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When giving I like for him to either stand up or sit on the bed so I can feel like I am completely submissive to him. I will often put on bright red lipstick so he can really see how much I take in at a time. I also like to look him in the eye to give him something to visuallize later.

Hubby and I have talked about it both in the heat of passion and outside the bedroom. I don't think it is anything we would probly do-just one of those things that is better kept as a fantasy in our relationship. We have talked about letting him watch me with someone else (side note, I offered to let him watch me with another woman, he said no-can you belive that?) If he wanted to persue it, I'm not sure how I would react. I think that having kids also changes things in how you deal with such topics and issues. I think that we may have persued it further if there were no kids involved. We did some awesome things when we could just go at it any time and any where we wanted...now, it is confined to a well scheduled date. Last time we went out, I offered him a BJ as we were driving around-he was concerned about having an accident and getting arrested because we had both had a couple of drinks! But I digress, I don't beleve a threesome is something that I would be prepared to do just because I know I would over analize looks and giggles between the two of them if it were FFM, and I really don't want another man so, FMM wouldn't do me any good!

OMG that would SUCK!! the timing of this post is funny- I was just thinking about this!!! Great topic!

Well, my fav right now is the only one I have--My little G spot stimulator that I got as a free bee from TT. LOVE IT!!! My hubby bought me a vibe a few years ago, but my cats got to it (Long story!) and this is the first one I've had since then. Hubby has always been able to get me to a G-spot O just using himself, but this little thing is AMAZING!! I use it just about every chance I get. We had it out last time we were together and it added a whole new level to the sex play and orgasm its self. Thank you TT!!!

The driving thing- I was told that after the vag deliveries that it was because your uturus hasn't returned to normal size and if you were in an accident where your stomach hit the wheel, you could bleed out if the EMS' didn't know you just had a baby.???

My children are 3 and (almost) 2. I was told no penitration for six weeks with my first, no stimulation with my second. Not that it mattered a whole lot with either one. I don't think I would have let hubby get close to me with that thing either way. Lucky for me, he was in the delivery room both times and it took him a while to realize I was a woman and not just a mommy. Of course, I would have given hubby oral had he wanted it or showed interest in sex at all. Hope that answers your question!!

I am comfortable discussing it with my business partner - I am with her 12 hrs a day!- and my sisiter-almost 300 miles away-- in both instansces, I will talk about querky things that happen, but not about tips or techniques. For that I come here!! I am also very confortable talking to hubby about what he likes, not so much about what I like--I am working on that part! However, not with my mom and never EVER with my dad! I think both my sister and business partner would b shocked if I shared with them everything that I did or how hubby and I got together in the first place- and mom would have a heart attack

I took him (now hubby) by the tie and led him down a hotel stairway and fucked him there I only spoke to him a few times and barely knew him-we were on a business trip--one of those what happens here stays here--now we have been together for four years and have two kids-guess it didn't stay on the trip. So, I guess that as a pretty bold move to let him know I was interested.

Funny, my hubby asked me to masterbate in front of him when we had been dating for about 2 months. It was the strangest thing I have ever done!! When I asked him why, he said that he wanted to know how to pleasure me (which by the way, he has never had a problem doing) and who knows how to pleasure me more than me??? But, I am up for anything so what the hell--- We rented a movie and I laid on the floor and let him watch. It was really a libertating experience- I didn't feel like I had to apologize for what was turing me on from the movie or what I was doing. It was also a very intimate experiece as he is the only one who has EVER seen me do it. It is such a turn on for me now. I don't ask him to watch, but I love it when he just takes the time to learn about me.

I have only done anal with one man- my ex husband- and now I want to try it with my new hubby. I have told him that I have done it before, and I know he has too, but we have never done it together. so my question is this: how do I ask him for it? We usually have sex missionary, but the only way I have done anal is doggy. I don't want to put too much on him at once- especially since the sex is just now starting to pick up after a year long drout. But since we are starting to do it again, I want EVERYTHING!! Any suggesstions?

As some of you know, things have been a little----slow----for hubby and I. We went out last night, just the two of us, no kids Well, he always goes down on me but after I cum, he is ready to fuck and doesn't always give me the opportuntiy to return the oral favor. I made sure I slowed him down last night and used some of these techniques on him...needless to say, he was very happy! (I'll be writing a 'story' about it shortly.) I wanted to say thank you to everybody here. I am so glad I found a site where we can all be adults and share tips and stories in an adult manner. I feel like I can go here and get some great ideas without it being 'dirty' or giggly in the high school sort of way.

Thank you!!!

i just wanted to stop by and give a quick update-- I got laid!!! (yes, by my husband) We had a wonderful night--and morning. He did admit that that was the first time he had been hard in a year..... recently we have paid off debt that that totaled about 800 a month so that burden was lifted. thank you all for your kind words

Ok, When I am taking care of myself, I have this image that still makes my stomach quiver..... Ready? Here it is....I think about my husband! One nightt when hubby went down on me, I watched the whole time. I will usually just sneak a peak now and then. That and the first time we had sex and he was behind me, he wispered in my ear "I am going to fill you" just before he came. Between those two, I get to where I'm going in no time! I will admit that This is the first mad I have been with that I don't have the need to think about other men/people/shopping when we are having sex. He is so skilled in what he does (when he does it) that with him is the only place I want to be. Another ode to him: he is the first mad who gave me an orgasem. Before him, I was wondering what the big deal was....now I know. With others, I never completely 'there' and my mind would wonder to my work day, or the stain on the ceiling!

Thank you so much for this post!!! It really helps to have a guys opionon on this subject. Since my post, I have started working- I am now working in a daycare (which allows me to stay with my children) and bringing home food money. He is in sales, and I know that is a high pressure job, (he was doing that when I got preg for both children). I try not to nag him too much. He is great as far as helping with the children and cleaning up the dishes when dinner is done. How long did it take for you guys to get 'back on track'? I just wanna know how much longer I have to wait

I have asked if he is still attracted to me-- he says he is. to be fair, I have changed a bit since the birth of our children. When I got preg for the first, I was a 14, lost the weight and then got preg for the sec. I am working on loosing the baby weight from that one now. I am in a 16, so not a HUGE differnce, but of course, it isn't just weight that changes, but your shape also. I am trying to fix that. This is going to sound so bad but-- he's not 'young' he is almost 47 *now, before I get a lecture, I know that 47 is not old, but I am not quite 30. It's not like he is in his early 20's*** We are trying to get together to make dinner happen...between babysitters and schedules, it's not coming together as fast as I would hope, but we are working on it. Thanks for your words and insites. I will keep you updated!

Ok. So here is the situation: We have been together for 4 years- two kids. It has been a year (yes, you read right) since anything has happened. I have tried buying lotions, making sure we had fresh condems, kissing, rubbing, even a blow job doesn't get him hard. I get absolutly no response from hm at all. I am getting to the 'whats the point' stage. I feel frustrated, unattractive and (except for the kids) worthless. Everything is great in our relationship except in this one area. He treats me well, I know he loves me and he comes home on time every night so i don't think he is messing around. (of course, i know that if there is a will, there's a way. but I have been cheated on before and know what it feels like....this doesn't feel like that. any insite/advise would be greatly appreciated! thanks

This is my first time, please be gentle It was a relatively nothing day. My husband had gone to work as always, I stayed home with the kids, as always. When 9:00 rolled around and the kids were in bed, Dan and I watched a little TV. Shortly after, he went to sleep; I stay up later than he does. I was hoping he wouldn’t go to sleep quite so fast because I had been thinking about him all day. I snuggled in close to him and nibbled a little on his ear lobe. But, tonight wasn't my night. I got out of bed and sat in a chair across the room and slipped off my panties. The oscillating fan blew a breeze around the room that made my silk nightie cool against my skin. I laid my head back and spread my legs. While my left hand lightly pinched my right nipple thru the nightie, I let my other hand slowly slide down my body to the tightly shaven patch of hair between my legs. I spread my thighs slightly further as I twisted and teased myself. The fan would blow on me, then recede like an ill mannered tide dancing with the moon, the breeze ebbed and flowed. I dipped my finder in my pussy getting it wet and massaged my clit while letting out a small sigh. I closed my eyes as I continued to give myself the pleasure that Dan was to tired to give me. I brought the finger that had been toying with my clit up to my tongue and wet it. I like the taste of myself when I get wet and the added fluid excited me more. I continued to rub and pinch my clit and dipping into my puss for more liquid. Faster, faster, spreading my legs further as to not inhibit my attempt to satisfy myself. My breathing got heavier as I got closer to climax. I could feel every inch of my body coming alive. My breasts had grown hard and the nipples erect due to the silk rubbing against them. My pussy wet and aching for the final release, I could feel the muscles inside me wanting to hold my fingers were they were as I went back for more lubrication. I don't know what caused me to open my eyes at that moment, but there he was. Dan had been standing there watching me for I don't know how long. Startled, I started to get up when he stopped me "No, I want to watch." It took me a moment to get back into it, but in what seamed like no time, I was back to the brink of coming. He kneeled down in front of me and did just what he said...he watched as I pleasured myself. Watched as I put my finger into the wetness. Watched as I licked my lips and watched as my chest heaved with heavy breaths and moans. Just as I thought I was going to come, he moved my hand out of the way and I felt his hot breath on my thighs. His tongue lapped at my inner thigh his finger had replaced mine inside me. He had two fingers inside and his thumb was on my clit rubbing it expertly as he always did. I put my hands in his hair and laid back to let him do his work. He took his hands and placed them on my hips. His tongue plunged deep inside me, then licked my clit and back again. He sucked and bit me expertly. As I started to tighten my things as I got closer to climax, I felt his hand clamping down on my legs. At just the right moment, he reentered me with is fingers and continued to lick me. I never knew the g-spot existed until the first time he went down on me. Now I crave this moment. He goes inside me and hits that spot at just the right moment. I scream and wiggle against him as he holds me tight, intent on making sure I get all the pleasure I can handle. I feel as if I am floating and the only thing that exists in the whole world is between my legs. It transcends him, me, the act, everything. Higher. Higher. Higher. Almost there. Almost there. Almost..... All at once my body collapses in a shuttering mass of pleasure and I make uncontrollable noises and movements. Dan holds tight, tighter as the orgasm rips thru me. My mind becomes blank, my fingers and toes tingle and my heart feels like it is going to explode. I want this moment, this feeling, to last forever. Dan gives me a couple more gentle licks and a kiss. He lays his head on my belly. A few seconds later, he is snoring again.