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Mikayla is so right. You are just now starting to learn and experience sex. Self confidence is sooo important here and this guy seems to be trying to undermine that for you. I suggest you read up on every aspect of sexualty (this web site is awesome for that)....the more you know and expose your mind to, the more you will become attuned to your own wants and needs. I have been very open and encouraging of my daughters to learn and enjoy everything there is about their sexualty (that includes being smart and responsible)because I don't want them to miss out on how great a part of life this can be. I was raised in a very repressive home and my knowledge and sexual confidence at your age was pitiful so of course that affected the quality of my love life for years...I chose a man who was "non-threatening" sexually because I didn't feel confident enough to let go with a more experienced lover.(Big Mistake...his not being "dangerous" was more about his inexperience and selfish little boy attitude of "it's all about the guy getting off as fast and easy as possible and not really giving a damn about yours and I wasn't confident or smart enough to demand my share) Don't waste time in any relationship that is not a reciprocal give and take. If you don't feel the fire get out before you waste too much time and find someone who does get your blood pumping. There is nothing wrong with you! Always keep in mind that you are a beautiful woman with much to offer. When you feel it go for it, but don't try to force something that isn't there! Hope your life turns out full, hot and awesome!

Thanks guy! Am definitely going to bone up on as much info as possible and go with him for his next appointment. He was basically told several months ago that he was in terrific shape and all numbers where great. I can see where blood pressure meds might be necessary due to heredity and whatever, but I am more and more convinced that the drug companies have got these doctors so freaked out about cholesterol that they have totally gone off the deep end prescribing statins to everyone and their dog! We both realize at 46 some mens responses slow down, but his almost total sexual shutdown is just not normal. I'm going to make him an appointment with a urologist who might just take his complaints more seriously. I'm so grateful to all of you here for your insight and comments!

Did some research of the meds my husband is taking and sure enough I came across alot of info about them (blood pressure, heart, cholesterol meds) all causing serious sexual side effects like NO libido and NO erections (sounds like the cholesterol meds are the worst). Unfortunately the doctor just says "Isn't the Viagra working?" Well not much....besides it's crap to have to take another damn med to counteract another one and if I'm gonna have to freaking pay for sex I think I'd like a professional please. (just kidding.....sort of). Anyway, I was wondering if any of you guys out there have any experience/advice with this. We are going to put him on a natural cholesterol lowering diet, get him walking at least 30 mins each day and slowly wean him off just the cholesterol meds for a while just to see if things change. He's not in bad health anymore and has never been overweight, and he's pretty much stopped drinking so I hate to give up and let the medicine that's supposed to be good for him mess him up in other ways. He really has been trying to help improve our encounters lately too, we're both enjoying the new stuff we've been implementing from what I've picked up here. Am expecting another large shipment of goodies from you all next week....Yay! And he's looking forward to it too! It's just difficult for him because of this chemical impotence bullshit.

Howard, I know it is extremely bad to ask for free advice, but I have a situation sort of like this coming on. My father probably won't be around a year from now due to failing health and you never know but my mother is not much better, but we are also worried that if he has to go to a nursing home first it will bleed my mother dry of what they have. Is is better to set up a will or a living trust now? Should we put all their assets into mine and my brother's name now? Do you recommend we see a lawyer about this? It's not like they will leave a huge estate or anything but we want to be sure what's left is split up fairly and doesn't get lost in red tape. Thanks for any advice! ''

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I don't know if there's a specific job that makes someone hot, but I'll tell what is a major turn-OFF....Guys who put forth that obvious "I'm such a successfull stud I can do anything with a hole" attitude. I've know car/business salesmen, and your "white collar business men" types who may be fine looking, but that calculating, conceited personality will never win out over a guy who is real and down to earth.

Ooh, fun question. I'd have to go with a young Harrison Ford and Tom Hanks. I never much cared for "pretty boy" types. A good sense of humor and a little swagger is always a turn-on. Jack Sparrow does it for me too! And there's much to be said for a firm, tight ass!

OH YEAH BABY!

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Have any of you other 40ish ladies found this to be the case also...It seems that my sex drive has gone into hyper-drive in the last few years... Absolutely cannot get enough and am game for anything and everything. Unfortunately hubby has never been a particularly studley type of guy (although a very good guy) and these days his interest, abilities fall far short regardless of Viagra and all the hot, new, intense things I introduce into playtime... Oh he enjoys it well enough and for him he's trying...unfortunately I'm at a point where I need and want more, so needless to say I am spending an inordinate amount of time (up to 3 times per day) with my toys, movies, and erotic literature. Isn't it a shame that when we hit out hottest peak we're kind of out there alone! Oh well, thank god for toys and good fantasy!