Free, am I correct in Thinking you have new baby in the house, or you wife is nearing the end of the pregnancy? In either case I will say either are a libido killer. If this is new during pregnancy and new baby you must be understanding. You also need to talk as you have been and come to some compromise that works for both of you. If she has always had a timid demeanor she may just have that whole good girl thing going on. I too, when younger, was very timid. I enjoyed sex, but was much to intimidated to and yes sexually insecure to talk about sex, or full express myself in that manor. It didn't matter how successful I was or how confident I was outside the bedroom, once those doors were closed and we were intimate i was very TIMID. It took me many, many years to come around. S-L-O-W-E-L-Y V-E-R-Y- S-L-O-W-E-L-Y I came around. May I suggest you try to introduce something and give her time to get use to the idea, then try to put it in play. If first you don't succeed give it a bit of time then try, try again. This will be a long process one that will have rich rewards for a life time. And Free, sexuality is a life long learning process, that never end. Have fun!