Jen

To cut or not to cut...that is the question. I wish I could help you out here, but it has only been my experience to be with circumcised men. We may need to leave this up to our readers. Any advice for our friend? Jen

You have a point. But I'm still going to disagree. If his girlfriend is already mentioning penis enlargment as a solution to his penis size than it sounds as if she's beyond just enhancing their sex with toys. But you do have a point--"Ichiro", think adding some va-va-va-voom to the bedroom would help cpnvince your girlfriend that a 6" penis is just what she needs????? Can't hurt! Good luck, Jen

Always glad to help! Jen

fan-ta-sy (n) the free play pf creative imagination. a creation of imaginative faculty whether expressed or merely conceived. That is the beauty of fantasy--anything goes, it's safe, and the sky's the limit! May your imagination run wild. Jen

My goodness! You have all just taken this topic and RUN with it! I am beyond thrilled and totally tickled by the advice being shared! Keep up the good work and keep those ideas flowing! Jen

aliciasexcrazy, Kiddo, all I have to say is that you might want to lay off the "sexcrazy" and focus on the education. If you put as much effort into your spelling as you do your blowjobs there's no stopping you! Jen

A good friend of mine is known for a great quote, "We each get down in our own way." I like to think he's right. If wearing women's panties is what does it for you--than wear those panties! Now what do women think about that? I'll be honest, if I was hooking up with a guy and came to find that he was wearing women's panties I'd be shocked. But I think it's mostly shock from surprise (I mean who wouldn't be surprised to find that under an expensive tailored suit was a pair of panties!) Bottom line? If you're happy than stay happy...just realize that it varies from the norm, so you'll probably get some type of reaction. What type of reaction? Depends on the girl! Good luck! Jen

Hello ladies! It sounds like everyone has some advice to give and I can't help but give some myself. I wrote an article awhile back that might shed a bit of light on the subject: How to Give a Blow Job Let me know what you think! Good luck. Jen

Good suggestion! The children's sheets that "lessthananangel1955" mentioned can be purchased at a variety of home goods stores. They are either complete fitted sheets that have a plastic feel and are placed under the actual sheet--which can be a problem because often they only come in a twin size--or there are large sheets of fabric that are placed under the regular sheet and keep the mattress from getting wet. Either way, clean up is easier and the mattress stays dry! Good luck. Jen

The hand on the back of the head---BIG no-no!!!!! Why do men insist on this? Don't they know that we are a set of teeth away from inflicting serious damage!?? When he goes to place his hand on your head try moving his hand to your breast or another place on your body that he can play. Keep that hand busy so he can't put it on your head. As for better blow jobs, try combining the two: blow job and hand job at the same time. How about trying a flavored lube? Sometimes that is all it takes. Good Luck Jen

Anal douching (or vaginal) is never a great idea. Anal douching can irritate and/or scrape the delicate colon lining. As for using liquids other than water? I wouldn't recommend it. If you are bound to try it anyway you want to make sure that you clean up afterwards. Leaving any foreign substance in the anus can lead to an infection. Jen

Safe sex! Good on ya! It sounds as if you would like to go the route of condoms--perfectly good idea. First, you are best off using a latex condom rather than a natural skin condom. Latex condoms are also sold with spermicide (Nonoxynol 9). If you chose to use a lubricant with your condom make sure that you are using a water-based lubrication; any other type will potentially destroy the condom's effectiveness. Second, you need to make sure that you use a condom correctly. A condom should be placed on an erect penis before skin to skin contact begins. Make sure to pinch the reserve at the tip of the condom as you roll it on the penis (this avoids air bubbles). Make sure that you leave space at the tip of the condom for the ejaculation. It is also very important that the male hold the base of the condom as he withdraws from the vagina (as the penis becomes flacid the condom becomes loose and can fall of or remain stuck in the vagina). As you know, the only fool proof/100% method to avoid pregnancy is abstinence. Good luck and have fun! Jen

I'm going to agree with Janet here--if your girlfriend isn't happy with your penis size than she needs to get her priorities straight. And if I might add--cliche as it will be--it's not the quantity that counts; it's the quality! Jen

I wish I could help you here, but unfortunately my only connection with adult movies is that I enjoy watching them! Good luck! Jen

Muffy- The visual of a vibrating penis--I need take pause here--sigh, too bad it can't happen. Anyway, glass dildos? Your friend is correct, they are a wise investment. I have one myself and although I wouldn't call it my #1 toy (I really enjoy a multi speed clit stimulator--huge fan!) I would consider it one of my favorites. Read more about glass vibes here:e-Glass massagers Enjoy! Jen

Muffy is quite right in her response and maybe I need to expand a bit on my own response. Anal sex is a completely normal sexual act--although a rarely discussed sexual act. There are so misconceptions about how anal sex is performed, the side effects and even the cleanliness factor. Yes, there are risks to anal sex, but don't forget that there are also risks with vaginal sex. In any kind of unprotected sex there is the risk of passing or receiving a sexually transmitted disease. Meaning, if you don't wear a condom you're putting you and your partner at risk. A condom not only helps with the fight against STDs but it also aids in cleanliness. The rectum works as a pathway for feces and therefore can never be 100% clean. Using a condom during anal sex can fight against any bacteria found in the rectum. You can read more about anal sex in my article: Anal Retentive And remember--LUBRICATION and plenty of it! Good luck. Jen

You all seem to be on the right track when it comes to giving head! It takes patience, it takes practice and it takes creativity. Keep up the good work. Jen

There seem to be some definite ideas and thoughts about blowjobs! Of course my first thought after reading all these was, "I'm all about women learning how to give blow jobs...but what we really need is to teach men how to perform oral sex!" All that aside... For those who can't "deep throat" or hate cum in their mouths or even get sore jaws I would like to suggest the faux blow job. There is so much more to be done when giving a blow job than simply sucking on a penis. There is licking and caressing and tickling and stroking. Sometimes I can not go all the way down on my partner so instead I really suck and lick the top 1/3 of his penis ( like I would a good lollipop) while dusting my fingers over his inner thighs (under his scrotum). GOOOOOOOD stuff! And yeah, sometimes cum in the mouth is not the way to go...but try this: have your partner straddle your chest. While he is in this position start on a blow job. Just as he is about ready to cum, take him out of your mouth and allow him to cum on your chest. It's a big fav for the guys and saves you the after taste. Last but not least, I will never forget what a guy friend said to me once, "You know, even a bad blow job isn't that bad!" Good luck, Jen

As I said to someone else recently, Safe? It's never 100% safe if you are having unprotected sex. Jen

I remember getting my first suction cup dildo. I held that thing up and turned it over and over until I figured out what you were supposed to do with it. The shower is my personal favorite simply because it sticks so well to the shower wall. You mentioned that that might not be your first choice. You can also mount it on the wall and back yourself onto the dildo--make sure aim well! The suction cup makes it very convient to stick to the floor. Sure, it can be a bit chilly mounting your floor stuck dildo, but I will admit it adds to the thrill. You may also want to mount it on the steps of a pool or the seat in a hot tub. You then can very easily seat yourself on some fun. ***While waterproof toys can be used in hot tubs, pools, and the ocean you need to keep in mind that chlorine, chemicals and salt water can wear down and destroy toys. *** Good luck. Jen

First, I am glad to hear that you are in a more healthy relationship now--you are off to a good start. I am not an expert, but I do come to the table with a lot of personal experience. Have you told your current partner about your past? I know, for myself, that keeping things from my partner about my sexual past made relaxing and enjoying sex absolutely impossible. I always felt that I walked into the bedroom with baggage he'd never want to know--which left both of us very unsatisfied. He was patient and eventually I told him everything. No kidding, the weight of the world was lifted and I wound up having my first multiple orgasm. Now this might not be what you had in mind...and I apologize if it wasn't. It just seems that sometimes clearing the head was what was needed, not a new position. good Luck Jen

I think "innocent_cutie19" is right on about this. Most women do not have mind blowing orgasms during sex. I am fully ready to admit some of my best orgasms have been manually induced by my partner. Let's face it, the tongue and finger are MUCH more manipulable than a penis-- which is dead on important when it comes to the clit. Good luck! Jen

I think John has some good advice. Variety is the spice of life. Jen

So talking isn't titillating anymore? Try a few of these suggestions: 1) Walk your partner through what you're feeling. "Can you feel my pussy getting wetter? You like that, don't you?" Build the momentum. 2) Tell you're partner what to do. "First you're going to grab me from behind and..." 3) Watch a movie together. Watch your partner's reaction. "You like when she sucks him like that? How about I try that?" Good luck Jen