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You hit the nail on the head. Even though Miss Peak got me all perky last night and I mentioned BJ's then and a time or two today, I try not to bring it up very often at all with my wife. I know that for some reason it is hard for her and that it is not me. I think it is a combination of A and B above. Plus none of her friends in this fing PRUDE community that we live in do it either, so I am most definately the freak here. But I kid you not, I am a freak on a mission j

Have you asked him? Just teasing, I am glad you two are on the same page. j

This is a side question here. For me, a blowjob is only a real blowjob if it is finished with the penis in the mouth. Swallowing is irrelavant. According to this definition, I have never had a blowjob either. It has caused friction and my wife did once say that I can go and pay for it. Now, I have never heard her (what did you say ) retract that offer. I have patience and things are getting closer all the time, she actually gets into cock sucking at times. Having said that, there will come a time when I will go and get it somewhere else. And I won't have to pay for it either. And I will have not the least bit of remorse. As a matter of fact, if things ever get to that point, I believe it could become habit forming. j

no kidding...big sister is watching!

I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you. We are all evolving and where we are today is most likely not where we will be 5 or 10 years from now. In the sense that "there is something wrong with you" there is something wrong with all of us, meaning we are working through some things. I condsider it a sign of intelligent existence. Most likely he is. Bottom line is we can't control other people's thoughts so it is best that we don't even try. I have adopted this mentality and it does wonders in lifting a heavy unnecesary load off of my shoulders. This is a control thing. As hard as it is, things get much easier and less stressful when we stop trying to control. Unfortunatly, he can't control how you feel, only you can. You are not "the next best thing", you are the best thing for him and he chose you and he is sleeping with you. It helps to look and what we have not dwell on what we don't have. I'm sure he took his vows seriously as well, and he may well have guilt problems about looking at porn. The biblical verse about lust goes hand in hand with coveting. There is a difference between admiration and coveting. . Praise the Lord, I garauntee you that your man appreciates that more than he can put in words. When my wife makes gestures such as you described, it makes me feel like a million bucks. It gives me hope. It lets me know that she cares about my primal carnal desires and is making an effort to fulfill them within our marriage. Men are so easy to please. All a gal really has to know is "balls empty...stomach full, in that order" This is real life, just a little different. I also have the "perfect marraige". You see, I am looking down the line, call it creative imagination if you will. I "see" where I want for us to end up and do what I think needs to be done to create what will be. I do not worry about how long it will take and I certainly enjoy the ride. I spend more time thinking about how I can make things better than how others can make things better. Again, I can only control myself (and quite poorly at that!) I understand your thing about flowers and coffee and such. In my circle of friends husbands and wives kiss on the cheek and hug as a form of greeting. For me this is always sexual. I have too really tell myself that my friends wives actually like me and want to greet me with a kiss on the cheek and a hug and I do not have to feel that they want to screw me, just that they are happy to see me. I bet you that our raisin' was pretty simaler. Unfortunately, our (my) conservative upbrining has a lot of heavy baggage that comes with it, especially when it comes to sex. Next to sending his son for us, SEX IS THE BEST GIFT GOD HAS GIVEN THE HUMAN RACE, it is the best entertainment, the best stress reliever, it is free, it is for the young and the old, the rich and the poor, it is meant to be perfect and it is for us all. As believers, over the centuries we have done a really great job of complicating it and loading it up with guilt. Please think about the difference between lust and admiration. If you can, worry about your "wrong and right" and let your husband worry about his "wrong and right". And then ask for patience and understanding. Forget divorce, don't even go there. Getting a divorce over this is like getting a divorce because he sprinkles when he prinkles. Remeber, any swinging dick you drag through your door is likely to look at porn, and most likely do a whole host of other things that I am sure you hubby does not. jhard

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Miss P, Your picture gets me all warm and thick. Very seductive. j

You may be better off leasing! j

You just foundyourself a hard man! You are added to my friends list for sure. If I don't get a mind blowing blowjob by the next time I come stateside I WILL look you up and drop in! FYI, I have compared and I am noticably larger than the Pearl Butterfly that I bought on TT! Oh shit, now you got me blushing.... jhard

Hi BoBo, Congratulations on bringing this up. It can be hard to post publicly what is bothering us and I think the process is helpful. First off, DONT FEEL BAD because of your man's "roaming eyes". Probably easier said than done I'm sure, but I highly doubt it has anything to do with you. I know lots of guys, by your criterea they ALL have roaming eyes. My friends and I are all decent husbands, decent fathers and we all like to look at beautiful naked woman. For woman, I suppose "feeling good" is important, for guys "seeing" is important. The fact that he looks at naked woman has absolutely nothing to do with how much he loves you. I can only speak from my experience, but when we got married our pastor said something about not trying to change our partners but rather to be accepting and willing to grow ourselves. My wife has never given me shit EVER about my looking at porn, or getting piss drunk or a whole host of other things that have made up my 'bad' side. Wholla...surprise...we have been married for 10 years and all of sudden I don't look at porn and am only rarely drunk. I loved her the same the whole time. It's a guy thing. The only advice I can give, and bear in mind that it is coming from a guy, is screw him for all your worth and trust him with the rest. jhard

I talked with her about this today, and mentioned that I had posted on it, she said "did you tell those people how damn horny you are!" Well, I was overly horny until very recently, put another way...I had a hard on from sometime in 1984 until earlier this year When I talked to my friends about this they tended to agree that I was expecting to much. Well, I have calmed down a bit recently, and frequency is not a problem at all (still very close to daily), I just want her to loosen up and let me please her. I actually do think that things are getting better. Thanks

Thanks 969, your statement actually gives me a lot of hope. I will pass it on to my DW. Life just would not be the same without a challenge here and there. jhard

Thanks, It is definately not pre menopausal, since it has been this way since she was a teenager. I will have to push the blood work that you mention. Is it possible that some gyno's are just not "clued into" womans libido issues? j

Hey Miss Bean, The glass is 1/8 full.....as opposed to 7/8 empty It's not quite that bad but you get my drift. My wife has essentially all good qualities but this sex thing is one thing I would really like to change. I try not to dwell on it to the point where I get overwhelmed, which has not happened since I made that first post a while back. I find the best "progress" is made when I don't bring it up every other hour or so. If I am not careful about how I bring it up she feels like "the problem". She already said "I'm not like those computer woman", referring to the ladies here who are enjoying O after O followed by G spot O smiling with cum in thier mouth. So basically, I am trying to get from here to there, fully realizing that I probably have about the best spouse a fellow could ask for, just not perfect....yet. I live in a place where there are no counsilours, otherwise I would go for some advice. I want to get the medical stuff out of the way first... I have thought about us travelling to see a Tantra Massage type gal...does anyone think that could help? j

Just to clarify, since you posted in the masterbation section...do you want him to masterbate in front of you?

Jack decides to go skiing with his buddy, Bob. So they load up Jack's minivan and head north. After driving for a few hours, they get caught in a terrible blizzard. So they pull into a nearby farm and ask the attractive lady who answers the door if they could spend the night. "I realize it's terrible weather out there and I have this huge house all to myself, but I'm recently widowed," she explains. "I'm afraid the neighbors will talk if I let you stay in my house." "Don't worry," Jack says. "We'll be happy to sleep in the barn. And if the weather breaks, we'll be gone at first light." The lady agrees, and the two men find their way to the barn and settle in for the night. Come morning, the weather has cleared, and they get on their way They enjoy a great weekend of skiing. But about nine months later, Jack gets an unexpected letter from an attorney. It takes him a few minutes to figure it out, but he finally determines that it is from the attorney of that attractive widow he had met on the ski weekend. He drops in on his friend Bob and asks, "Bob, do you remember that good-looking widow from the farm we stayed at on our ski holiday up north about 9 months ago?" "Yes, I do," says Bob. "Did you, er, happen to get up in the middle of the night, go up to the house and pay her a visit?" "Well, um, yes!," Bob says, a little embarrassed about being found out, "I have to admit that I did." "And did you happen to give her my name instead of telling her your name?" Bob's face turns beet red and he says, "Yeah, look, I'm sorry, buddy. I'm afraid I did. Why do you ask?" "She just died and left me everything

A young woman in New York was so depressed that she decided to end her life by throwing herself into the East River. She went down to the docks and was about to leap into the frigid water when a handsome young sailor saw her on the edge of the pier, crying. He took pity on her and said, 'Look, you have so much to live for. I'm Off to Hawaii in the morning, and if you like, I can stow you away on my ship. I'll take good care of you and bring you food every day.' Moving closer, he slipped his arm around her shoulder and added, 'I'll keep you happy, and you'll keep me happy.' The girl nodded yes. After all, what did she have to lose? Perhaps a Fresh start in Hawaii would give her life new meaning. That night, the sailor brought her aboard and hid her in a lifeboat. From then on, every night he brought her three sandwiches and a piece of fruit, and they made passionate love until dawn. Three weeks later, during a routine inspection, she was discovered by the Captain. 'What are you doing here?' the Captain asked. 'I have an arrangement with one of the sailors,' she explained. 'I get food and a trip to Hawaii , and he's scr*wing me.' 'He certainly is,' the Captain said. 'This is the Staten Island Ferry.'

It has long been contended that there are male jokes and there are female jokes, and there are unisex jokes. Here is a joke I consider a true female joke. I offer it to you in the hopes that women will love it and men will pass it along to a woman who will love it. A woman was sitting at a bar enjoying an after work cocktail with her girlfriends when an exceptionally tall, handsome, extremely sexy, middle-aged man entered. He was so striking that the woman could not take her eyes off him. The young-at-heart man noticed her overly attentive stare and walked directly toward her. (As all men will) Before she could offer her apologies for staring so rudely, he leaned over and whispered to her, 'I'll do anything, absolutely anything, that you want me to do, no matter how kinky, for $20.00......on one condition.' Flabbergasted, the woman asked what the condition was. The man replied, 'You have to tell me what you want me to do in just three words.' The woman considered his proposition for a moment, and then slowly removed a $20 bill from her purse, which she pressed into the man's hand along with her address. She looked deeply into his eyes, and slowly and meaningfully said.... 'Clean my house.' Women are not stupid.

Several months ago I posted a bunch about how I would like my wife to get more "into" sex, like enjoying oral sex among other things. She has never liked me going down on her, at least not that I could tell. For the life of me I can't figure out why, and I read Mikayla's article on it. I really do not think that my technique is the problem but I am willing to try it on someone if they will provide a critique Anyway, I was going at it when she starting these side to side movements and then she pushed my head away. Never say die so I kind of stayed around for a while and worked my way back to where she now had her little vibe, I figured maybe she could begin to enjoy my tongue together with the vibe. When I wanted to kiss her afterwards she said no way...Then I asked her about the oral and her response was "I don't think it was bad" Can any of you woman here understand this? I am at a loss to understand and I think I will have to take up lawn bowling or find a girlfriend or something jhard

I don't like to promise more than I can deliver, but I promise not to have my finger in front of the lens....

There's a girl I still remember who's name I can't recall I gave her what I had but then she tried to take it all I stayed long enough to love her then left her on the run like a flower left to wither in the hot west texas sun eh...

For those that roam and ride along in my wild constellation, we are always close in spirit, even when we are anotomically seperated. I grew up just north of you. I always knew that there was something hot going on down there in MN! j

I feel compelled to offer my services as chaparon for your future drinking engagements j

She has had an irregular period her whole life, and definately for our 10 year + marriage. If I had not been such an eager beaver we probably would not have kids. She is 39 years young now, she actually is more attrative in my eyes now than ever. She is not pregnant since she had that all tied up while the last kid was pulled out (C section). For the last while, her period has been coming every 6 weeks or so, but until recently always more like 3 months. jhard

Hi All, I am hoping to find someone with experience on the following. My wife has always had a very irregular period, often going up to 3 months without her period. I/we are assuming that this has something to do with a hormonal imbalance. Also, in our (my) effort to improve her Libido, I am thinking that the very irregular period could be related to her relatively low libido. Does anyone here know anything about this? Thanks, jhard ps It is a several months wait to see her gyno, and we are not all sure that he has experience with this. We have asked previously about low female libido and the just said it was normal with young children.