I too am just getting into allowing myself to learn these things, personally about 3 years ago I ended up being a submissive it might have been the most enlightening sexual experience I had, prior to that sex was just a means to get my ex off so he would leave me alone, no pleasure… I didn’t even like it. During my sub experience I was also introduced to toys!! I was able to explore and touch myself because I was being told to do it… to please him it was amazing… I have struggled with having orgasms and typically it only happens with clitoral stimulation, but it’s getting easier to get there