Radagast97

I do realize you are talking about a sexual experience, not a three person relationship, but some of the same principles apply. There is an old joke in the poly community "Relationship in trouble, just add people". The essential source of the humor is a that relationship needs to be very stable before someone else enters it (even just for sex). Adding people, either for sex or romance, complicates things and only a stable relationship can handle it. Albeit, for adding someone romantically it's more important the relationship is stable to begin with, but the reasons are the same in for both sex and romance.

I grew up being taught the guy always pays, so it's a hard thing to get past, though I understand how you wouldn't like it. I've paid and had women pay, but it's still feels very uncomfortable not to pay. The last woman I dated and I would switch off, alternating who paid. OK, the last person I dated aside from my wife. I always pay when we're out on a date, lol. Glenn

lol, I never noticed the tag. I probably never would have with a really nice bottom in view. Some very lovely curves. Glenn

Everything said so far is very important, especially lots of lube and starting slowly. One thing may help if you are familiar with a g-spot type orgasm. Some women can, with the proper angle, stimulate their g-spot anally, with a toy or partner. I am not female, so this is all from listening to partners and reading. YMMV

Avalon has it correctly on all counts. Poly is about being open to or the practice of multiple relationships. It's strongly implied that all one's SO's have that option too. I've been in a full triad (MFM) and am married. My wife isn't poly. I wish she were. I've hoped she would find someone that interests her, but she has no interest. When we first were married (and before) we had an open relationship. It was she who decided she had no desire in pursuing other relationships. Poly, in my opinion, is more about who one is with respect to the nature of one's desired relationships, much the same as being gay is who one is sexually attracted to. One doesn't cease being gay when not having sex with another person who's gay. Just because I'm not currently in a relationship other than my wife, or that my wife isn't poly, doesn't change who I am or how my desired relationships are. Avalon, The poly mantra is always communicate, communicate, communicate. Open and honest communication is the only way to keep things stable. It doesn't guarantee they will, but it will ensure you have the best chance of the relationship doing well. Hey Big, Nice to see friends here. Laundry Goddess, Hey love, hope you guys are doing well. Missed you last time. *Hugs* Glenn

Short of washing them with clorox between uses (and yes, I am joking) no lube will break down lambskin. It's a form of leather (basically a protein network) so isn't soluble in anything that doesn't attack proteins. Any lube attacking protiens would be rather hard on our nether regions so they tend to stick to safer substances to lubricate intimate interaction. Glenn

Yeah, but my bra is pink, lol. Glenn

I would definitely avoid getting entangling sexual and family relationships. If something goes wrong, you endanger a familial relationship. I made the mistake of falling in love with two people from my dojo - hardly family, but when I broke up with them it made things very awkward at the dojo. That was over two years ago and things are still very stilted between the three of us. Personally, I suspect that for most people the fantasy of threesomes are much more a draw than the reality. While my lovers and I usually made love as a threesome, what really made it special for me was that they were people I loved. Even when I was exhausted and just laying there, it was very heartwarming seeing two people you love share themselves with each other. SexualPeak, Hi, I met you the other day at the meetup. My wife was sitting right next to you; I was on the other side of her. She's registered as Shirlee53, on here. I suspect she'll lurk for a while before posting. Glenn

From a chemist's point of view, water, silicone, and oil based materials don't like to mix with each other, but readily mix (sometimes dissolve) materials of the same type - oil based lubes break down rubber condoms, silicone lubes break down silicone dildos, etc. Always making certain your lube is of a different type than the condom or toy should prevent problems. Glenn ps Rubber and most plastics are easily damaged by oils/petroleum jelly. Most silicones will be damaged by silicone lubricants. Many so called silicone toys aren't silicone - check on a small area of a toy before starting to play with lubricants in earnest.

I'm a married, poly guy who has some friends who are already on here. It sounded like a nice place. Glenn