual side effects! She of course would have to be taken off prozac slowly if she's been on it for a while, but Well Butrin works great, you have great energy with it. The down of that is insomnia, hubby liked that though because we found a good way to use that time I couldn't sleep (wink). Also there is Paxil, or the one I am on currently is wonderful (takes about a month though for full effects) Lexapro.... just some thoughts. That medicine may be hindering a LOT of what she is emotionally capable of right now, switch them up and see? Well, at some point I will be able to get shorter to the point, sorry to talk your ear off.... HM2

Ok Howare, that all sounded good if that is what I meant. I guess I said it wrong. He can get it up for the second time, but he will not attempt to TRY again. He went limp ONE TIME, and many factors were in that. I caught him right as he was leaving for work (the pressure of being late) he had just taken his medication (pain killers for his back problems) and the kids were due to get up. So I understood those pressures, and even though he felt bad, I felt bad for HIM, but not that we didn't do it, I understood. NOW, I will get him physically aroused, but mentally he is not there. It is almost like "I got mine, I gave you yours, isn't that enough?". Sometimes it just isn't. I have tried putting in a movie about an hour after we did, and as mikayla said, I tried playing with myself, and although that turns him on, it only turns him on to the point that he knows I need more, so he just pleases me by oral. How do I get him ready for actual penetration, MENTALLY? I must have been unclear about the physical, because I don't have that problem of getting him physically ready, JUST MENTAL. And even though he is ALWAYS so good to please me orally (he will do that all night if I need it) It hurts that I am not sexual enough to get the whole thing again, like he has no desire to please me that way. I can get myself off 50 times a day, I don't need him for that, but I do need him male companionship for my other needs, how do I get him excited again? HM2

Coming from a housewife that fears the unknown.... I WOULD...... find out where he will be staying the next time he goes out, and meet him there. Go during the day while he is gone, get yourself some magazines or good books to read, sit your little ass outside his hotel or apartment room, and wait for him to get back. If he comes back within an hour of the end of his work shift, then he is probably ok. (gives him time to grab dinner). However, if he comes in HOURS LATER.. question the hell out of him. The bottom line is this. You can't prove just by one visit if he is screwing around, but you will keep his mind wondering if you are going to bust him or not... sometimes men NEED to know you care enough to find out. Also, if it is the weight thing, you better get yourselves some serious help! Unless you are like model material, and one of these lucky ladies that gets your figure back to a tee... you will have stretchmarks, kangaroo pouch and other identying factors that show you have had children. Whoever on her said he was shallow if this is his problem, WAS RIGHT!. How would he feel if he came home from a run, and had gained 20 lbs from fast food eating, and you lost your interest? How fake, and how materialistic to form a relationship on looks. Maybe in the dating process, but surely not in the married and making a family process! GOOD LUCK...... HM2

Ok, isn't THIS a HOOT... Someone (ME) who has been on here asking and asking and asking for help myself, suddenly identifies with some of what you are saying. I have several thoughts here, bare with me. I am a victim of molestation and Rape, although this may be long... take time to read please, you might find help here (hopefully) First.... It does appear since she has brought up her "up bringing" that it could be one of two things. I am not in her mind, so this is not carved in stone, just my thought. The first thing is this. Was she brought up in a spiritual family? The only reason I say that is that I was, and having sex before "committing in marriage" always left me with a guilty feeling. I didn't stop doing it (with my now hubby) but afterword I was always left with guilt. And always left NOT being able to share my wonderful man with my family of which I am so very close to. Second is... it sure does sound to me like she was sexually abused. Either by her father, or someone in her family that possibly her father or other family members convinced her to "hush" about. This is a BIG ONE. Let me share with you that I was also molested (RAPED) as a child, for many years. I didn't share it with anyone until YEARS LATER, and that is my now hubby. It is EXTREMELY hard to gain trust from a man even years later after that happens. I was not in a 20 year marriage like your woman, but I was also in a 4 year relationship with an abusive boyfriend. One who beat me into miscarriages, or beat me when a man looked at me, or just when he had a bad day. He screwed my best friends, and later told me about it. I thought I loved him so much and that I deserved no better, until that last beating when I was almost dead. Now LISTEN UP TO THIS PART!!!!!!! I was in miserable shape when I met now hubby. I was going through divorce from hubby of 8 years, and dating on top of it. My now hubby and I drank a LOT, both of us drowning our sorrows! HOWEVER, drinking does bring down your "wall" somewhat. We played 20 questions a lot, and the more drunk I was, the more I shared with him. Sometimes the next day I could have killed myself (either because MY HEAD WAS KILLING ME FROM THE HEADACHE or that I have shared SO MANY INTIMATE DETAILS WITH A BOYFRIEND) BUt...... HE NEVER BROUGHT any of those personal issues up unless... UNLESS I STARTED it up again giving him the OK to talk more about it. Some people are lucky enough to talk without influence, some of us need a little encouragemnt. Let me share this with you, and you may not understand it. Like I have shared MANY times, I have been married almost 4 years to my man. It wasn't until LAST YEAR that I shared some intimate details of my rape and molesting relative. You know what the major problem is with being raped or molested? You know why they call it that, and they don't call it that when husband and wife, or girlfriend and boyfriend do "it"? IT IS BECAUSE if BOTH parties are NOT consentual, then it is rape or molestation. Your girlfriend, if being either of those, probably can't get past the "I DIDN"T WANT IT THEN< AND I CAN"T GET TO WANTING IT NOW" routine. Let her know, that when she says NO, it means NO. If you are trying a new position, and she says "what are you doing", softly explain your new method and ask her if "it is ok". Assure her that if she ever says to you, "NO, or I'D rather you NOT do that", then stop immediately. Let her KNOW she is in control of what happens. I recently started having urges of hubby coming in and just throwing me on the bed and pounding the shit out of me, holding my hands down and just going at it. You know why? Because we talked about it. We have ONE key sentence, and If I say that, it means STOP NOW I can't do this. Our key sentence is "Oh this wont work". So if I say stop, get up, get off, quit, your hurting me... all of that is sex talk (building on his masculine sexual turn on of having a woman his way), but it doesn't mean STOP! And I ENJOY IT, because all in all, and in the long run, I KNOW I am in control of my mind, pain or uncomfortable statue. I have one more thought..... Have you even ATTEMPTED to have her on this site to see what other women say? Maybe she could ask other women about her inhabitions in private? I can tell you this. Therapist, counselors.. ALL THOSE HIGH PAID PEOPLE never helped me as much as my husband has, or EVEN SOME OF YOU here on this site. They want you to relive it to get past it. My theory is this. The past is the past. It will only follow you if you let it. She has to understand that you are quite obviously wanting this to work, but I don't care what ANYONE SAYS.... You can ALL FIGHT ME ON THIS.... SEX IS A HUGE PART OF A RELATIONSHIP..... for both men and women. Some of us just enjoy it more. I will say this to you. I agree stronly with some of the others statements. You can't solve all the worlds problems. Do you know how many women out there would LOVE TO HAVE A MAN LIKE YOU? Only SHE can fix her problems, quit trying to fix her. If she has given you the out by saying you are not compatible, you know what that tells me? She would be just as clear if she were saying to you "honey I appreciate all that you've said. I love how you think about my feelings, and want to get more into this, however as much as I love you too, I am not willing to work on something that is very important to you". She keeps giving you the out, turning herself into the victim AGAIN. That is what VICTIMS do quite often, they blame themselves for everything, and since they couldn't fix it before, they feel no fixing now. Here is my thinking. If you express to you mate that you have a problem, and they suddenly revert it to "poor me, I never can be good enough for you", then RUN. That, in essence, means they don't care enough about YOU to try to make YOU totally happy. Why are you putting all this effort into a woman who is going to totally dictate how your bedroom activities go? And for the record..... YOU ARE NOT A PERVERT>>>>>>>>>>> Just a man who loves sex... I am with you! GOOD LUCK TO YOU..... hope your total happiness comes SOON, whether WITH HER or WITHOUT HER! You deserve happiness.... HM2

Ok, that helps a lot.. will try that tonight! I do have one more question though, lol. If the object is to keep the blood flow from "flowing" then how do you know enough is enough to get the sucker off there? Only when his pecker goes numb? Or other signs? Do men even feel it at this point, I would want him to enjoy it as well.

Ok OK this site has brought new meaning in all areas, but I do have to say... WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU MEN???? Do you have such a problem with being labled BISEXUAL? JEEZ! In my opinion, it is ONE THING to enjoy anal activity with your mate. If you are a he and your mate is a SHE, anal activity does NOT just mean you are bi or have bi tendencies. HOWEVER, you keep claiming, the lot of you, that you are not Gay. YOU ALL KEEP SAYING< I AM NOT GAY BUT I WANT TO FUCK A GUY SO BAD........ well I hate to tell you this, but if you want to fuck a GUY, suck a GUY, finger a GUY, beat a GUY off, suck a GUYS cum, and you are male, if you attempt it and enjoy it, you might as well call yourself bisexual or GAY. If you are just thinking it is hot and sexy but would NEVER do it, but you DO get turned on thinking about a hard cock, you are more than likely straight with bi tendancies. Here are my thoughts. If you enjoy it or think you would, what exactly is so wrong with being labled bi? That is a society thing. Just as someone made the word "shit" mean poo and be a cuss word, someone labled these thoughts and tendancies as Bi. I think we would all be suprised at exactly how many men have these thoughts and get extremely turned on, they just feel immediate rejection about them. Perhaps the way we were raised? Religion? None the less, you are who you are, call yourselves what you want, but it sounds silly to me to start a paragraph off with " I AM STRAIGHT< BUT I WANT TO FUCK A MAN AND SUCK HIS DICK". But again, JUST one gal's opinion!

Ok, very helpful, but still confused. He puts it around his nuts and ALSO the base of his penis?? So put it on his penis, and then put one nut in at a time until the base and sack are in the ring? I know, I know, you probably think I have a virgin mind, and I guess I do to a certain extent... grrrrrr.... thanks for your help.

Ok peeps! You people have GREAT IDEAS.. I just can't log off I am so curious as to your help! How do I get him hard after the first orgasm? I always want more, but he says he can't get it up again. I have gotten him hard again a couple of times, but he wont have sex. I talked to him about it the other night and he said he doesn't want to "fail" me if it goes limp. We tried to have sex one time in the morning, and it went limp while he was inside, he felt horrible! Then I felt bad for him. He said he didn't feel manly when he couldn't keep it up! I thought about putting a porn in the second time to get him aroused but if we are uncomfortable with that (the kids having sleep overs not knowing if they are all staying in their rooms, or if we are away from home and can't put one in), what to do then? Man, I am almost 32 and you would think I knew not ONE thing about sex. I feel so stupid, and certainly not much of a woman that I don't know what works well for my man. Any help out here?

I am glad this topic came up. My hubby is not young, and he can't last long at all! We continually have to stop. Any other suggestions for us "older" couples? I do have a question, do those cock rings help? We got some, but WHERE IN THE HELL DO YOU PUT THEM? Around the sack? Around the base of the pecker? Around the head? Put it on while he is limp, hard? What what what....we couldn't figure out a way that didn't look extremely painful, do any of you know?

HAHAHAHAHA.. CANCEL CHRISTMAS.. I hope that wasn't my son you were instructing, HAHAHAHAHAHA>>>>> LOL