Sorry if I sounded harsh, but this guy is looking at this as a fuck buddy situation, as well as that was what this was originally supposed to be by your post: Your quote: "how could I do this seeing him for the first time" but i felt comfortable because we were friends.. so after that we would see each other maybe month , or every other month. Nothing serious. My big point in this is when we get togther we sit , talk, go to the movies and he is always real affectionate.. like if we had a "relationship". I mean "f*** buddies" well in my experience just do the deed and move on.. never cuddle or be kinnda romantic." So what does this tell you? This is how he is acting. This is apparently what he is looking for. Casual sex no attachments. Then you said: "SO we are laying on the couch and he is holding me, and I say "so what is this a "Casual relationship?" And he like yeah you could say that! BUT wait there are two definitions to that term.. and he is so hard to get things out of , maybe he is afraid to say to much , so he wont get attached. but its killing me!! I just want him to express in words. As I said in sex he does , I think when someone is very attentive with kissing and touching gently and almost lovingly , that says ALOT!" Which says to me you want more than he is willing to give. And I think he's rebound material, and you need to sort things out as Tango said. Just my .02