I felt this way when I started dating again, almost 10 yrs ago. I had been stood up, used, and taken for granted. Oh, and don't forget the random dick pics when I was really just looking for a real relationship. FYI, don't send random dick pics to women, they don't impress us. If that's what you think we're most interested in, you're wrong! LOL
Everything is done online now, which is sooooo much more complex and complicated!! People can be whomever they want to be, including a fantasy "there's no way in hell" kinda person. I had 2 married people hit me up, then have their wives text me, saying *I* was hitting on THEIR man!! I would apologize, but let them know where I met them, and that they were the ones that hit on me, and that they would do well to rethink their relationship. LOL
The first guy I really felt attracted to, had used a pic that was 15 yrs old, and then, every time we did something, he said I'd passed a test....I didn't know it was an exam. Then, after we slept together, he said that his ex had contacted him, and that he was going to try with her. And that, maybe, just maybe, he should have said something before we had had sex....I said, um, yeah, cuz THAT wouldn't have happened!! He asked what I thought of that. I told him that if they were an ex, they were for a reason, and I wasn't going to fight for him. That I knew I was worthy of someone that could want me for me and be loyal, and would SHOW they wanted me. I then left, and never contacted him again. And, he was 5 yrs older than I am!
My GF and I met on a specific website for those with herpes, and so we didn't have to disclose. Both of us have always been honest with our statuses even before we met, with others. I never wanted to take that choice away from someone. The men I were with since my diagnosis never said no. LOL I always made them wear condoms though.
It was nice that my GF and I have the same thing, and we can empathize when one of us gets an outbreak though.
Dating to find love and not just a hookup, is a bitch......