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Well, I'm going to have to disagree with charmain here. My 20 year old son is 1/2 black. We live in a town of about 40k in Okla. While my parents divorced over me marrying a black man and having a black child-out of wedlock BTW, my son has not paid the price. He is starting his Sophomore year of college and is very popular on campus. While in high school, he was voted home coming King by his peers. He was the most popular boy in school and keep in mind that in his graduating class of about 400, there were only 10 black kids. So how exactly has he paid the price of my "mistake"? While my relationship with his father didn't work out, it nothing to do with the black/white issues. I am now married to a wonderful man who thinks nothing of my son's black heritage. We have a beautiful daughter that we could care less what color her boyfriend is as long as he treats her well and makes her happy. I am not nieve enough to think that the world is a perfect place and that there are many people who don't approve of interracial relationships, but please don't try to blame your disapproval of interracial relationships on how our wonderful beautiful biracial children will be treated.

I love to be lightly choked. OMG it's GREAT! I also like to have my hair pulled when he is taking me from behind. He will just slowly slide his hand up my back and into the top of the back of my head and pull with steady pressure-no jerking. So one hand is pulling my head back by my hair while his other hand is gripping my hip. FANTASTIC orgasms when he does this!

Me too!! JESUS! I get scared just thinking about it.

Okay. I ordered the DVD Erotic Strip Dance because I wanted to surprise my husband when he gets home for R/R. He has always wanted me to strip for him and before now I have never even considered doing it (self image issues). It really wasn't what I expected. I was hoping to learn the moves and then a "routine" would already be put together and I could learn it. I mean hell I was a competitive cheerleader all through high school and college-I know about learning routines. What I don't know is how to put one together on my own. SHIT!!! So here I sit on the couch in the middle of the night in gym shorts-not the sexy cute kind either-they are my husband's, a huge t-shirt, and freaking high heels!!! I CAN say this-I have the sexy walk down pat. Do you suppose I could just sexy walk in my heels to our bedroom? LMAO, I feel like the biggest IDIOT in the world. Well I have roughly one month to pull this together, Dear God! Sorry to rant over something that if it wasn't so damn funny I would cry over. I CAN do this, that's my new mantra. Oh and did I mention that my Dad and step mother are at my house staying with me for 14 fucking days??? They are staying in my bedroom, in which I had to go on a mission to find and hide all of the toys (nothing says welcome Dad quite like a fake vibrating johnson in the bedside drawer) so I am staying in my 7 yo daughters room. When in the hell am I suppoed to practice all of these moves??? SHIT SHIT SHIT!

Hi Sunni. I'm new here also-DEFINITELY fun place to hang out. Welcome!

I haven't been insatiable in the past, but I have a feeling all that is going to change when DH gets home!

I have to say that I never knew how hot talking dirty would get me or my husband until he deployed and all we CAN do is talk. Thank God for Yahoo instant messaging and Skype!!! I used to be unable to use words like pussy and cock and would often say vajayjay and dick. OMG! I started using the words pussy and cock in the right context and it drives him wild!!! I tell him what I wish he was doing to me AND what I want him to do when he gets home. I think now I'm more comfortable with it and will use it often when he gets home. If you and your husband have access to computers, why don't you try IM'ing dirty talk with each other first to get you used to the idea. It will drive your hubby wild.

Definitely need a category for those who haven't tried anal yet. I haven't tried it yet but as soon as DH gets here for R/R we're gonna give it a whirl. I enjoy it when he uses his finger so I THINK I will like it-hope so anyway! I absolutely LOVE giving/receiving oral sex. I give great head and I swallow. DH is in heaven. DH is also a MASTER at this, and we are both very lucky folks in that respect. Okay, here is where I have my own issues, porn. I can watch porn IF it has a story line. As for the type of porn where people are basically trying to fill every orifice at once with the classic "porn music" banging away in the background, not so much. I also struggle with feelings of guilt for watching. I mean to me the girl is SOMEBODY'S daughter and sometimes I can't get past THAT. I know I sound like a prude, but I am working on it. SOMETIMES I get so involved in the damn story, I get irritated that DH won't let me finish watching. I feel silly for saying uh, could you hold that thought? I'm trying to watch the show. I know I have MAJOR issues where porn is concerned.

Glad you liked the comment-seemed appropriate!! Well I've told him the plan about starting without him which opened up a whole NEW IM conversation, glad they don't censor THAT over there . We talked on IM for a good 3 hours last night, and suffice it to say I had to go "touch myself" afterwards LMAO!! I'll have to tell him about that tonight which I'm sure will lead to another session afterwards for me.

VERY TRUE! TPBM is thinking that Saturdays are better than Frudays.

Thanks for the advice! I think I'm gonna start without him and tell him ALL about it. Who knows, Skype is a great thing and web cams are wonderful!!! As far as him being on the recieving end, been there done that-he LOVES it. I have other ideas about going down THAT avenue with him and he's pretty excited about that too! WOOHOO. I think manofher dreams was spot on. Thinking about what I'm doing and possibly watching me do it via webcam will send him completely over the edge I think.

Hey there Coco. You ARE beautiful, but I get where you are coming from. I am not completely comfortable in my body either. After 3 c-sections-who would be? A little back ground. When my DH deployed in October of '07, I was 185 pounds. I'm 5'4. He thought I was sexy even then and told me often how sexy he found my body. Like you I didn't believe him either. I started weight watchers online (mostly because I really don't give a fat fart how much weight everyone else loses so I didn't want to go to the weekly meetings PLUS it's cheaper online and you have access to a forum, recipes, weight tracking, a food journal, etc) and I am now down to 153 pounds. My goal weight is 145. I have one of those bodies that just looks sick if I go too much below that because I have a very athletic build, except with big boobs, LOL. It never mattered to me that my husband thought I was sexy, because I didn't see myself that way. I had to change my eating habits and stop playing the demeaning "you are a fatass" loop in my mind. Now I feel really good about myself. I can't wait to strut my stuff when he gets home. I'm telling you this because being a "single" parent and an online person, I think that you would do great on WW online if that is what you are interested in. It is also a good program for someone like yourself with diabetes. I won't even go into that with you because you know yourself how important healthy eating is to your health. You have a DH who obviously adores you and kids that need you. I know how hard it is for you to feel good about your body, believe me I do. In addition to all of the other things that everyone has told you, I found that for me it was much easier to be naked in candle light than regular light. When DH gets home light candles in every room and walk around naked to your heart's content. The candle light gives great ambience and the fragrance is great too. I thin k candle light makes EVERYONE look sexy. Enjoy your R/R, I know we gonna enjoy ours!!!

We are in the same boat except I am the guilty party. I got too comfortable with the way that things are. My sex drive is much lower than my DH's. I never even realized how unhappy he is until he plainly stated that he is not getting what he needs from me. In the past we had an AWESOME sex life so I guess, I just let "life" get in the way. At 1st I was really hurt and felt that he was saying that he was not satisfied by me. This was not the case, I am all he wants, he just wants it more and he wants the "old" me back. The one who would try anything, anywhere, anytime. It was too easy for me to have sex every Saturday night, the same stuff all of the time, no diversity. After he spelled it out like that-I got busy trying to find ways to spice things up. I've ordered some new toys and have told him that oopen to try new things with him so we will see where that road leads when he gets home. One thing that I KNOW he is going to love that I decided to try is doing a strip tease for him. Since our 1st child was born (we have 2 between us), I've put on a few pounds and became very uncomfortable with my body. I never really wanted him to see it, much less strut around naked in front of him. He knows how uncomfortable I am with my body so he will be so surprised when he gets home to see that I've lost 34 pounds and am doing a STRIPTEASE for him. Maybe he doesn't know that he's not providing you with what you need, or maybe he's dealing with his own issues. The point is that you need to plainly lay it all out for him in a way that he understands.

My husband, the last time we were together. What I want him to do to me the next time we're together and how good it feels to have him lying beside me.

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but I'm going to give it a try. This month marks our 9th anniversary and DH has always wanted to try this, but I have never been in favor of doing it. I don't consider myself a sexual prude and I've always been one to try anything. I guess with age and the day to day stuff with marriage and kids has gotten me into a rut. When your DH is gone for months on end one of 2 things will happen. The experiance will either draw you closer together and you will talk about things that you never would have before, or it will fall completely apart. I have been surprised at the number of marriages that have failed in my husbands unit during this deployment, so we are indeed very blessed as it has drawn us closer together. My DH told me during one our conversations that he feels like our sex life needs to be spiced up that he gets tired of the same old same old all the time. After I got over being hurt, we started discussing the things that he would like for us to try. Anal sex was at the top of the list-no surprise there, so I started reading up on it and that's how I ended up here. Now, for my questions. I have ordered the Juli Ashton anal beginners kit and some Astroglide X. My plan is to start small as suggested and work my way up from there. I enjoy it when he uses his finger during foreplay so I figure I can do this! Should I start using the smaller ones now before he gets here so I will know what to expect and possibly not be so nervous or wait on him to get here and do it together? We've discussed this and we both agree that we are going to go very slow and not "jump in dick first" to quote someone from this forum. He has agreed that he will not push me and we will only advance to the next level when I am comfortable. I am very excited by exploring this if for no other reason than to get my, "I will try anything, anytime, anywhere" rep back. I hate that he may think that I've turned into an old prude!! I also kind of HAVE to be able to do this, I made a stupid deal with him back in February, kind of let my mouth write a check that my ass can't cash!! We make deals like that all of the time when I want to buy something outrageously expensive. So any input that you all have would be GREATLY appreciated.

Not to add to the "big head" syndrome, but I have to say that one of Mykala's articles is how I found this site. She writes things in a down to earth sort of way and answers the questions everyone is afraid to ask! If I was more like Mikayla, my husband would think he had died and gone to heaven. LOL. I am however working on getting there. I think that you are both very lucky to have each other.

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Wow! Thanks for the warm welcome. I'll try respond to everyone at once so it could be a little long. I'll be sure to pass along everyone's words of gratitude, although none are needed. He is truly a duty, honor, and country kind of man-one of the MANY things that I love about him. He has the most integrity of any man I've ever met and I'm so thankful that we belong to each other. Thank you Randy for your kind words, the sacrifices that I make and the upbeat attitude that I have is only possible because I am loved. I could never do this without the love of my husband. I am so proud of what he is doing. It's not easy and the nights have been long-Thank God for Skype and wbecams. Coco Luver and Hot4hubby, enjoy your R/R!!! Ours cannot get here fast enough. I swear if I get pregnant, I'll slit my wrists I'll pray that you don't if you pray that I don't. I have DEFINITELY found some new tricks, can't wait to entice the husband. Not to mention that I've lost 34 pounds since he's been gone and cutt off all of my hair for a sexy new do. I feel so sexy and confident now it's gonna blow his mind. Hope he recognizes me, or if not I guess I can work that into some kind of freaky role playing huh?? We are not from Lawton. We live in the NE part of the state about an hour and fifteen from Tulsa. My husband is Nat'l Guard so we don't live on post which actually has it's pro's and con's during a deployment. As far as him getting kicked off the internet, where he is there's no pork, no porn, and no alcohol! Gawd, I'm sure he feels like he's died and gone to hell since those are 3 of his top 5 favorites. ANYWAY he doesn't seem to be able to access any of the "sex shoppe" sites so when I find a good article or toy, I just copy and paste it into an email and send it to him. I look forward to some great discussions with everyone. I'm a bit shy so it may take a bit for me to jump in, but rest assured that I will eventually.

Hi ya'll. I'm from OK and I just found this site last night after a long discussion via web cam with my DH who is currently deployed in Iraq. Had some questions about some things we've talked about trying when he comes home for R/R next month. (woooohooooooo) We haven't seen each other since October last year and I'm sure it will be a memorable 10 days!! We have 3 kids, aged 7,10, and 20 so there is never a dull moment around here. I've enjoyed reading the posts and have already learned a lot. Mykala's article's are GREAT. I've already copied and pasted one to send him since this site is banned for him over there. He tried to check it out and got kicked off the internet for an hour, LOL!! Anyway, happy to be here and look forward to "meeting" you folks and picking your brains!!