I think flirting is a double edged sword. Some flirting definately is harmless. Some is not. A comment made in playfulness is so much different than being purposefully suggestive to the point where it's ongoing day in and day out or directed continuously to the same person. Then it's not flirting it becomes pursuit. People that do it to the extreme and continually when they are in a committed relationship do so because their esteem is in the gutter. They need the ego stroke. Or they are looking to fool around on the side with a "safe" means. The problem comes into play when it's done repeatedly and at the expense of their s/o/ I see it all the time. People in supposed loving, committed relationships, where the sex is super hot, flirt and cross the line over and over again. That behavior is sickening imo. How can that be beneficial to a healthy relationship? Where is the respect for your partner let alone yourself? I have enough respect for myself and for GSK that I would never hurt him, myself or what we have to even want to do that. Sure we make comments in front of each other at times to someone, but it is in jest. And we both know it. I have had pms sent to me from guys and I ignore. No way would I act on it. There's no reason to. I suppose it's the difference between a secure mature person and one that's not. Neither him or I would take it out of the line of vision of the other by flirting in a pm or an im or away from the sight of each other. That's a huge red flag. When it gets to that level it's cheating. And there's simply no reason for it. If he can't deliver for me or me for him what we need, we would have to look at why we are together. But yes, we see it among people we know all the time. And the sad fact is that those people are the ones that have their spouse or a partner cheat on them and then they wonder why. ETA: Ak you can flirt with GSK, and yes he does have a cute tush. But then again your husband's is magniffficent