ShyBear

A bowl of the premade jello.

OMG That is too funny!

Elise, I like you way of thinking...They sound very versatile. I think I will take you idea and run with it myself. Thanks, Look forward to trying them out!

I have 3 children and never had problems having sex while pregnant with any of them. In fact the Ob/Gyn encouraged us to have sex since it kept the vaginal area stretched well and said that I would be less likely to tear or need an episiotomy during labor. He was right, not a single stitch with any of them. For your guy to go from having sex with you all the time to not having sex he is apparently under some heavy duty misconceptions about pregnancy and sex. If it is because he doesn't like "Big Women" and he is anticipating that fact, then he just plain needs to grow up. First, you are not going to be "Fat" you are going to be pregnant, that is a baby in your stomach, not blubber. Second, it is only temporary. Once you have the baby much of that will be gone. The rest is up to you of course, but still, he has to realize that what he is getting in the end has to out weigh the fact that you have a few pounds. As the others have said....have him go with you to the OB/GYN and listen to what they have to say. Show him in the pregnancy books. "What To Epxect When Your Expecting" was my pregnancy bible, maybe it will help you out with him as well. ShyBear

*leia, well, if your weird, then so am I, lol. I find vampires to be a turn on as well. Not all of them of course but definitely as you said, Interview with a Vampire, Underworld, Angel (everytime he changed I got turned on), even vampires in stories that I have read turn me on...I don't know it is the romaticized image of them or just the thought of having the side of my neck bitten...lol. I like my neck nibbled and bitten on. Either way...I am with you on that one! ShyBear

I have never been caught so no one has ever made me feel guilty. No one except myself that is. I guess because of how I was raised. I have begun feeling more and more comfortable with it though lately since I have been on this site reading and because I have male friends who tell me how cool they think it is that a woman does that. I was surprised. My guy told me he thinks it is great that a woman can feel comfortable pleasuring herself. If we don't get to see each other we sometimes end our phone conversations with sex talk and he will ask me if I am touching or playing with myself. So no, no one makes me feel guilty but me....I need to learn to relax and loosen up without the guilt that follows. ShyBear

Howard, You must be a gifted man...lol. I will snap at you one minute and pull you close the next and be like "sorry, sorry, sorry!!!" You would swear I was bi-polar once a month...I am not of course and I have seen woman far worse than me. I am blessed enough not to have the cramps but I have everything else. Luckily, I have managed not to alienate those closest to me and my poor sons still don't know why they are always wrong at certain times. They just recently learned about this stuff in health this year at school so they are starting to slowly piece things together I think. When they are older they will probably ask to go live with Dad for that week...lol. Can't say I blame them. Maybe you could post some tips on here for men on how to help women handle their pms if you have more ideas. May save some headaches for them in the long run and make heroes of them in the process...lol. ShyBear

I have never had a wax either and I don't think I would want one in that area. Like Tyger I use the Venus Divine Vibrating razor. It is terrific. The only problem I have is that my skin is still very senstive in my pubic area. Even after nearly 20 years of shaving it bare, I still get red bumps occassionally or even razor burn, even with a new razor. I think I am going to look for the product Mike_d is talking about and see if that works. Right now I shave with my body wash, which is the only thing that does not irritate the rest of my skin. That would Dove Body Wash. I use the cucumber/green tea version. If anyone has any other suggestions on how to "beautify" this area so that it doesn't look like a puberty stricken teen forehead when I undress, I would really appreciate it. Thanks! ShyBear

Howard, I have heard this story before, only a little differently, same basic ending though...I died laughing when I got to the end...My thought was that I felt sorry for the guy when he got home...Goes in to by tampons and goes home with a new SUV and a Boat...Doesn't a guy no better than to spend that much money when the wife has PMS...lol. I love the post by Whiskeywoman...Those were great...laughed my ass off!!!! ShyBear

This looks like a really fun thread....I think for those who like to be "in control" out there, either WHIP IT or Janet Jackson's CONTROL.

Congratulations Whiskey! I will be the first to tell you that online classes can be very rewarding and very challenging at the same time. I recieved my BS in Criminal Justice from an Online University in May of 2006. It was not an easy feat the first year...I was working 40-50 hours, coaching soccer, and taking care of a family...BUT....it is doable. Just keep your eye on your goal and you will make it happen. I met some of my dearest friends online through the university...Most I have still never met in person but after 3 years we all still talk and email each other. It was the best choice I could have made at the time for myself. If you have any questions or just want to chat about the online forums just shoot me a message, I would be happy to share my experiences with you. Best of Luck to ya!!!! ShyBear

I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this anywhere but what works everytime for me is teasing my guy...I don't just dive in to sucking his cock. I tease all around him first with my tongue and then do as Tyger suggested...treat him like a popsicle...but just for a few minutes. I take advantage of every area surrounding his cock as well. That is not just wasted space. That is all senstive area...you can run your tongue along the crease of his leg, suck that area, or blow little kisses along it. It can become very sensitized and cause your guy to really squirm. Then you can go back to licking again...but just for a minute...because then you might want to try licking or sucking his balls...but gently..they are tender on some guys. You can use your hand to rub his cock at the same time. You can also, if you want to really make him squirm, take your tongue and make a trail leading from his anus, (some guys really like this area licked), up his scrotum, all the way back to the tip of his cock...then swallow it whole again. Just whatever works to tease...don't give him the satisfaction of making you keep you head in one spot...You take control and give him the pleasure...Don't let him know what to expect next. Works for me everytime...

You know I dated a guy many years ago that claimed to love me and would do anything for me. He would do anything but that! He loved having his cock sucked on a regular basis but when I would try to get him to go down on me he would balk. His excuse....."baby..it just seems so degrading to you." I was like "excuse me....I happen to like it and if I don't feel degraded then it is not degrading to me." The relationship didn't last for other reasons but I think perhaps he was inexperienced in that area and just was not comfortable. I think he used the degradation card as an excuse not to try something new. This may be the case with your guy. Maybe his "bad experience" was a situation where he was unable to satisfy a partner this way and feels he won't be able to satisfy you either. He could be worried you won't like it. He may just need some coaxing and reassuring that you will be comfortable with whatever he does for now and that you will talk to him and tell him what you like or dislike. Hopefully, you have a relationship in which you can discuss these kinds of things together. Sit down and talk it out...surely you can come to some sort of solution here.

Thanks Valntyn, Open and Honest is my policy and if you don't know...ask. Trouble is...sometimes you just aren't sure how or what to ask...lol. That is why I came here. This site is just a wealth of information. When I met my guy I told him if you wanna know something you better ask, don't just assume. I'll tell you whatever you wanna know. I don't deal in pretenses. He is the same...He tells me if you wanna know just ask.."I won't get mad, I promise, no worries ever." LOL...Gotta love his Aussie accent. He is very easy to talk to and I forsee no problems in communication between us. He even handles my cranky days like a champ...lol. If I could stress one thing to couples it would be to communicate with each other about what you want or need. Not just with sex but with every area of your relationship. You can't expect each other to always know what the other is thinking. Thanks for the Good Wishes! ShyBear

Thanks for the great input guys. It really helps and I feel alot better about the whole thing now. I spoke to my guy again last night on the phone about the subject and asked him if it was something he really, really enjoyed or if it was a new idea to him as well. He said he had tried it before and he enjoyed it but it wasn't something that was absolutely necessary. If I was not comfortable with it then that was ok too. He said he was just throwing out ideas that would give us some adventure and add spice to our sex. That really meant alot to me that he would put my feelings and comfort level above his own because he knows that I am not on the same level of experience that he is. He is very patient and understanding. I told him that I had mentioned to him before I would open to new experiences because I needed that for myself as well and that if that is something he wanted then I would be open to trying it. I made it clear to him that the pleasure in sex is not just for me, I want to make sure he is happy too, it works both ways. I think he understood that and appreciated that. It is so hard to tell a persons reactions over the phone when you can't see their face. So I am looking forward to seeing him next week. We have a semi LDR. He travels alot for business, like right now he is away...when he is home he lives 30 minutes away, but it is not always convenient to mesh schedules to see each other regularly. Again, thanks for the support and comforting advice. ShyBear

I am really new here and very shy about being here toe be honest so bear with me. I just recently, at the encouragement of an old friend, bought a few toys to experiment with. He suggested two in particular and then I added two to the list out of my own out of curiousity. I actually logged onto here because I had a question not about the toys but about sex in general but browsing through the different topics I think I found my answer in the Anal Avenue section. Here was my dilema: I have met this really great guy that I am really really into. We have great talks about everything including sex. Well, previously, my sex life has been really dull. I mean almost non existent...previous partners have always left me less than satisfied...anyway....he was telling me what his idea of how sex should be and I was like totally amazed because in my mind, I thought the same...I thought I was the only one on earth that was thinking this...so I told him I agreed with what he was saying and we talked more. Well, everytime the subject would come up in the weeks that followed I would learn something new about him. For example..he likes to be submissive and be told what to do. He likes to be "put in his place." I thought about this and thought that this was perfect because I have always wanted too be more agressive sexually. Don't get me wrong...nothing S & M here, no whips and chains or that sort of thing. He likes to be "slapped" and told if he is doing something wrong and that sort of thing but that is as far as it goes...I have not done that though....Again, this avenue of sex is new for me. We have had sex only once and it was amazing. He did what I said and begged for more...lol. I can't believe I am telling all this...I was very shy with him though and not as verbal as I would have like to have been. I know it takes time. Now then, I know he likes his ass played with and everything (alot of guys do)but as we were talking today he tells me that if I want I can use one of my toys up his ass. That kinda threw me for a bit so I told him I would think about it and he said ok. That brings me here in search of my answer to the question I had...which was..can a straight guy really be straight if he likes anal sex on himself? I found the answer I think in the Anal Avenue section reading about all the happily married guys who enjoy it. I guess it is just a little wierd for me having never done anything like this before and toys really still being new for me to begin with. Sorry if it seems I am writing a book here but this is not something I can just go over to my best friend to talk about...neither are experts on this subject and I don't want to offend him by asking him that question either...I really like him, I don't want to hurt his feelings and ruin something potentially great between us. Thanks ShyBear