Hi VW, A thought occurred to me (doesn't happen that often). Maybe you could try to learn to get comfortable being on top of your man. To me, it sounds like the problem is not about physique i.e. he reaching and touching you in the right spots etc. I would rather guess that you don't feel yourself comfortable in that position with all the control. Perhaps you should get familiar with being on top without penetration. There's so much you can do on top of him without having him inside you; For instance, you can hug and fondle and caress him. You can rub your crotch against him and his cock. You can take an upright position and show him how sexy you look sitting on top of him, touching and fondling yourself. Or maybe, while in that position, you should show him how you please yourself when you're alone and thinking of him. Do all the tricks sitting there, try seeing yourselves in a mirror if you like to, but get comfortable. Do whatever it takes. Get confortable and aroused. That is a great position for foreplay, too. And when you feel comfortable, open your lips and take him inside. While it's important to realise that you're not supposed to do things that feel unconfortable, remember that only your own curiosity is the one and only reason for trying it anyway. And feeling comfortable about yourself is the key - it makes uncomfortable things feel much less so. Have fun!