You are all right. For me, its always a different way,Sometimes with toys on the g spot or my hand fingers or mabe my tounge .Some times i like to let her almost have an orgasm back off just alittle enough that she still enjoys it.She says she even has a bigger orgasm .I can tell.Then other times ,she likes a deep inside orgasm.I can do that with a toys or finger .She loves to feel me cum.I also ask what would she like?Telling each other what feels good works for us.Its ok to say what feels good and what dont,it only makes it better.