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I had a boob job on my 40th birthday. very well done and the only one who ever knew it was my husband, now x-husband. My 3 teenagers thought I had the flu for the weekend and I was back at work on Monday. Since the divorce a couple of years ago I have had several partners who loved them. I had sex with a guy I dated for 3 months and he never knew they were implants. No-one has ever figured it out by touch. You have to search for the tiny scar and they are as soft as real ones. I have never had a complaint! Only compliments. So go ahead boys and say you like them real but the truth is,... you just like them big! My current boyfriend is paying for me to have a re-do with a bigger cup size.. I am going for "Pamela Anderson" size this year for my birthday! I am happy for you girls who were born with them. But I have no problem buying mine, anymore than curling my hair. They make me feel feminine and I love the attention!

I agree that the tie up and the toy ideas will get you there. Good idea. When I first really learned what I was capable orgasimically, it was a boyfriend who loved to tie me up. He thought it was because it gave me permission to let myself go.. afterall he was in control. Good luck. You know you can masturbate in front of him without having an orgasim...tell him your saving that for his cock in your pussy. As far as anal goes, Mikayla's article is perfect. Personally after having him inside me vaginally for a little bit and when I am totally gone and have had several orgasims already.. then slide his cock down to the ass, after putting on some lube if you need it.

I would say something different. If he is having an orgasim.. who cares! I mean if he had some emotional issue with it then he would not cum. It might be physical, like the nerve ending thing that someone else suggested. But what difference does it make if you are both enjoying the sex. And sometimes it is easier to come with a hand good... at least you are involved with him at the time. Just remember what Elaine on Seinfeld said about her gay boyfriend.. "how can you compete with guys, they are experts because they have access to the material all the time." lol You are not doing anything wrong if he is having an orgasim then he's a happy man! If you want more involvement, learn how to give him the hand job that he does for himself. That's my only suggestion. Sounds like you're having a great time. just keep going.

Thanks for all of your responses. They are well thought out and I appreciate it. I think his curiousity and fantasy is just what we are talking about. On the 3 times it has come up over the last 9 mths he has always said "I don't know if I would like it". When I have asked him "do you want to see me with another man" he says "absolutely no". He says it doesn't matter to him if we never try it. When I told him that it could lead to us breaking up, he got really upset. And I am the one who brought in new things to the bedroom, toys, costumes and some porn. So he says that he thinks I would get into it. I know he is satisfied and very happy with me. What I don't want is for it is an unsatisfied husband! So here is one more bone for you guys to pick on....lol. We discussed it 2 times months ago and dropped it, like in April because I said I can't do it. The reason I brought it back up is because he was cleaning out his email in front of me. I think he was showing me that he was not interested in anyone else. We met on Match.com and he cancelled his membership that he paid for in advance etc. Well he cancelled another one. It was for the swingers network. I asked if I could look at it and there he was.. as a married man the year before. According to the last visited this site date, He had not been on the site since March 05, we met in Nov 05. It was them as a couple looking for another couple. So the story goes, he knew she was flirting with the idea of cheating and she would go out dancing all the time. There marriage was in trouble. She asked him to look into the whole swinging life-style thing. He did but within a month she moved out with another man and they never acted on it. He doesn't lie to me. And I know becuase I don't always like the truth. So I believe this is how it happened. So did he just get his interest sparked then and having a hard time giving up the fantasy? afterall he was in a bad marriage at the time, I am sure it seemed appealing. Or is it that he wants to make sure I don't get bored in the relationship? Or did he want to swing and she didn't that caused the break up? come on counselors.. what you think now?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. I am 40 and he is 45 and only been divorced a few months longer than we've dated. We are both divorced and both of our spouses cheating is what caused the divorce. We are wonderful together, have fun, play, talk, travel and the sex is out of this world. He occasionally mentions something about swinging and would I want to ever do that? At first I said I was curious about those clubs where you have sex in public. We almost went and then I got a visual image of him with another woman and couldn't handle it. I would be way to jealous. He was very understanding and said no big deal. Then the other day he said "if we get married, are you saying we could never swing?" He went on to say that "this is not a deal breaker" and I said no we can't. How can he say that he loves me and want to share me with another man? or is it that he wants so badly to just play around with another woman that he is willing to tolerate me with another man? And My big question is, will this ever go away? Or is this desire going to always be there? Should I give in and just try it once or twice? When I told him if I tried it, it could be the end of our relationship he got really upset. I just know me and I am not sure I could ever get that image of him with another woman out of my head. I need a man to tell me the truth.. can he get over this idea or is he destined to be a swinger or worse yet a cheater?

I think it is just a mind set. As a 44 year old, I have just learned to love to be f-ed in the ass. It was my idea the first time. No woman wants to be forced. But now My boyfriend says I have another clit in there! lol. I hate to say it, but try having a few drinks. Relaxation is the key! One must relax those muscles and then you will fit right inside. Oh and of course KY jelly is essential. After doing her in the pussy for a while, and she is all juiced up, pour some KY on and tease her there for a bit. Or maybe try a vibrating butt plug first. Let her feel the exhileration of all the stimulation a few times before you slip inside. Only a few months ago I had never enjoyed anal sex. Now we choose between which orfice the dildo goes into while the dick goes in the other one. I've never had such incredible orgasims in my life!

Trust me.. all she wants to know is that you are not cheating on her mentally. Tell her the mental image of her that you drew up in your mind that made you so hard that you had to get off. That's all she needs to hear. Then try some phone sex and get off together on the phone. Her first.. You wil be her hero!

I have worn the remote control panties on a plane. What I do is take them in my carry on let them inspect. No-one has ever questioned them. I go into the bathroom and put them on while waiting for the plane. I walk out and hand him the remote and then we have fun on the way to our destination. It's kinda cool because I am not good at being quiet while having an orgasim, yet am forced to be silent on the plane. Last time he was holding my hand and softly stroking. He whispered in my ear to squeeze my pussy when he squeezed my hand. About 5 squeezes in.. I was gone! We both loved it. I figure.. if they ask me.. I will just raise my eyebrows and say it's for recreational purposes and wink.

Tell yourself you are a sexy woman whom he desires and plan to be the assertive one. Plan some sexy panties or none and don't wear a bra. Be confident.. nothing will turn him on more than that! And just have fun! Alcohol seems to help too.