thanks for that, very informative. but i must let you know that i have always shaved my "area", and i've masturbated since i was a child, so i know neither of those are the issue, i know what i want. However, just because i know what i want does not mean he does, so i really should verbalize more. although i will have to wait a bit to let you know how it goes, since he is in asia for a few months. I do have another question about our lovemaking: it seems the only way he can come is when i am on top(and sometimes in the shower), which i don't mind, but it does get routine after awhile, since we always go back to the same position in the end. that doesn't really excite me...i like sex in wierd positions in wierd places but that is beside the point. I want to know if you have any insight on how i might go about acclimating him to some less routine sex. i would be very thankful