Kirk

Update! It has been almost 3 years since this post and little had changed until a month ago and holy cow has it ever changed. Let me backup for a moment, the past couple of years have been significantly better than the previous 6-7 years, but I still felt that we could/should have so much more. Even though I tried much of the advice given on this board I basically just learned to live with it (my wife's low libido) by convincing myself that I still had a better sex life than many. The past few weeks have been crazy, crazy good, with my wife practically attacking me in bed resulting in sessions that can last several hours. Letting me do things I thought she would never let me do again. For instance last night she wanted foreplay, lots of foreplay, letting me suck her nipples, nibble and kiss her all over and actually letting me go down on her even though she had not showered since morning, which I think is awesome because I love her sweet, natural flavor as opposed to the fresh out of the shower squeeky clean soapy taste I normally get. Then she let me finger her g-spot to my hearts content as I licked, nibbled and sucked her clit to several waves of orgasms eventually resulting in a huge, very wet, body shaking orgasm that squeezed my fingers harder than I thought possible, leaving her trembling for a few minutes until I mounted her, putting her feet over my shoulders as I thrust deep and hard, rubbing her g-spot with each stroke, ending rather shortly in a great simultaneous orgasm. I could go on and on about the previous few weeks (and I will gladly provide details if anyone requests it), but the fact is every few nights we have been having sex for hours resulting in complete exhaustion. Absolutely the best most satisfying sex in years. Finally, I am married to the woman of my dreams. I have to go now but welcome any and all guesses as to why my wife's abrupt change in libido. I will be back asap... Thanks for your support and advice over the past few years.

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I don't think they are sold here, but was just wondering if anyone here has tried them. Seems like a good idea if they really work as advertised. For those that may not know, it is a vibrating cock ring that is supposed to be thin enough to go in the vagina and stimulate the G-spot. You can wear several at a time at various places on the penis. Anyone?

I am a lucky guy, approaching the big 5-0 and have never had an E D issue more than a few times and ONLY when I was overly excited with a beautiful new woman for the first time. Even then each woman was quite understanding of it after I would go down on them until they would have a few orgasms. After that I would be more relaxed and no E D probs. My question is, I no longer stay hard after the first orgasm and it takes maybe 30 minutes for another erection, would a viagra pill work for those "special occasions" on an otherwise healthy person? In other words I was given one pill, should I try it or are the possible side effects not worth it since I already have some eye problems (glaucoma). All opinions welcome...

Do you think my tractor's sexy? It even has 2 seats and a sunroof. No joke. Of course it should since it cost more than my house. Not kidding here either.

I mentioned it to my wife shortly after I found TT, but she told me that she could care less what a bunch of perverts and sex addicts talked about even though I explained to her that I was here only to learn new things and give her bigger and better orgasms. She is content and happy with our relationship and isn't too keen on getting out of her comfort zone.

Funny you should mention the "Tickle His Pickle" book as I just put it in my shopping cart yesterday. I would love to get this for my wife as she could use a little help in that department, but she usually gets mad at me (or just ignores me) if I even vaguely try to give her some pointers and I will probably chicken out on the complete order from TT since the last time that I got her some toys she cried so much that we were both miserable. I have pretty much given up on all of my fantasies (and yes, there are many ) that I desire with my wife, except for one; I absolutely refuse to give up on my first fantasy. To watch a woman (preferably my wife ) masturbate. Even though rimming/anal penetration is my greatest desire, I would be satisfied if she would just masturbate for me! I have shared my desire verbally, but she says her fingers do nothing for her so she absolutely refuses to touch herself. What is really confusing to me is that she loves using a vibe on her clit every week or so, but ONLY when we are having intercourse (Trust me on this, after 15 years together with me sneaking in at all hours day & night I have never caught her even remotely close to a compromising position). She also refuses any foreplay other than her stroking me to an erection. Weird thing is, I have fingered her to strong orgasms several times over the years, each time assuming that we have broken through only to have her close her legs each and every time that I try to touch her. I jack-off at least 10-12 times per week, how do I get my wife to join me?

The "fleshlight" itself is 8" long and yes, the end has a removable cap. The AV (artificial vagina) is about 9". Your imagination is the key here, you can use them without the plastic holder; with your hands, between pillows, chair cushions, etc. I have 3 different ones (3 for the price of two deal) with the "butt" being the hardest to get inside, but once you do, it feels quite realistic as best I remember since my wife doesn't let me go there anymore . The material is VERY stretchy and realistic feeling.

Have you tried the "Fleshlight"? I too am larger than average and they work great for me (just don't tell my wife) . Check 'em out.

Here are some details about our (my) sex life. It has not made any significant improvements during the past year or so, even after trying and continuing with most of the suggestions from forum members concerning our mis-matched sex drives. She still refuses to look at the Too-Timid website or forums. I'm not really soliciting advice this time, just thought I would give you good folks an update, but please feel free to add any and all comments. A little history... We dated over 4 years and have been married 12. We are a physically fit and active couple with 2 boys, ages 5 and 9. I am 5'9" 155 lbs. my wife is 5'7" maybe 140 lbs. When we married I weighed about 145 and she weighed 120. Probably insignificant info, but what the heck. In the 4 years we dated we tried a lot of different things, some worked, some didn't, but at least we had fun experimenting, spending hours on foreplay and sometimes making out 'til the sun came up . I thought I had finally met someone that enjoyed sex as much as I did and would be ready, willing and able to take it to the next level. Things my wife currently will and will not do: Missionary sex: My wife loves it! She comes almost every time, usually multiple times and I am totally bored with it but continue to do it as best I can, ending in simultanious orgasms almost every time. She is perfectly content to do this once or twice per week and considers her sex life complete and fulfilled. No foreplay. Period. I love foreplay, always have, but now she despises it, says it's a waste of time. Our only foreplay now consist of her grabbing my penis and fondling it until hard after she gets in bed with her clothes on. I occasionally remind her that it would work better if she would just let me touch, massage and kiss her. All to no avail. I truly miss foreplay. She will occasionally let me go down on her and really enjoys it always ending in a great orgasm. Problem: She will only let me do it if everything is perfect (good mood, freshly showered, not too tired, kids asleep, etc.) so I only get to perform cunnilinguis once every month or so. Drives me nuts because I absolutely LOVE to pleasure her and would prefer doing it several times per week since she uses "Seasonal" (sp) for birth control. Also she clamps her legs shut if I try to finger her pussy or caress her butthole. Damn it, I want to give her a G-spot orgasm and/or finger her ass occasionally. Weird thing is, she used to be game for this, many times she had earth shaking orgasms while I simultaniously fingered her butt, massaged her G-spot and licked her clit, leaving her spent and trembling in pleasure from multiple orgasms. Ahhh, the memories . She hates giving blowjobs therefore I only get 3 or 4 per year and that really doesn't bother me because she sucks at it (no pun intended) . She doesn't like the taste of sperm therefore she doesn't swallow although sometimes she let's me cum in her mouth only to make a mad dash to the bathroom to spit in the sink. Boy howdy that's a real boost to the ol' ego . Oh well, I can live without bj's since she doesn't mind giving me a good hand-job almost every night. She admitidly does this because her libido falls WAY short of mine. 69. Always one of my favorite things to do and was a regular part of our sex life for many years. Now maybe once every couple of months. Anal. My absolute favorite thing to do. We have done it a grand total of 5 times during the past 11 years. Strange thing is I was finally learning how to take my time and do it properly. Ended up doing it twice in one week about 3 years ago, each time it was at her suggestion and she had tremendously powerful screaming orgasms resulting in her butt absolutely milking the cum out of me as it spasmed giving me the most gratifying orgasms of my life. The position we used the last 2 times were with me standing as she lay on the bed (it's pretty tall) with her legs over my shoulders or around my waist so she could have some control of how fast or hard she wanted it by using her legs to pull me into her as I massaged her clit with my fingers and a vibrator. Haven't done it in 3 years 2 months and 13 days. Vibrators: Loves to use a small vibrator on her clit on a nearly weekly basis, but ONLY during intercourse. NEVER uses it any other time even though she knows it is my number one fantasy just to watch her masturbate. She got very upset with me last year when I surprised her with a giftbox of sex toys including a Rabbit Habit dual purpose vibe. She has never inserted a vibrator in her pussy that I know of, but knowing how much she enjoys using one on her clit I thought she would at least try it and without a doubt learn to enjoy it. Boy was I wrong. Not only did she throw it away but she cried all night saying that her orgasms were not good enough for me because the package also included a dvd on learning the techniques for female ejaculation. So I ended up feeling like a complete ass just because I desperately want her to have bigger and better orgasms. Masturbation: She steadfastly refuses to do it with or without me. She also refuses to ever touch her pussy with her fingers even during intercourse. Although I do get to occasionally rub her to orgasm with my fingers while having sex, usually during the X-Factor position which we do about once every other month. Bondage: Tied her up several times including blindfolds a couple of times while we were dating and she never got too comfortable with it. I actually liked being tied up and taken advantage of by her the 2 or 3 times we did it. I was quite comfortable with it and have mentioned it to her but she has no interest. Things I currently will or will not do: Actually there is very little that I would not try with a woman. I am game for most anything as long as it does not involve another guy, urine, fecal matter or excessive pain. My favorites: Sex Positions. I love experimenting and trying to invent new positions, some that we have learned to do on our own have been very difficult to find in any books and when I do find them they are usually in the advanced positions section. Masturbation. Yes, a lot. You name it, I've tried it. Anal. I am willing, but my wife has no interest and has made that quite clear. She rarely even touches my ass even though I am meticulously clean including shaving that area during every shower. I have mentioned on several occasions that I am willing to take turns if she will just try anal again. Rimming. I love it! I love, love, love to rim her, but she is very uncomfortable to be on the recieving end so I only get to partake of this wonderful activity about once or twice per year now. Used to be once or twice per month, don't know why it changed. It is my biggest turn-on. She does reciprocate, so I am on the receiving end perhaps 5 or 6 times per year, always ending in a very relaxing and satisfying orgasm as she jacks me off at the same time. Toys/Vibrators: I like them and use them occasionally when I am alone. My wife has no interest in using them on me. A few things that we have done over the years: Made love outside in the snow Made love on the roof of our house under the stars Got caught by a stewardess on a redeye flight recieving a hand-job right when I was cumming. We had a blanket over my lap but it was pretty obvious what was going on and I could hardly talk when she slyly grinned and asked how the flight was going and if we needed anything? We had only known each other 3 weeks when she went with me to Cali. on that business trip. Things that I desperately want to do with my wife: Watch her masturbate. Watch her masturbate while I finger her pussy and cum on her tits as I kneel beside her. Use a vibe on her G-spot. Rim her as she masturbates. Put a vibe in her ass during doggie. Help her learn to squirt (she is convinced this is impossible and that any woman that does it is urinateing because she actually asked her ob/gyn who informed her that it is NOT possible. Trust me, I have tried to convince her otherwise) Repeat the night in a parking lot when she sat on the center console facing the back of our Jeep and let me finger her G-spot while alternately licking, sucking and rubbing her clit to orgasm after orgasm after orgasm, covering the console, my face, chest and arms in her sweet delictible juices to the point that she was literally shaking and trembling in ecstasy for almost an hour. It was unfreaking believable. She had had a couple of stiff drinks and wanted me to have a great time on my 20 year High School reunion. I knew she was EXTREMELY wet at the time, but now that I am more educated on the matter I really think she was squirting or at least on the verge of it. Use a dual purpose Rabbit vibe on her while we do it anally in the X-Factor position. Use a dual purpose Rabbit vibe on her as she lays on top of me facing up while I'm in her butt. Make a video of her giving me a hand-job and put it on the internet. There is a lot more that I would like to do with her but it is late..........Good Day.

I shave my balls every few days, usually during a shower. It feels much more sensitive to the touch especially during one of my wife's patented hand-jobs. Also feels better when she licks them, but I only get a couple of bj's / year so that's hardly worth mentioning . I also trim the rest of the pubies to about an inch or so in length. Just looks better in my opinion, plus it doesn't hurt that it makes my pecker look bigger . It wouldn't bother me to shave completely, but my wife hates when I do. I would LOVE it if my wife would shave that most beautiful of areas. Gotta love those landing strips! Anyway, I am fortunate that my wife is naturally lacking hair in that area, just a small soft, blondish tuft because she absolutely refuses to shave the pubes.

Waste of money. I was expecting great things and it does very little for me. I have tried it a number of times and it doesn't get any better. I actually find it somewhat uncomfortable and will be sending it to the dumpster (not mine, no pun intended ).

I thought many if not most women had used running water to orgasm. A few days ago I asked my wife if she had ever layed under the tub faucet or used a show massager to get off and she looked at me like I was freaking nuts, then told me that things like that only happen in my warped fantasies. Oh well, now I have another fantasy that will never come true...

That has also happened to me and I ignored it for a few seconds but when I looked up at her she was three shades of red and then we just couldn't stop laughing. Also, when we first started dating she didn't realize the amount nor travel distance/velocity of my ejaculate (something I have always been kind of proud of ), anyway, we were making out missionary style when she tells me to pull it out and cum on her belly, so being the gentleman I am I soon pull it out, she promptly grabs my dick with a good firm grip and is jacking away while enjoying the show and waiting for the grand finale. Remember this is the first time she has actually witnessed me cumming while not in her vagina or mouth. Well low and behold she had never seen anything like this before, I noticed her eyes were opened wide in amazement as I was shooting on her stomach, tits and neck, well she gives me another good yank and I remember thinking this could hit the headboard , well it never made it because my wife intercepted this rocket propelled spermatazoa......with her eye! Yep, right square in the ol eyeball. OMG, I will never, for the life of me, forget the shocked expression on her face as she looked at me with one eye closed and cum dripping off her nose and chin as she mumbled under her breath something like, "Holy sh__ this stuff burns when fired into your eye..." So, being the thoughtful guy that I am, I gave her diving goggles the next night when we went to bed....

I totally agree, it would be great fun but she is too embarrased to try it and is somewhat uncomfortable even talking about it as I have suggested getting one of those removable pulsating shower heads and she basically told me not to bother because she would not try it. I do plan to surprise her with a nice candle lit bubble bath with a chilled bottle of wine soon. After a few drinks and some necking I am going to try to get her to spread those long lucious legs and slide that hot little body under the bathtub faucet. More than likely I will get a dirty look from her as she exits the bath, but oh well gotta keep trying....