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Dear Melissa, I also have had two threeways and consider them my most facinating sexual experiences for different reasons. When I was with a another man and women who were a couple it was very intense. We were two men on a mission: pleasing our woman. It was very hot. When I was with a female friend and her friend it was very different, much more relaxed. I felt incredibly validated as a male and delighted in the give and take between the three of us. By the way, none of us are hard bodies, just regular folks getting together for great sex!

Hi Happily married, I too am curious about these types of comments. Technically speaking I would characterise myself as bi-sexual not because I have ever had sex with a man but because I could see myself at the height of passion doing just about anything dooable. I was once in a three way with another man and a woman and it just didn't come up. We were so focused on pleasing the woman there was no exchange between us. I was so unbelieveably excited however that in the moment I would have done anything with out hesitation. Now that having been said, I consider myself to have a definite affinity and disposition towards women as sexual partners. I would not be interested in seeking out a male partner exclusively for asthetic reasons if no other. There is just something about cupping a womens breast or gently stroking a women's clitoris with my tongue that is beyond comparison. As for the " I'd like to suck cock but I'm not gay" rhetoric, I can only attribute it to very confused macho bullshit. My thought is if you want to suck cock, go ahead, just spare everyone and more importantly yourself the agonizing mind fuck.

Hmmmm, the best answer is that it depends on what kind of limits you want to impose either physically or financially. I have gotten off using a shower massage, a vibrator anally, fruit. If you want to go high tech you can try electric stim. One couple I was with the man had an electrode anally and the women also anally. In the process of having vaginal sex he came so hard he fainted. Needless to say this scared the crap out of me as I thought he was going to need CPR. He was right as rain in just a few moments but geez. Anyway have fun and test your limits. Don't let yourself get stuck with a simple masturbation sleeve, there is a whole world of fun to be had.

I am interested to get peoples perspective as to why do women seem attracted to men who are mean, nasty or downright dangerous to them in thier relationships. I see examples of this everyday in my work, in the media and in my own life. To wit: I was married for eleven years in a contentious relationship. I worshiped my wife and tried to anticipate her every need. I must have been doing something right because I was constantly shaking her collegues and friends off me. It wasn't until I finally pulled my balls out of her purse and DIVORCED her that she was half way decent to me. Then it took me five years to get rid of her!

I'm with you do not deal with jerks. Turn them to the moderator and exclude them from sending you messages if you are able.

Ok, thank you for that . . . next caller.

Yes, it is safe per se. You might want to suggest however if he is interested in more or different types of anal play that he use a warm tap water enema to clean himself out. This is a common tactic for porn actors and actresses. It makes for if not cleaner more palatable play. Also if it comes to anal sex from him-to-you I strongly suggest at least an enema for you and or a condom for him. It will reduce the likelyhood he will wind up with a raging urinary track infection. Hope you have fun!

I love this question and the opportunity to give an honest if not very abridged answer. I will conclude with a challenge for you. Firstly, from an entertainment perspective, porn represents a promise delivered. So much of visual entertainment depicting sexuality is a cop out. A passionate embrace followed by a cigarette in the morning or even worse, poorly simulated sex. Sometimes, when you sit down for a meal expecting steak, you want steak, not hamburger and not a lettuce sandwhich. Second, yes, I am a sexually curious person with wide boundries of interest. It is at these boundries that I have discovered facinating things about the sexuality of myself and others I have known. Don't get me wrong I do have limits most notably no children and no non-consentual sex or depictions of sex jump immediately to mind. Pornography and sexual acedemia as allowed me to explore boundries I would be very reticent to explore otherwise. Third, pornagraphy puts me in complete control of my own sexuality. A person who is not at the mercy of another for sexual gratification or validation is a person free to make their own way in the world. If I felt as desparate for sexual congress or companionship as a number of posting here or even the desparate pleadings in newspaper want ads I would surely wind up either a cuckhold or a priest or dead to deal with it. MY CHALLENGE: if you are enlightened enough to be curious enough about this with a stranger, ask your partner again about what pornography means to him. You may be surprised.

I love oral sex generally speaking but cunnilingus most of all. Its a winner all the way around. It is an incredible high to see you partner in rapture, to feel their body writhe with pleasure is fantastic. It is a feast for all the senses. Imagine my utter dejection when it turned out, after we were married my wife really didn't like oral sex giving or receiving? It is not an exaggeration to say it was a factor in our divorce. Thank God I have met with some very "orally inclined" ladies since then.

I got one for you, its called REVEAL simply stated, make ten cards each with a thought or fantasy you have never shared with your partner. Mix the cards up and take turns reading them. The caveat is that you must be truthful and non-judgemental with your patner. If you play correctly and with good spirit, it is a huge turn on. The most I have ever gotten through is five cards before we were "distracted."

Well, there have been excellent replies the two best I think are 1) he is involved with another person and or 2) You guys need to sit down and have a serious hart to hart about your relationship in general. From my own experience this is easier said than done. A point in your favor however is that you are attempting to reach for help in an adult forum. Good Luck. PS If he IS so superficial that he is trashing your relationship because "you haven't lost weight" you are in serious trouble from what I know of other so called men with similar mind sets.