It's usually me that brings out the toys before we get started. I love to watch my wife play with any and all of them and I'm not in the least bothered or intimidated by them. They are actually a turn on for me. It's hard for her O from IC alone but between the toys, some oral and some G Spot stimulation with my fingers she will usually have 4 to 6 good O's before we ever have IC. Sometimes during IC I'll stop short of going myself and treat her to another round before we finish up. I love to please her and see that totally satisfied look on her face when we are done. MOHD