Beunolas

As everyone else has said, ridiculous. Making him do the dirty work then firing him...like insult to injury.

Heh, sorry I didn't post age. I'm a 19 year old sophomore. This was just really my first everything girl (Kiss, girlfriend, sex, the whole shebang) and I hear those are always hard to give up.

So basically, as it went down...I was supposed to see my ex monday. I hung out with another girl, who reminded me of all the things I like in girls. I decided to see her instead of my ex. My ex got upset at this (even though she had canceled on me three times in the last three days to see her boyfriend? hm...). So, she made me feel bad about it. After that convo, a cog finally slotted into place in my head "She doesn't deserve me." And she doesn't. She's not all that great. She's using me while not giving me what I want. She turns me into this horrible jealous and controlling person that I never am with anyone else. I hate feeling like that. She doesn't deserve to have what I have to offer, at least not who she is right now. And Tyger, your advice is right on the mark. I'm just going to date around, see if I can find someone who really makes me happy. Thank you very much for the advice, I appreciate it a lot.

Long post in morning. Short version, Tyger, you're right. I need to move on, and I think I'm ready to do that :-D. Permanently, this time.

Suzy, I'm a college guy and I'll stare at a picture of you if you want ;-P

The short version: Realized I still love girl that broke up with me in april. She's with a guy who's trying to cheat on her with another of my exes. He met both of them on facebook. The ex he's trying to get with knows he's a creeper, but the girl I want to be with has no idea what's going on. Do I tell her he's trying to cheat on her? Long version: I broke up with the summer fling girl mutually. No sticky situation, no backlash. We're now at point one, again. So, here's what I've done so far. Decided to be friends with my ex Went out with ex Ex asked how I felt about her still I told ex how I felt about her. She thinks we ought to be friends, see how that goes. Go out with ex again. Cuddle with ex. She say's it's different cuddling with me, and that she doesn't get touched enough or enough feeling out of the other guy. She says to not read into it. She blames this on the fact that she'd been off her prozac for 4 days. Meet with ex that night again. She asks if I'm jealous of her boyfriend. I say of course. Meet with ex today for coffee. Decide to start asking how she feels about me. She says she just thinks of me as a friend right now. She says she missed the fact that I'm always there for her, that I always want to be with her, that she never felt lonely with me. But she's still with the asshole. I tell her I'm going to talk to him, because he's being a creeper to my other ex. She says to not get too much hope over us getting back together. I ask what reason is there for us to not. She has no answer to that, only that she just doesn't feel like it right now. What the hell do I do? I'm very confused. I really would like to be back with her, because, as I said, I love her very much. I just don't get it. I've decided I do need to talk to her boyfriend and tell him to leave my other ex alone. I'm thinking of telling the girl I want to get with again what he's doing. Should I? Is this tactful? Thank you everyone for looking.

Haha, good job Kat :-) and another arizona person! Yay!

/clap Fantastic. Something like this is what I was waiting for my entire last relationship and never got. Your husband is truly lucky.

Bunny, please leave his ass. He doesn't deserve a girl like you. He deserves a kick in the face, the balls, and then the throat for good measure. Doesn't care about pleasing you? Threatening to kill you? He's a controller...and he doesn't give a damn. He said so. Get away, get a restraining order, and try to get over it, please. He doesn't deserve you.

I'll post a pic of me doing it at my girlfriend. I'll make sure it's sexy ;-P

I could be considered one of the jerks. I've been called half pick up artist, and half bleeding heart romantic. Hell...a lot of it is just finding yourself. I find that 90% of dating is internal. It actually is a lot about how you act and how the girl percieves you're acting, not how she's acting. If you're happy with yourself, and enjoying yourself, it should be a fun date. My mentality, is to just do what you feel you should do. If a girl seems like you want to approach her, hell, if you even want to approach a girl, just do it. Also Vanilla bean, I totally do the finger guns thing, but only out of habit and as a joke ;-P

Well hell...it's all just part of your own bodies. All natural, right ;-P?

So, couple interesting developments. She was stuck on top of a mountain last monday. Crying her head off. She called me and begged me to come get her down. So, I went, and caught her from a 30 foot drop. Go me. She called me her knight in shining armor, and told me she owed me dinner. Yeah. 4 days later I officially started dating my new girlfriend :-D. And I'm very satisfied. It's pretty awesome to have a "normal" relationship with a healthy, sexual young woman. No more repressed feelings, no more concern about dates...and she's actually able to talk to me! woo hoo! So, recap. She used me. Again, for her own purposes and needs. Doesn't call me for 2 months, and uses me out of the blue. Don't let it stop my life from going on.

>.> First and only time so far that I fell in love was last year, with my now ex. My first fling was over the internet, when I was 14. Not much of a fling. This was my first real relationship...meh. It's hard.

For me, I'm still young, 19 or so. I don't know, for me the physical attraction has to be there, and she's gotta be the right type of personality or else it isn't going to work. Luckily I meet enough girls to be picky ;-P. Unfortunately, I'm not meeting enough of my type...I want to find a girl that'll boink me but not be a freaking slut... GUH. WHY DID COLLEGE LET OUT?! T_T